How do you hit on a guy in public places?

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    May 10, 2010 7:14 AM GMT
    Sometimes I feel I can tell others maybe I just wish they were icon_smile.gif But I want to know some tips on how I can hit on guys, ways to give them hints I am gay and want to know if they are too.

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    May 10, 2010 1:10 PM GMT
    I'd like to know that too (from the str8/bi dude's perspective). I'd love to know when in public if there is some universal signal that dudes use to give another guy the thumbs up that he's into you. Whatever it is, I don't care. An ear tug, rubbing one's head, a subtle hand gesture, etc... We need a signal. What is it??
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    May 10, 2010 1:14 PM GMT
    Just wear gay-face everywhere you go. It kinda looks like you just smelled a fresh batch of cookies and then got stuck in the facial expression.
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    May 10, 2010 1:22 PM GMT
    pucker your lips and tilt your head to the side and look like a complete emo douchebag icon_biggrin.gif oh yeah and make sure you have freshly plucked eyebrows. Men love that... /end sarcasm
  • Bunjamon

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    May 10, 2010 1:43 PM GMT
    Wear one of those "2QT2BSTR8" t-shirts.
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    May 10, 2010 4:02 PM GMT
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  • rnch

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    May 10, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    unlike some of the posters above; i'm going to be serious here....

    sublety and gentleness has been my keywords in cruising/flirting with a guy.

    a pleasant smile, slightly raised eyebrow, a subtle, light caress on the shoulders or bicep...engage the guy in a conversation and smile and slightly lean forward.

    during the hurricane Katrina evacuation, i cruised our waiter immediately upon arrival for 2 days at lunch and dinner. (somehow after the first meal we always got seated at one of "his" tables. i suspect he had a word or two with the hostess.) as he would stand at the table, next to my chair, taking our food and beverage orders, i would reach down and stroke & lightly carress the back of his knees (he always wore short pants) hidden by the table cloth, then slowly moved up and around th his knee caps and up to his thighs.

    this with my mother, sister, brother and various evacuation friends at our table! i felt like a horny, wanton slut doing this, but...what the hell...at the time it seemed like the end of the world for us from new orleans....

    after lunch the second day he placed the invoice in front of me. below it was his phone number.

    i wound up spending every other night at his place for our 3 week evacuation stay. icon_wink.gif
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    May 10, 2010 4:25 PM GMT
    Dragoonxi saidJust wear gay-face everywhere you go. It kinda looks like you just smelled a fresh batch of cookies and then got stuck in the facial expression.


    LOL
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    May 10, 2010 4:27 PM GMT
    Sometimes a wink seems to do the trick with guys in public!
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    May 11, 2010 5:47 PM GMT
    Dragoonxi saidJust wear gay-face everywhere you go. It kinda looks like you just smelled a fresh batch of cookies and then got stuck in the facial expression.


    LOL!

    ouch my stomach hurts!!!
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    May 11, 2010 5:55 PM GMT
    alright, now that I'm done laughing,

    I have NO IDEA at all.

    Like just yesterday. I was on campus and I was chatting with a friend of mine who works there, so I was standing in the office. And a guy walked up asking for help and I turn around and notice he was staring at me really hard and when are eyes met he quickly looked in a different direction.

    Iater that day I was sitting down in the student center, and I saw him walk in and he stared at me the whole time, then he sat down with a chick and kept looking at me at as they were talking.

    then they got up and left, but as they were leaving he kept looking at me.

    Maybe that was the sign? I'll just keep staring at you awkwardly until you realize I couldn't possibly straight lol. Who knows.

    But I sure as hell wasn't going to approach him. Probably would've turned out to be a straight curious guy looking to cheat on his gf.
  • rnch

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    May 11, 2010 6:39 PM GMT
    one way to find out, halfstep.. icon_wink.gif
  • TannerMasseur

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    May 11, 2010 6:42 PM GMT
    grindr
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    May 11, 2010 6:51 PM GMT
    Just watch and take notes on how the straight guys do it; that’s if you can find straight guys doing it in public, other than the ones that usually end up getting slapped.

    I'm guessing rnch has been slapped a few times.
  • neosyllogy

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    May 11, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    You find out if another guy is into you the same way you'd find out if a woman or anyone else were into you.:
    One of the two of you looks at the other just a little longer than normal, maybe gives a simple smile, and if the other is interested they'll return an exchange of notable, but begnign interest From there you strike up a conversation... blah blah blah

    Flirting is, and always has been, the art of expressing interest without comittment. (e.g. you generally don't ask someone if they want to "go on a date" you ask them if they want to "see a movie", "get something to eat", etc. If they're interested, they will want to, if they're not they can say no and no one feels bad, because they rejected the movie, not you.)

    The way you tell if a guy is "gay" is if he's the same sex as you and interested in you. You don't need secret codes. Most of the time you can tell just by the way someone looks at you. And if they're not available (straight, monogamous relationship, etc.) hopefully you kept e/o's interest on some non-shallow level enough that you at least met a cool person.

    People sweat this stuff way too much.
    [Caveat: people with poor social awareness screw this up regularly -- they end up as the possibly creepy "cant't take a hint" types.]
  • neosyllogy

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    May 11, 2010 7:15 PM GMT
    rnch said
    a pleasant smile, slightly raised eyebrow, a subtle, light caress on the shoulders or bicep...engage the guy in a conversation and smile and slightly lean forward.


    I would almost certainly not take kindly to a stranger I barely know caressing my "shoulders or bicep". There may be a few exceptions, mostly based on locale, but in general I'd be at best amused at the guy's presumptuousness (in the laughing *at* him sense).
  • rnch

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    May 11, 2010 11:58 PM GMT
    neosyllogy said
    rnch said
    a pleasant smile, slightly raised eyebrow, a subtle, light caress on the shoulders or bicep...engage the guy in a conversation and smile and slightly lean forward.


    I would almost certainly not take kindly to a stranger I barely know caressing my "shoulders or bicep". There may be a few exceptions, mostly based on locale, but in general I'd be at best amused at the guy's presumptuousness (in the laughing *at* him sense).
    lol, u may be right. i keep forgetting i live in one of they gayest "gay friendly" areas in the U S of A. icon_wink.gif
  • Kage

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    May 12, 2010 11:09 AM GMT
    Eye contact, nod and then a smile with a "Hi."
    If the above 3 options work, follow upimmediately with an introduction and then go from there.
    That has worked for me in the past.
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    May 12, 2010 11:16 AM GMT


    alternatively, as the others have said, eye contact icon_razz.gif with a bit of a smile though, not creepy eye contact
  • Manhood69

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    Aug 26, 2010 6:17 AM GMT
    rnch saidunlike some of the posters above; i'm going to be serious here....

    sublety and gentleness has been my keywords in cruising/flirting with a guy.

    a pleasant smile, slightly raised eyebrow, a subtle, light caress on the shoulders or bicep...engage the guy in a conversation and smile and slightly lean forward.

    during the hurricane Katrina evacuation, i cruised our waiter immediately upon arrival for 2 days at lunch and dinner. (somehow after the first meal we always got seated at one of "his" tables. i suspect he had a word or two with the hostess.) as he would stand at the table, next to my chair, taking our food and beverage orders, i would reach down and stroke & lightly carress the back of his knees (he always wore short pants) hidden by the table cloth, then slowly moved up and around th his knee caps and up to his thighs.

    this with my mother, sister, brother and various evacuation friends at our table! i felt like a horny, wanton slut doing this, but...what the hell...at the time it seemed like the end of the world for us from new orleans....

    after lunch the second day he placed the invoice in front of me. below it was his phone number.

    i wound up spending every other night at his place for our 3 week evacuation stay. icon_wink.gif


    rnch, you sly devil you. Maybe you could come rub some places on my body and we'll see what happens!
  • alphatop

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    Aug 27, 2010 11:49 PM GMT
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    Aug 27, 2010 11:51 PM GMT
    the double brow raise with an evil grin icon_twisted.gif

    usually does the trick
  • alphatop

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    Aug 27, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
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    What I often do is longer look in the eyes ( than usual ), which means as long as one of you two guys don't look any other way. It can be 5 sec, or 3 mins, but whatev, my instict always work. Especially with those str8 guys, or bisex to str8, or, of course, gay. icon_biggrin.gif
  • mybud

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    Aug 27, 2010 11:59 PM GMT
    RuggedRanger15 saidpucker your lips and tilt your head to the side and look like a complete emo douchebag icon_biggrin.gif oh yeah and make sure you have freshly plucked eyebrows. Men love that... /end sarcasm


    hahahahahahaha
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    Aug 28, 2010 12:01 AM GMT
    once i was in a cafeteria and i looked at the hottest dad ever and i stared at him for 5 seconds and he stood up and said out loud: "am not gay u motherf*ck*r" icon_cry.gif