Would you turn down a job opportunity for love?

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    May 06, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    So what if you were in a long distance relationship in the middle of getting ready to pack and finally move to be with your partner.

    But there is one problem. You get a job offer that's sort of in your field and it pays decently. If you take the job it will postpone or possibly cancel your plans of moving, which would most likely end your relationship.

    What would you do?

    This is more of a personal question, so there is no wrong or right answer.
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    May 06, 2010 4:26 PM GMT
    even though i'm a big fan of love i would take the job :/
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    May 06, 2010 5:39 PM GMT
    I turned down a job yesterday for the man I love. I applied mostly to stay fresh and assure myself that I was still marketable. I was one of two finalists and let them know yesterday that my 'situation had changed.' I have reasons to stay put in additiona to our relationship, which made the decision easier.
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    May 06, 2010 6:04 PM GMT
    original714 saidI turned down a job yesterday for the man I love. I applied mostly to stay fresh and assure myself that I was still marketable. I was one of two finalists and let them know yesterday that my 'situation had changed.' I have reasons to stay put in additiona to our relationship, which made the decision easier.


    Wow that's amazing, looks like it wasn't as hard once you went with your heart. Did you have any doubts at first?
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    May 06, 2010 6:05 PM GMT
    Been there. I'd take the job. Love doesn't pay the bills.
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    May 06, 2010 6:25 PM GMT
    Been there; take the man, a job doesn’t love you back.
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    May 06, 2010 7:09 PM GMT
    Presuming you have a job which is working OK and paying you enough to live on, of course you go for the relationship. We work to live, not vice versa.

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    May 06, 2010 8:43 PM GMT
    No...

    Love doesn't pay bills
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    May 06, 2010 8:46 PM GMT
    Hell to the naw Bobby, I'd take that job! A relationship must complement my fulfilled life, I'm not looking to fulfill my life with a relationship.
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    May 06, 2010 8:52 PM GMT
    I can get another job anytime, but finding the right man can be once in a life time. I would stick with the man.
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    May 06, 2010 9:02 PM GMT
    I did. The man is worth it. And now we have property together.
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    May 06, 2010 9:07 PM GMT
    It also one of those Damned if you do damned if you don't... so I guess it is all in how you view life. Me personally, if your struggling financially then you might not be fully happy, relationships break up over money troubles or when things get rocky shoulda coulda woulda's come up.
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    May 06, 2010 9:14 PM GMT
    just as long as you dont make your man guilty for passing up a job later on down the line.
    id move for love.
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    May 06, 2010 9:17 PM GMT
    I can't answer until I know more about the job..
    Is this my dream job? How does it compare to my current job? Is the pay only a few dollars more an hour?
    hmmm....
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    May 06, 2010 9:44 PM GMT
    A1EX saidI can't answer until I know more about the job..
    Is this my dream job? How does it compare to my current job? Is the pay only a few dollars more an hour?
    hmmm....


    I guess I was asking this question more so to get others to share their experiences or thoughts. icon_lol.gificon_redface.gif

    But, I'll swallow my pride and explain my current situation. icon_lol.gif
    It's not really a dream job but it's in currently in my field (Graphic Design/Web design) and the salary would be slightly more than what my previous employer was paying me.

    I was laid off about 4- 5 months ago... along with 7 other employees. So eventually the choice to move became much easier for me. Besides my friends and family, I felt I didn't have much to lose anymore . This morning I had a phone Interview and it went well, so they want me to come in for a final interview next Monday. So this is what motivated this topic of discussion.
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    May 06, 2010 9:46 PM GMT
    it depends on where you two are in the relationship, if you are newly dating then yes, I'd take the job, if you have been together for 6 months or more and you are both wanting to become more serious I'd put a lot of effort into the thoughts about what you actually want... if it was a couple of years and I was finding my self happy and content, I'd reject the offer and stay with the guy.

    But, I bet you already know what you want, it's not wrong to go after the things you like and you needn't explain your self to any of us for what ever course of action you take, if you have doubts about the validity of the relationship or of the job opportunity then trust your instincts, while many people will ignore them, they usually aren't to wrong.

    Instead of following what we think is best we cloud our heads with doubts and fears... to put it simply, another man will come long one day, it might be a while but he'll come along, conversely, another job opportunity will come along, it might be a while but it'll come along
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    May 06, 2010 9:52 PM GMT
    See and this is why we love you Tanker. icon_biggrin.gif

    I appreciate all of the post on here, it's interesting to see how others react to similar situations.
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    May 06, 2010 9:57 PM GMT
    I probably would go for my man. Jobs come and go, but (hopefully) your man will be with you forever. I also think it depends on how close/intimate/committed you and your partner are to each other.
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    May 06, 2010 10:05 PM GMT
    If the job = fame & fortune, the love is secondary. Guys will love me for my fame & fortune, so my priority is to obtain that first... DUH!

    I've been around the block often enough to know that few men love us for us -- they love us for what we have. So that the more we have, the more they love us. I mean, let's get real here.

    Therefore, if you wanna be loved, have a lot. And don't turn down any job opportunity that will give you a lot. Because that is what guys want in a man, the rest being negotiable.
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    May 06, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    Everything is relative
    All said .... if I'm hopelessly in love with the man of my dreams icon_biggrin.gif
    I don't think a job offer would make me think twice

    If the job was the equivalent of winning the lottery?
    Well then he'd Better be the man of my dreams icon_cool.gif
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    May 06, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
    WolfRain saidSo what if you were in a long distance relationship in the middle of getting ready to pack and finally move to be with your partner.

    But there is one problem. You get a job offer that's sort of in your field and it pays decently. If you take the job it will postpone or possibly cancel your plans of moving, which would most likely end your relationship.

    What would you do?

    This is more of a personal question, so there is no wrong or right answer.


    If you don't have a job where you are moving to, this is going to be a real strain on your relationship more than the distance is now. Take the job. Then you can look for a different job where your partner is and when you have one, then move. It's much easier to get another job when you are currently working. It shows that you are just looking to move rather than there being something wrong with you for not having a job.
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    May 06, 2010 10:16 PM GMT
    WolfRain saidSo what if you were in a long distance relationship in the middle of getting ready to pack and finally move to be with your partner.

    But there is one problem. You get a job offer that's sort of in your field and it pays decently. If you take the job it will postpone or possibly cancel your plans of moving, which would most likely end your relationship.

    What would you do?

    This is more of a personal question, so there is no wrong or right answer.


    It really sucks to be in that position, but it might be a good idea for you to take up on that job opportunity. Although relationships are definitely important, you seem to have been offered a chance that rarely comes by, and if he truly loves you, I'm sure he'll understand the situation.

    Unless if you are 100% sure that you can get a similar type of position at where your boyfriend is, perhaps it might be better for you to be on the logical side? I suggest a little research on the job market there shouldn't hurt, you could also ask your boyfriend if he can move in with you instead.

    Anyways, hope something works out for you guys. =)
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    May 06, 2010 10:16 PM GMT
    GQjock saidEverything is relative
    All said .... if I'm hopelessly in love with the man of my dreams icon_biggrin.gif
    I don't think a job offer would make me think twice

    If the job was the equivalent of winning the lottery?
    Well then he'd Better be the man of my dreams icon_cool.gif

    Well, interesting sentiments.

    But if we had the job (or lottery prize) that gives us fame & fortune, what need have we for love? We can have that delivered, like a pizza. "Love for sale" as Cole Porter wrote, and indeed it is. Have enough money, and you can have all the love you want.
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    May 06, 2010 10:18 PM GMT
    It depends on what "sort of in your field" means, and my job prior. If I was in my field and moving up, but not necessarily towards what I really wanted to do, then I'd turn it down. If that job would move me up and help me get the connections and experience to eventually get to where I really want to go, then I might do it.
  • HankFit247

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    May 06, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    You used the word Job, and NOT Career. Big Difference!!!

    Secondly, "sort of and it pays decently" pays decently is a relative term.

    Move!