the thing i suddenly think of...

  • johnny9027

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    May 03, 2010 12:15 AM GMT
    So, many straight couples r like dating or hanging out first, then after a long period they start to think about relationship and have sex or so.
    Unlike straight couples, many gay couples are always friends in benifit first(or hook-up buddy), then they start to become friends and find something in common, then they decide to be with each other.
    That's two exact different lanes of getting into a relationship, and I started to think of if i'm taking hooking -up tooo seriously that makes me always single? icon_eek.gif
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  • Thegenuineart...

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    May 03, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    I agree, I find it weird how so many gay guys can just cruise the bar and bang random ass dudes, its almost creepy, I couldn't have sex with someone that i barley know....unless they were fucking really hot
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    May 03, 2010 1:07 AM GMT
    I'm actually on one level pleased that gay relationships don't always conform to the Victorian mores that require courtship and commitment before sex.
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    May 03, 2010 3:19 AM GMT
    BigOshawa saidI agree, I find it weird how so many gay guys can just cruise the bar and bang random ass dudes, its almost creepy, I couldn't have sex with someone that i barley know....unless they were fucking really hot


    see im the same way, id find it awkward to have sex with someone i dont know.
    not even if they were smoking hot.

    well maybe.. haha.
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    May 03, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    Drama free sex is awesome....the problem arises when the other person starts feeling stuff and you're like "ummmm....where's the nearest window I can jump out of??" Of course you have to be sensible about it but when friends with benefits works, it really works well..for me at least. And when it doesn't then i'm left confused. Go with the flow and do whatever seems natural...the problem arises when you start to force things into fitting a particular mold you have set up in your head.
  • Hunter9

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    May 03, 2010 6:45 AM GMT
    johnny9027 saidSo, many straight couples r like dating or hanging out first, then after a long period they start to think about relationship and have sex or so.
    Unlike straight couples, many gay couples are always friends in benifit first(or hook-up buddy), then they start to become friends and find something in common, then they decide to be with each other.
    That's two exact different lanes of getting into a relationship, and I started to think of if i'm taking hooking -up tooo seriously that makes me always single? icon_eek.gif
    share ur opinions about it! icon_biggrin.gif


    i live in a place with lots of gay people and this is definitely not how i observe most gay relationships to go around.

    what kind of people/places are you hanging around that this is the typical gay relationship experience that you observe???
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    May 03, 2010 6:52 AM GMT
    BigOshawa saidI agree, I find it weird how so many gay guys can just cruise the bar and bang random ass dudes, its almost creepy, I couldn't have sex with someone that i barley know....unless they were fucking really hot


    Then yes you would have sex with random strange people, and yea it's creepy like what you said icon_razz.gif

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    it actually depends, some guys see hook up as something that might leads to a bigger thing like a relation and other guys see doing hook up is something that turns them off. I see hook up as something I would never do, I wanna get to know the guy first and then go out with him and get to know him even more and that's for me makes having sex with that guy even more hotter than one night sex.

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    May 03, 2010 7:03 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidI'm actually on one level pleased that gay relationships don't always conform to the Victorian mores that require courtship and commitment before sex.

    Yes, we should have sex first... a "test drive" if you will, before I commit to regular awesomely hot romps with the one person!
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    May 03, 2010 7:32 AM GMT
    BigOshawa saidI agree, I find it weird how so many gay guys can just cruise the bar and bang random ass dudes, its almost creepy, I couldn't have sex with someone that i barley know....unless they were fucking really hot
    That's the advantage of living near South Beach. icon_lol.gif
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    May 03, 2010 8:23 AM GMT
    I've heard that - according to some new research - relationships based on good sex last longer than those based on friendship. Go figure.
  • johnny9027

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    May 03, 2010 10:13 AM GMT
    ppl i love don't wanna have sex with me, and i don't wanna have sex with wrong ppl....*fail*
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    May 03, 2010 10:15 AM GMT
    sublstyley said
    BigOshawa saidI agree, I find it weird how so many gay guys can just cruise the bar and bang random ass dudes, its almost creepy, I couldn't have sex with someone that i barley know....unless they were fucking really hot


    see im the same way, id find it awkward to have sex with someone i dont know.
    not even if they were smoking hot.

    well maybe.. haha.


    I have NEVER seen any smoking hot ppl who is interested in me in my entire fucking life!!!
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    May 03, 2010 1:53 PM GMT
    When you think about it, with gay guys you're dealing with two horny guys. ANY guy would jump at the chance to have sex with no hangups (most of the time) or paying for drinks, dinner, cab fare and faking nicety or being bored senseless by their dates' friends. It's a guy's mentality, you know why you're there and you know how to get what you want in three steps or less so you get the job done!
    If women had no qualms about screwing around, they wouldn't have anything to talk about with their girlfriends icon_rolleyes.gif and they'd be a lot less straight guys looking for a quick blow job (a mouth's a mouth, right?) icon_cry.gif
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    May 03, 2010 2:03 PM GMT
    BigOshawa saidI agree, I find it weird how so many gay guys can just cruise the bar and bang random ass dudes, its almost creepy, I couldn't have sex with someone that i barley know....unless they were fucking really hot



    So bottom line is they are creepy because they aren't really fucking hot. While there are ugly people who are creepy, believe me there are also creepy hot people. You think that it's only creepy if it's somebody you don't find attractive... that makes me laugh!

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    May 03, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    It's been a long time, but from what I can remember, "fuck buddies" and regular shags stood nil chance of becoming long-term material. When I know what I want, I go straight for it and I get it. Nuff said.