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    May 09, 2010 7:40 AM GMT
    How do you know you are ready to start dating other gay single men?
  • calibro

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    May 09, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    when you don't have to ask other people if you're ready
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    May 09, 2010 3:09 PM GMT
    For me, I know because I'm about ready to pounce on anybody who I think is gay!
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 09, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    Well a couple of points....
    1) Do you mean "quality dating" as in developing a long term relationship as
    differentiated from "spending time for sex".. where you meet someone, have dinner and have sex... know the difference, know what you want and approach it the right way.

    2) If its "quality dating", I doubt if I'd be on "Manhunt" or "Adam". You focus and approach ought to be to get to know the other guy and he in you. Part of it is to
    identify those who also want quality dating and aren't into you just for sex.
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    May 09, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
    bigbubba1972 saidHow do you know you are ready to start dating other gay single men?
    When you've already dated all the straight married men.
    Or when you find one you care about, and who has mutual feelings.
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    May 09, 2010 3:34 PM GMT
    http://thegaylovecoach.com/

    This guy has some good free (and not free) resources that can help you with understanding your self better in terms of dating/relationship-seeking.

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    May 09, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    i'm not into bi men or striaight men or married men or closeted men at all.
    i'm not a home wrecker at all.i'm not looking for a steady boyfriend right
    now at all.
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    May 09, 2010 9:12 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidWell a couple of points....
    1) Do you mean "quality dating" as in developing a long term relationship as
    differentiated from "spending time for sex".. where you meet someone, have dinner and have sex... know the difference, know what you want and approach it the right way.

    2) If its "quality dating", I doubt if I'd be on "Manhunt" or "Adam". You focus and approach ought to be to get to know the other guy and he in you. Part of it is to
    identify those who also want quality dating and aren't into you just for sex.


    I'm not sure I agree with # 2.

    Manhunt = Adam4Adam = RealJock = BigMuscle = Connnexion = Man4SexNow

    And the list goes on. If RealJock were really that different, I doubt it would have the PRIVATE PICTURE feature.
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    May 09, 2010 9:17 PM GMT
    bigbubba1972 saidHow do you know you are ready to start dating other gay single men?

    Some of the more flippant replies here have a grain of truth of them, and I was tempted to add my own caustic remark to them. But then I remembered an aspect of my own first dating experiences: concern about my experience level, both in knowing gay men, and knowing gay sex. Are those your concerns?

    I was much older than you when I came out, which did give me the advantage of being able to judge other people under a wide set of circumstances, even if gay relationships had never been one of them. Plus I'm a quick study, and I read up, studied what other guys did, and asked gays online, like you're doing here.

    And frankly, I'm fearless to the point of being foolhardy at times. So I just jumped in and started dating. So what if I screwed up at first? You learn by mistakes, and get better all the time.

    You're ready -- have fun! icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 09, 2010 9:23 PM GMT
    BlkMuscleGent saidI'm not sure I agree with # 2.

    Manhunt = Adam4Adam = RealJock = BigMuscle = Connnexion = Man4SexNow

    And the list goes on. If RealJock were really that different, I doubt it would have the PRIVATE PICTURE feature.


    Here here.

    It's not the field in which you play, it's how you play the field.

    However you choose to meet people - in person at bars, at Starbucks, online on whatever site, by chance at the grocer, etc. - it's what you put into it that you should expect in return.

    If you want to sleep around, behave like a slut. You'll likely be having steady sex. If you want to date, date. If you want a partner, behave like someone who's seeking something real and not like someone operating under false pretense.

    Meaning? Don't agree to meet for coffee...and be naked an hour later. You can't control his intentions - he might have actually liked you, but you went for the sex - now he thinks you're a ho. Or, he's a ho and just gave you the pretense of coffee to get what he (and obviously if it went naked, you) wanted.

    You can only control YOUR INTENTIONS and your actions. That is yours to own.

    This explains the frustration of soooooooooooooo many guys who whine and bemoan the dearth of "good guys." When I hear friends complain of this, I ask about the last guy they met in a normal, casual setting, regardless of how they initially encountered. Almost always, sex ended up being involved...or the 'other guy' wanted sex and said friend didn't put out, resulting in the other guy ending contact. Guess what? That doesn't make him a bad person; it just makes him someone you should avoid going forward.
  • jrs1

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    May 09, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    RunintheCity said
    BlkMuscleGent said
    You can only control YOUR INTENTIONS and your actions. That is yours to own.

    Amen. this, this is good.
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    Jun 05, 2010 7:51 AM GMT
    i won't date any gay men i'm not sexualy compatible with at all.i won't date
    any oldfashioned men/low tech men/smokers/bi men/closeted men at all.
    i won't date any men who i'm not socially compatible with at all.i won't
    any date without his own car,cellphone,computer at all.i won't date
    any men with kids at all.i won't date any skinny guys at all.i won't
    date any guys that i don't find attractive at all.
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    Jun 05, 2010 8:07 AM GMT
    bigbubba1972 saidi won't date any gay men i'm not sexualy compatible with at all.i won't date
    any oldfashioned men/low tech men/smokers/bi men/closeted men at all.
    i won't date any men who i'm not socially compatible with at all.i won't
    any date without his own car,cellphone,computer at all.i won't date
    any men with kids at all.i won't date any skinny guys at all.i won't
    date any guys that i don't find attractive at all.


    There. You have just completed column A (Negatives of Dating, what I don't want). Now complete column B-Positives, what it is you want.
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    Jul 01, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    I get turned on by other nonsmokers like myself.I get turned on big guys
    with bigbutts,big dicks and big muscles.i get turned on by guys with their
    own home to live in.i get turned on by other guys with their own cell phones
    and their computers.i get turned on guys with short hair.i get turned on by
    other guys with boxer shorts.i get turned on by other guys who suck dicks.
    i get turned on by guys without eyeglasses.i get turned on by white guys,
    black guys,mexican guys,i'm not a racist.i get turned on by other big guys
    with all skin colors and all races.i love power lifters,big strong men,big
    muscled guys.i love the world's strongest men events alot,those big studs
    are hot to me.i love guys with their own cars,bikes,vans,trucks,and motor
    cycles.i love non-leathered guys alot.
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    Jul 18, 2010 7:39 AM GMT
    i'm a proud gay single man.i love being single alot.i'm looking for some
    friends with benefits not a boy friend.i'm not into oldfashioned dating at all.
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    Jul 18, 2010 7:42 AM GMT
    bigbubba1972 saidi won't date any gay men i'm not sexualy compatible with at all.i won't date
    any oldfashioned men/low tech men/smokers/bi men/closeted men at all.
    i won't date any men who i'm not socially compatible with at all.i won't
    any date without his own car,cellphone,computer at all.i won't date
    any men with kids at all.i won't date any skinny guys at all.i won't
    date any guys that i don't find attractive at all.


    Ok I have to ask, are you for real? As I read more and more of your posts, it's getting harder to believe that you are actually being serious.

    I vote you're trolling
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    Jul 19, 2010 12:46 AM GMT
    i'm very serious,i'm a very serious guy.i never joke around.i hate jokes
    and jokers at all.
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    Jul 19, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    Yes i'm for real.i never joke about life,dating,sex,friendships.I take them
    all very serious like real men should.
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    Jul 23, 2010 6:53 PM GMT
    I have the right to be picky who i'm gonna date and who i'm gonna go out on
    dates with.i have the right to be picky who i'm be lovers with too.i'm very interested in having friendship dates,play dates,open dates,sexual dates,
    eco friendly dates with other gay single big masculine men.no skinny
    men for me.
  • TristanLane

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    Jul 24, 2010 7:08 PM GMT
    calibro saidwhen you don't have to ask other people if you're ready


    dido.
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    Jul 26, 2010 3:42 AM GMT
    calibro saidwhen you don't have to ask other people if you're ready


    precisely.