Dating Anxiety?

  • MuscleComeBac...

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    May 07, 2010 11:24 PM GMT
    Anybody else have it?

    This is my year for getting back to things after long layoffs...I swear, pushing my body to failure and near puking at the gym after nearly ten years away has been a LOT easier than going on my first date in 16 years. SIXTEEN!!!!

    It was yesterday. It was....bleh.

    I was living in NYC when I was last dating, that's where I met my former partner of 16 years. It's SO much harder in the burbs of Florida. Oh my fucking gosh! And I don't do bars, because that's not my crowd, and I'm not a pup. I'm a dog, not an old dog, but I'm not a pup. I like to get up early, work out, swim later after work, and hit the hay before 11. I'm kinda' low key socially. And, unlike NY and L.A., where the term "gay gym" is redundant, my gym in Orlando/Winter Park is not a very big population (not a place I'd cruise, but at least a chance of meeting another guy who isn't just a circuit rat). I work mostly from home and I'm looking to push myself into places where I have a fighting chance of meeting a great man. I'm pushing myself out there, just taking the risk and trying to stay positive. But is SO damn tough. Much much harder than I thought it would be.

    Yesterday, wow...could have been a PERFECT date day. Hot, humid, but walkable weather. Then a great lunch in a super restaurant and then HUGE storm, stuck in a secluded breezeway with the rain and thunder, and the spray blowing in. Nobody in sight. I felt like the universe was laughing at me, which it probably was and which I wholeheartedly deserved, but seriously...romantic big storm, secluded location, and central casting sent over the wrong guy. *sigh* Still, he was sweet and I'm glad I met him. Just no chemistry. (...storm! Big storm! Secluded breezeway...did I mention that part? Auuuugh!)

    I know, I know, It's just the first one, but man...cruel, cruel irony. I'll be 51 in just twelve days...just a number, but man, I felt it yesterday. LOL
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    May 07, 2010 11:29 PM GMT
    Not feeling the chemistry and fear of ...(insert all the things that we get all worked up over in regards to dating here) are all part of dating.

    It's the way it was when we were 16, it's the way it still is today...just different. :-)

    Hang in there. Have fun. Don't worry.