MISMATCH!!!!

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    May 03, 2010 12:59 PM GMT
    There was a Will and Grace episode where Will meets Taye Diggs and they end up dating and together for a while. The whole episode when someone would see them together they would say "mismatch"!!! It was comical but it got me thinking....

    How often do you see couples, gay or straight, and say "what do they see in that person"?

    I saw a straight couple at the mall the other day....this black guy was built like a brick shit house, absolutely beautiful and this really heavy set, greasy hair white girl was walking next to him, I thought..."no way".....sure enough as they walked along he reached over and grabbed her hand....I couldn't believe it.

    I know it sounds so shallow and I know looks shouldn't mean everything if you love someone but how do these "mismatched" relationships work?

    Have you ever been in one? It seems there would always be a conflict or jealousy so to speak if one person was so damn hot and the other was just so so or not attractive and etc, what do you think?

    Do mismatched couples really work and wouldn't it eventually cause jealousy or insecurity if one of the people involved were way hotter than the other?
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    May 03, 2010 1:13 PM GMT
    apparently I was in one (I only found out lastweek) anyway, it didn't cause problems for me, I don't tend to experience jealousy though, it's just not something I do.

    if you love someone who gives a rats arse what anyone else thinks about it, you can't go around looking only at those who others think will be your match, your match is the one you bond with, the one you want, the one you'll hold at night, the one you'll cry with..
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    May 03, 2010 1:38 PM GMT
    It's like when you see a stunning young woman with a weathered geriatric, the first thing most people would think is, GOLD DIGGER!
    I think they work even more than a couple that seem to match (some look too alike almost like siblings). There could be many reasons why they got together like if one hot guy was dating a not so pretty girl he might be doing it because all the hot ones that he attracts might be shallow and he wants more than that. Or that they both were attractive in their younger days and one just got latent ugly genes.

    I love the opposite of my looks, give me a 6' bearded beer bellied man any day. But most people wouldn't even realise that they're relationship seems to be a mismatch, you just see the person for how you see them, it's everyone else that goes, "He's two heads taller than she is! Does she stand on his knee to kiss him?".
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    May 03, 2010 2:04 PM GMT

    Take a look at this clip from an old film "The Enchanted Cottage". See the plain girl at the piano? Watch what happens at the end of the clip when her man embraces her and sees her through the lens of his heart.

    -Doug

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    May 03, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
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    Take a look at this clip from an old film "The Enchanted Cottage". See the plain girl at the piano? Watch what happens at the end of the clip when her man embraces her and sees her through the lens of his heart.

    -Doug

    Of course, sometimes it works the other way around. This classic silent movie clip is how women have always reacted when they got to see the real me. LOL!

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    May 03, 2010 2:34 PM GMT
    Lol, love it! It's like when Plain Jane Superbrain transformed in Neighbours (Aussie soap that achieved cult status in the UK when I was a kid and gave birth to Kylie Minogue). OK so we all knew she was a model dressing up like a minger, really, but it was an enchanting moment to see her transformation nonetheless. ps. The guy she ends up with is a young guy Pearce - my first ever crush. God he got me hard when he took his top off!





    meninlove said
    Take a look at this clip from an old film "The Enchanted Cottage". See the plain girl at the piano? Watch what happens at the end of the clip when her man embraces her and sees her through the lens of his heart.

    -Doug

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    May 03, 2010 2:48 PM GMT
    We know a few mismatched couples, not by their appearance, but by what seems to be their relative abilities & interests. One partner would be the go-getter and money earner, the other a lazy, incompetent parasite, with few areas in common between them.

    In a couple of cases the loser even got career opportunities solely through the influence of the partner, or was given a position in the partner's business for which he is clearly not qualified. But isn't that like the classic case of the businessman and his incompetent female secretary, who keeps her job for services other than secretarial? Gay or straight, men are men.

    Another mismatch we've seen is intellect & personality, sometimes in combination with the scenario above. One guy's bright and witty, the other dull and dour. One can imagine what the dull guy might find appealing in the witty one, but what's his own attraction to a guy with a quick & active mind? That's when catty remarks are made about hidden talents below the waist.

    As for myself, I've often been flattered by comments that a BF or partner and I made a "good looking" or "nice" couple together. The other common remark I enjoy is when we're asked how long we've been together, and our reply almost always surprises the other party. We're told that we act like we've been together for many years, when sometimes it was only for a few months at that point.

    I take that as a compliment, and attribute both these observations to a good track record for choosing my men well, and also my ability to quickly adapt myself to the other guy's personality. Though it doesn't sound like it when I write about myself here, in relationships I keep reminding myself that it isn't all about ME, but about HIM and US. And most of the men I remain with tend to be the same way, and I think that's what outside observers pick up on.
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    May 03, 2010 2:49 PM GMT
    In the totem pole of mate desireables physical looks fall second to four things: personality, sense of humor, kindness/integrity and of course, money. If you see a physical mismatch it's because more important factors are at play.

    The above of course doesn't apply for hooking up.
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    May 03, 2010 2:49 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Take a look at this clip from an old film "The Enchanted Cottage". See the plain girl at the piano? Watch what happens at the end of the clip when her man embraces her and sees her through the lens of his heart.

    -Doug



    Lol, reminds me of the Carol Burnett scetch of this movie, where Carol has one eyebrow and the man is handsome but becomes ugly in the cottage so by the end they are both ugly.
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    May 03, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    I love the whole concept of the Will and Grace "MISMATCH"! I could say that about many of my friends that are couples, and not based on looks. Sometimes it just seems they are together just to be in a relationship.

    Yes, there are some very hot looking guys that come to the gym, with rather dowdy wives. But working at the gym, I see possibly a little bit more than most at what is going on. One couple in particular like this will get along very well and make what looks looks like a happy couple. She is completely devoted to his endeavor of working out, packing lunches, chastising him for going off diet, etc. I wouldn't mind being in a relationship like that.

    I think there has been one guy I dated in the last two years that my friends approved of just on looks alone(pictures before meeting him, etc). Usually my friends says I "can do better" which pretty much floors me that they would say that.....and maybe that's part of the reason why they are my friends, lol. Quite honestly, I have only dated 2 guys that were pretty muscular.
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    May 03, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
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    meninlove said
    Take a look at this clip from an old film "The Enchanted Cottage". See the plain girl at the piano? Watch what happens at the end of the clip when her man embraces her and sees her through the lens of his heart.

    -Doug



    Lol, reminds me of the Carol Burnett scetch of this movie, where Carol has one eyebrow and the man is handsome but becomes ugly in the cottage so by the end they are both ugly.


    Lol, Carol Burnett seriously rocks. She was a guest Star on The Muppet Show so automatically has my respect. I loved her as a drunk. God I was a poofy kid, lol!

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    May 03, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    *Doug shakes head sorrowfully at complete irreverence by the guys at his oh so serious soulful post, then gives it up and belly laughs having forgotten all about the Carol Burnett parody*

    ROFLMAO!


    Carol knows how to crack someone's straight face. icon_lol.gif


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    May 03, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    More Carol Burnett from the movie Annie, and this also showing a mismatch: Miss Hannigan trying to seduce billionaire Daddy Warbucks, when he arrives to get her to sign Annie's papers for adoption. This song called "Sign" was written for the movie version, not originally appearing on Broadway. Burnett is the best thing in this movie, IMHO, and this my favorite number she does. "For a Republican you are sinfully handsome." LMAO!

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    May 04, 2010 1:42 AM GMT


    LOVE IS BLIND
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    May 04, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    Hillie said

    LOVE IS BLIND

    actually it's more stupid then anything icon_razz.gif
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    May 04, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Hillie said

    LOVE IS BLIND

    actually it's more stupid then anything icon_razz.gif


    Fine fine...its blind, stupid, deaf and loud. icon_biggrin.gif

    You love who you love because you love them and that's that....someone beautiful to me might be repulsive to you while the love of your life might make me wanna gag. As long as the other person tickles your pickle so to say, then its all good...no point in looking at it and saying "but...why??".