And when the guy gets obsessed with you?

  • HOTWEILLER

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    May 10, 2010 2:34 PM GMT
    Ok, things are getting weird for me, i met a guy almost 5 months ago, at the begging we were just friends but i was feeling so alone and left over by my bf then i decided to give him a chance and we almost started to date, he was not cute, but seemed to have a sweet and good heart. Then i noticed that he was not really my type, sometimes very feminine and the way he used to act sometimes made me wish to be with a real woman than with someone that wants to seem a woman when fucking [i`m sorry, i don`t want to seem disrespectful, but this is not my kind of man]

    He in less than 2 weeks started to say that he loved me and that i was already everything for him, then he always wanted to hear the same from me, but i was and will always be honest with my feelings and told him all the time that i was not in love, then me and my bf talked and decided to restart, after that i decided to talk to this obsessed guy and i broke up with the relationship we had, said all i had to say and told him it was better don`t see each other again [but i said repectfully and said i appreaciated all his effort and wished him to find someone who loves him and treats him the way he should be]

    He used to call me many times during the day, crying and asking to comeback, sending me love e-mails, and love songs and a few minutes ago he sent an e-mail saying that if i do not belong to him, i won`t belong to anybody else. What the hell can i do now?
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    May 10, 2010 2:49 PM GMT
    Aw, baby’s first restraining order.

    Gay or straight; I think we all get at least one psycho in our life time.
    Ignore him in the hope that he will move on. If that fails you may have to change your phone number, move, and change your name.
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    May 10, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    well the best way to start a day with someone like that in your life is every morning when you wake up, grab your nuts, close your eyes and thank god they are still there.

    Second, don't talk to him, don't reply to his messages, do not acknowledge his attempts at any form of communication at all.

    If it persists, you can get a restraining order on him if need be, do not stoop to any level in some vain attempt to get him out of your life, for him it could be misconstrued as some affirmation of your desire for him.

    But if you need it, I've an awesome location to stash a.. um.. well.. anything you need to stash really.. *coughs* *looks innocent* icon_razz.gif
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    May 10, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    wrestlingguy saidWhat the hell can i do now?
    Tell him you wanna wrestle. Then get a little too rough, accidentally of course.
  • HOTWEILLER

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    May 10, 2010 3:11 PM GMT
    hahahah u guys are the best! hahahaha.
    ok, so I will try to not answer him anymore and maybe in a few days, weeks, or months [please God don`t make it take so long, pleaseeee] he will forget i exist. But honesly guys, i`m feeling a little bit in jail... i stopped to run on the beach because he has restaurant close to the place i run, i am trying to avoid the maximum of contact with him and i am not afraid, i just feel bed and sorry for him.
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    May 10, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    I have no idea if a restraining order is a legal option in Rio De Janeiro, Brazil under these circumstances. Certainly check with an attorney for an opinion, perhaps some will give a free initial consultation as they often do here in the US.

    Though inconvenient for you, you may have to change all your email, maybe even your phone numbers, make them unlisted. Some obsessive guys merely remain a pest, others can become physically dangerous, and it's often difficult to predict which it will be.

    For me it's merely been an annoyance a few times, the guy eventually giving up. But an ex-BF had one who threatened to out him to his employer if he wouldn't date him, and that would likely have resulted in my ex getting fired by that employer, with no gay protections in that US State.

    What this psycho did do was make a public "confession" of their imagined homosexual relationship in church, naming my ex! He also told the YMCA management that my ex had groped him while naked in the mens hot tub, which wasn't true. My ex got his Y membership suspended over it while an investigation was conducted (that eventually cleared him, but caused many rumors).

    You need to terminate your contact with this threat quickly.
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    May 10, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    Step 1. Ignore

    Step 2. Ignore

    Step 3. Reason with him

    Step 4. Threaten him

    Step 5. Have your friends threaten him

    Step 6. Restraining order

    Step 7. Well...you gotta do what you gotta do.

  • HOTWEILLER

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    May 10, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa
    A restraining order is legal here but i`m still in the closet so it doesn`t seem a good choice for me cause for sure many people will know about me... I got really surprised with what happened with your BF, actually i got in shock here after reading his case.
    But i was thinkin if i change my e-mail, phone number and so on, won`t he feel more powerful? Or i must firstly do not answer him and wait a little bit and in case he keeps acting this way i can change it all, what do u guys think please?
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    May 10, 2010 3:34 PM GMT
    What, you dated a non-wrestler! Blasphemy. icon_wink.gif
  • HOTWEILLER

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    May 10, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    hahah here in Brazil sexuality speaking wrestling is something very abnormal....
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    May 10, 2010 3:52 PM GMT
    wrestlingguy saidhahah here in Brazil sexuality speaking wrestling is something very abnormal....
    It's very abnormal here, too. But I don't try to be normal because normal sucks. icon_biggrin.gif
  • HOTWEILLER

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    May 10, 2010 4:11 PM GMT
    yup^^ u`re right guy!

    So thanks so much guys! I`ll ignore hi, let`s see what happens, thank u a thousand times!