Youger people coming out!

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    May 25, 2007 1:53 AM GMT
    It is really great to see so many younger guys on this site. Lots in thier early 20's.

    We want to hear your stories!
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    May 25, 2007 4:04 AM GMT
    I came out to my mother when I was 16 years old, and to my sister when I was 19. One of the most difficult things I ever did, but boy did I feel so much better after I did. They both reacted much better than I had anticipated. I don't talk about guys or anything with them, but at least I made a start. I'd much rather come out to someone rather than them find out from someone else. I'm glad I came out when I did. I couldn't imagine myself hiding who I reallly am for any longer than I did.
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    May 25, 2007 5:22 AM GMT
    I came out to a random friend when I was 17. Then felt bad I didnt tell my sister first and told her right away. I slowly came out to everyone except my parents. But then this past January I totaled their car and decided to soften the blow by telling them I was gay first. It worked. They took it pretty well I think. Nothing has changed in the way they treat me so far. Although, I still "come out" to people all the time since no one can tell that I'm gay unless I tell them or I mention something that makes it obvious.
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    May 25, 2007 6:20 AM GMT
    The first person I came out to was my god brother's mother's wife. I know it sounds really weird. They had a feeling that I was and one day she sat down with me and just asked bluntly, "how long have you known you were gay?"

    "I've always known in a weird way, but officially 100 percent at age 9." I was 14 that year.

    They told my mom and suggested that she sign me up for a local program for young homosexuals, I was so ashamed I took it all back though and basically pushed myself back in the closet.

    At age sixteen on valentines day my head was about to explode and I was so tired of being alone and that holiday being so empty and meaningless that I decided to come out to my mother. She responded by saying she already knew and thanked me for finally telling her.

    I begged her to help me tell my siblings but she wouldn't do it. She refused to, she didn't know how to deal with it and suddenly I guess in a little way she had been pulled into the closet with me just by knowing.

    I finally told my little brother and sister over a year later when I was 17. Its always been a little tough for me to just come out and say out loud so I wrote it down on a peace of paper and showed it to them.

    My little sister replied, "I already knew." And my little brother replied, "So what?" as he finished his video game.

    I had already told most my friends at 16, even more at 17. I use to have a 1 year rule about telling people, but now I adjust it based on trust levels. I'm ashamed to admit that a large portion of the family, including my father and older brother, still don't know. And honestly the family members that do it didn't really make much of a difference because I'm just not comfortable talking about guys around them. But at least they know.
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    May 25, 2007 1:13 PM GMT
    I came out at school first, I have no clue why. For some reason it seemed much easier for me to come out with friend than my family. I told everybody at school when I was a freshman in high school. I held off telling my parents until I was 16. It didn't go very well at all. We argued a lot, Mom cried, Dad took it a lot better. I got in a very serious relationship when I was a freshman in college and I am still with him today 4 years later. My parents couldn't handle that and refused to keep supporting me financially and every other way. I legally amancipated (i hope that is spelled correctly) my parents in January of 2004. My partner/boyfriend/fiance's parents are very supportive and took me in. Everything has made me a much stronger person. I love where I am in life and where everything will take me in the future. I only wish I could give other people the courage to come out of the closet because only then will we start seeing the social changes that need to happen.
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    May 25, 2007 1:13 PM GMT
    I came out at school first, I have no clue why. For some reason it seemed much easier for me to come out with friend than my family. I told everybody at school when I was a freshman in high school. I held off telling my parents until I was 16. It didn't go very well at all. We argued a lot, Mom cried, Dad took it a lot better. I got in a very serious relationship when I was a freshman in college and I am still with him today 4 years later. My parents couldn't handle that and refused to keep supporting me financially and every other way. I legally amancipated (i hope that is spelled correctly) my parents in January of 2004. My partner/boyfriend/fiance's parents are very supportive and took me in. Everything has made me a much stronger person. I love where I am in life and where everything will take me in the future. I only wish I could give other people the courage to come out of the closet because only then will we start seeing the social changes that need to happen.
  • mcwclewis

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    May 25, 2007 5:56 PM GMT
    I came out to one friend at 15, but I came out in school at 16, my older brother had a lot of lesbien friends and they didn't have much trouble so I figured it wouldn't be that bad. That year was rough... I still had a lot of friends but there were a few that wouldn't talk to me anymore (one of them is out of the closet now.)I didn't tell my parents, my mom read an email I sent to my boyfriend at the time. She stayed in bed for like 3 weeks before she told me about it. We all thought she was sick. My parents were both raised in very unaccepting homes, but they were both the child in their respective family to break away from prejudice tradition. They were both upset for a while, but when they realized I was still the same person, they started to get back to normal. Now my mom forces me to invite any guy I've even dated once to come over for dinner.
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    May 25, 2007 6:22 PM GMT
    I have yet to come out. I'm freaked out though...
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    May 25, 2007 6:40 PM GMT
    I came out to my parents my freshman year of college. It was Thanksgiving break and I had plans to tell them. I got home and my aunt spilled the news that my mom was pregnant. I was very upset. I got home and my mom saw I was upset, but I wouldn't talk to her. Finally, I said I know your secret. She told me why she didn't tell me right away, but I was still so mad. Finally I said, "Well guess what since we all have secrets, I have one for you." "I'm gay!" Well we all just laughed so hard. My mom and dad hugged me and said they loved me no matter what. I was thrilled, but man was I angry.
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    May 25, 2007 10:36 PM GMT
    i'm actually not out at all except with some select people. my family would most likely freak. and even in public i could never hold hands or kiss my boyfriend. i'm too self-conscious for that. i wish i wasn't. it's something i'm working on. my first step in coming out was in college. i had this 'horrible' secret. i was dating girls, going through the motions to make appearances. i had to talk to someone so i thankfully there was a glsu on campus. went to a meeting. everyone was so nice. the president noticed me and came up and talked. i told him i thought i was gay. it was surreal. just real strange. a weight lifted off of me, but actually admitting to someone that i was gay was a huge step for me. but i really wasn't out fully at college. i covertly went to glsu meetings and secretly saw guys, but nothing in public.
  • OptimusMatt

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    May 26, 2007 12:37 AM GMT
    I came out when I was 19. I cheated on the last girl I ever dated with 3 different guys over the course of several months. The incredible guilt I felt over it forced me to realize that I was probably gay...well, that and the fact that I'd been screwing guys since I was 17..

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    lol

    I went to see a concert in toronto with my friends, and the day after was pride, lol - we all walked out of our hotel, they walked down the road to the car that we were all driving back home to, and I was like "C'ya!" hopped on the subway and went to my first pride on my own.
    Lol, came back home later on that day and within a week I'd come out to my parents. My mother's response - "I've known since you were 16"

    hahaha

    Now, I'm not particularly camp (though I DEFINATELY have my moments, hahaha) so people don't necessarily know immediately that I'm gay, and I don't walk around waving a flag, but if ANYONE asks me I beat around the bush - I'm gay, and I've never been more comfortable with myself.

    Lol, ever since I stopped trying to 'fix' my homo 'problem' I can actually breathe. Also...I can actually be 100% honest with someone, and 100% monogomous. Which is nice. I don't particularly enjoy feeling like a sack of shit.
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    May 26, 2007 12:38 AM GMT
    hahaha, that should read "I DON'T beat around the bush"
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    May 26, 2007 12:55 AM GMT
    I came out in my early twenties. I told a good friend of mine first and he didn't care. In fact, my high school friends have been awesome about it. They tell me girls are crazy and gay guys must be on to something. Everytime i told a sister, they cried, but they're cool now. My parents were floored. They never saw it coming. My mom cried and my dad claims he saw demons floating around his room the night i told him. I've tried talking to them about it but they insist i'm not gay. And now, things are worse than ever between us. But, life goes on. Everyone in my life knows and couldn't care less.
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    May 27, 2007 10:56 PM GMT
    I came out at seventeen.
    My sister was the one to burst the doors off.
    It was a nice calm morning me and my sister where all over the computer talking to our friends on myspace. My Father being the Christ loving Bible throwing guy he is asked my sister why she had all girls on her page. My sister tolled him that she didn't want any guys on her page and called them all pigs from hell. My father not liking here term for men walked off like a bitch dog with his dick between his legs. I then check my myspace not thinking about my Stepfather being in the house.
    he then asks me why there isn't any girls on my page why are the guys showing there abs and have very little clothing on. I tolled him that the guys where gay and he almost looked like he couldn't breath. My sister just came out and said that she was gay and then I tolled them and both of my parents just looked at us.
    I looked at the brown in my mother's eyes and I could see the humanity the love fading away as if the black of here pupal was going to eat her whole eye away. she screamed saying that she had been cursed with two gay children and said that this his all here family faults for being voudon that the One true God was punishing them.
    I sat back and laughed inside knowing that they would go to church and pray and hope that their God could give them a cure.
    Then my mother found out that I was Wiccan and had been for sometime like almost 9 years.
    she didn't like that i was keeping the family faith by practicing some form of Witchcraft.
    That was a day from hell but two weeks later my mother died and my dad seemed to lose him self and left me and my sister alone with the whole go to church and pray to God that you may still make it to heaven. I thought that if I have to change who i am then I don't want to go to the Christian heaven that I will be content in the pagan Summerland.
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    May 28, 2007 6:29 PM GMT
    I told my friend Tiffany at 15, since they I did come out until aftger high school. I felt like it wasn't my school's bussiness to know, and life is hard in high school already I didn't want to have the pressure of people picking on me and me having to kick their asses to lol! My mom just asked one day and I told her yeah I like boys. My dad went through my phone and say my wallpapers of hott guys >.
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    May 28, 2007 6:29 PM GMT
    I told my friend Tiffany at 15, since they I did come out until aftger high school. I felt like it wasn't my school's bussiness to know, and life is hard in high school already I didn't want to have the pressure of people picking on me and me having to kick their asses to lol! My mom just asked one day and I told her yeah I like boys. My dad went through my phone and say my wallpapers of hott guys >.