To see my ex again?

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    May 03, 2010 12:21 AM GMT
    Hey guys, I've been broken up with my ex now since September of last year. We were together for 16 months, my longest relationship to date and my first love (first breakup too). We had a really tough breakup and have not seen each other since December. With school wrapping up this week, I am entertaining the idea of seeing him sometime soon to clear the air a bit. Is this a good idea?

    I currently have a new boyfriend (3 months now) who is really wonderful and in many ways so much a better match for me than my ex but I still constantly think about my ex and what could have been.

    To make matters worse I live in the same apartment complex in different buildings. across a parking lot and I can see his room from mine. (lease is up in August)

    I want to see my ex again and just take the edge off things. What do you think? Good idea or bad? What's a good way about doing this it at all worth it?
  • mtneerman

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    May 03, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    why does the air need cleared? i don't think you are being honest with yourself about why you really want to see him. if your new bf is a better match, are you happier with him, or were you happier with your ex? if you really want to just talk for some closure, that's understandable, but i think you need to seriously look at your current situation to figure out why you suddenly want to see him again.
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    May 03, 2010 12:55 AM GMT
    what do you want to see him for? My ex wanted to see me but I turned him down because he broke up with me. Move on
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    May 03, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    Yeah you right, there doesnt need to be any air cleared. It's been long enough. I'd like to drop the whole affair and try to be friends again, but i dont know if thats even possible. I dont know if i can even do that.
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    May 03, 2010 1:03 AM GMT
    Stay. Away.
    The stove is still clearly too hot too touch.
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    May 03, 2010 1:04 AM GMT
    Well ELboy24, one of the best ways to get past this is to talk about why the relationship failed. Nostalgia can be great but like most tools you can hurt yourself and others with it.

    -Doug
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    May 03, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    It has been since last September since you broke up and have not seen him since December. It is hard breaking up with your first love and your first love is always the one you remember for a long time. I say let it go and stay away and enjoy your time with your new boyfriend.
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    May 03, 2010 2:17 AM GMT
    Bad idea. One side of your brain says go do it, the other says stupid idea. Stupid idea. You have a new BF, spend your thoughts, time and energy with him. What is past is past and lessons learned.
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    May 03, 2010 2:18 AM GMT
    Sounds like you have moved on, keep moving on.
    Closure, Smosureā€¦ I think you want to make sure there is no chance of getting back with the ex before you move forward with the new guy.
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    May 03, 2010 2:54 AM GMT
    keep moving on, theres no point in clearing anything up.
    it works wonders, my ex and i broke up 5 months ago, and for about 3 months it was a disastrous on and off sort of thing.
    one day i changed my number to avoid falling back into things and havent spoken to him in a good month or so, maybe later in life we'll be able to be friends, but just a few months is too little to consider that, at least for me.

    Seeing a great guy at the moment, and just like everyone said, concentrate your thoughts and feelings on your bf.
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    May 03, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    thanks guys really appreciate the advice!
  • DarkSensation

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    May 03, 2010 3:14 AM GMT

    I agree...one more Fuck would get him out of your System icon_lol.gif
  • twentyfourhou...

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    May 03, 2010 3:16 AM GMT
    Nothing good can come about - i agree with the others - let it be - give your new man the attention. It does take a long time to let the memories and dreams go - make new ones.

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    May 03, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    after u put trash to the curb, do u go back and rummage thru it?
  • AsianInvasion

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    May 03, 2010 3:55 AM GMT
    BAD IDEA. What's wrong with this new guy? You didn't mention there are any deal breakers. You will never move on if you don't cut him out of your life.
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    May 03, 2010 4:18 AM GMT