Have you ever had Pity sex?

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    May 10, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    I am not trying to offend anyone here...Lets get that out of the way!!

    Do you know what I mean when I say PITY? (Self-pity)

    Seems there are a few who will try just about anything to get in the sack with you...do you give in....SHOULD I?

    I have this one guy I met years ago ask me if we could finish where we left off...meaning we met, had lunch and never hit the sack!!

    I like him as a friend, but actually, the hook up is a rare deal. At least in person....

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    May 10, 2010 10:15 PM GMT
    Mystic_Man saidI am not trying to offend anyone here...Lets get that out of the way!!

    Do you know what I mean when I say PITY? (Self-pity)

    Seems there are a few who will try just about anything to get in the sak with you...do you give in....SHOULD I?

    I have this one guy I met years ago ask me if we could finish where we left off...meaning we met, had lunch and never hit the sak!!

    I like him as a friend, but actually, the hook up is a rare deal. At least in person....

    Hmmm?icon_question.gificon_question.gificon_idea.gificon_question.gificon_question.gif



    Buddy the ultimate decision is yours to do! but if I were you knowing how health conscious you are like me, I hope you are aware to not just consider protection from V.D, but also consider how easily is to contract something as simple as scabies with anyone who may otherwise look healthy. Be careful my friend, if I were you I rather get my kicks with someone you are dating and is getting serious about, but if this is just a Pity sex spare of the moment type of thing I would still think about doing it twice!!


    Leandro ♥
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    May 10, 2010 10:21 PM GMT
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    Mystic_Man saidI am not trying to offend anyone here...Lets get that out of the way!!

    Do you know what I mean when I say PITY? (Self-pity)

    Seems there are a few who will try just about anything to get in the sak with you...do you give in....SHOULD I?

    I have this one guy I met years ago ask me if we could finish where we left off...meaning we met, had lunch and never hit the sak!!

    I like him as a friend, but actually, the hook up is a rare deal. At least in person....

    Hmmm?icon_question.gificon_question.gificon_idea.gificon_question.gificon_question.gif



    Buddy the ultimate decision is yours to do! but if I were you knowing how health conscious you are like me, I hope you are aware to not just consider protection from V.D, but also consider how easily is to contract something as simple as scabies with anyone who may otherwise look healthy. Be careful my friend, if I were you I rather get my kicks with someone you are dating and is getting serious about, but if this is just a Pity sex spare of the moment type of thing I would still think about doing it twice!!


    Leandro ♥



    Well,

    Thanks you for saying it...I deleted it from my topic, this young man, who I have always liked as a friend and I do think he is cute......IS NOW HIV POZ.....

    So,
    yes, condoms do work.....but you see now...I have to tell him that I just want to be friends ...and his HIV POZ status had nothing to do with it...if I wanted to be with him, I would of years ago...I know he will feel hurt anything I do say...Maybe I can just dance around naked for him....heheh

    I gave up on Mr Right...and dating.....Kicks...what could that possible beicon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 10, 2010 11:08 PM GMT
    Mystic_Man said
    ALEZANDAR said
    Mystic_Man saidI am not trying to offend anyone here...Lets get that out of the way!!

    Do you know what I mean when I say PITY? (Self-pity)

    Seems there are a few who will try just about anything to get in the sak with you...do you give in....SHOULD I?

    I have this one guy I met years ago ask me if we could finish where we left off...meaning we met, had lunch and never hit the sak!!

    I like him as a friend, but actually, the hook up is a rare deal. At least in person....

    Hmmm?icon_question.gificon_question.gificon_idea.gificon_question.gificon_question.gif



    Buddy the ultimate decision is yours to do! but if I were you knowing how health conscious you are like me, I hope you are aware to not just consider protection from V.D, but also consider how easily is to contract something as simple as scabies with anyone who may otherwise look healthy. Be careful my friend, if I were you I rather get my kicks with someone you are dating and is getting serious about, but if this is just a Pity sex spare of the moment type of thing I would still think about doing it twice!!


    Leandro ♥



    Well,

    Thanks you for saying it...I deleted it from my topic, this young man, who I have always liked as a friend and I do think he is cute......IS NOW HIV POZ.....

    So,
    yes, condoms do work.....but you see now...I have to tell him that I just want to be friends ...and his HIV POZ status had nothing to do with it...if I wanted to be with him, I would of years ago...I know he will feel hurt anything I do say...Maybe I can just dance around naked for him....heheh

    I gave up on Mr Right...and dating.....Kicks...what could that possible beicon_rolleyes.gif



    Buddy it is your life, so YEAH....you are entitle to do whatever it takes to take good care of yourself even if may hurt other people's susceptibilities. By the way I apologize if my recent comments about your other topic might have gotten you a bit uncomfortable? but getting back to this topic about pity sex, again I can't literate enough how important it is to set limits when it comes to sex these days. But hey I think the idea of dancing naked for your friend might just work!

    Leandro ♥
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    May 10, 2010 11:16 PM GMT
    ALEZANDAR said
    Mystic_Man said
    ALEZANDAR said
    Mystic_Man saidI am not trying to offend anyone here...Lets get that out of the way!!

    Do you know what I mean when I say PITY? (Self-pity)

    Seems there are a few who will try just about anything to get in the sak with you...do you give in....SHOULD I?

    I have this one guy I met years ago ask me if we could finish where we left off...meaning we met, had lunch and never hit the sak!!

    I like him as a friend, but actually, the hook up is a rare deal. At least in person....

    Hmmm?icon_question.gificon_question.gificon_idea.gificon_question.gificon_question.gif



    Buddy the ultimate decision is yours to do! but if I were you knowing how health conscious you are like me, I hope you are aware to not just consider protection from V.D, but also consider how easily is to contract something as simple as scabies with anyone who may otherwise look healthy. Be careful my friend, if I were you I rather get my kicks with someone you are dating and is getting serious about, but if this is just a Pity sex spare of the moment type of thing I would still think about doing it twice!!


    Leandro ♥



    Well,

    Thanks you for saying it...I deleted it from my topic, this young man, who I have always liked as a friend and I do think he is cute......IS NOW HIV POZ.....

    So,
    yes, condoms do work.....but you see now...I have to tell him that I just want to be friends ...and his HIV POZ status had nothing to do with it...if I wanted to be with him, I would of years ago...I know he will feel hurt anything I do say...Maybe I can just dance around naked for him....heheh

    I gave up on Mr Right...and dating.....Kicks...what could that possible beicon_rolleyes.gif



    Buddy it is your life, so YEAH....you are entitle to do whatever it takes to take good care of yourself even if may hurt other people's susceptibilities. By the way I apologize if my recent comments about your other topic might have gotten you a bit uncomfortable? but getting back to this topic about pity sex, again I can't literate enough how important it is to set limits when it comes to sex these days. But hey I think the idea of dancing naked for your friend might just work!

    Leandro ♥



    I am here to chat with all kinds of people. I am not here to offend anyone. I am rather blunt, my objective it to gain insight, understanding and more.

    No need to apologies to me Leandro, your cool. We had a nice conversation. I gained some valuable tips. I am not uncomfortable, I think others have always been uncomfortable with me in both the straight and gay worlds. I know what it is...I know what intimidation is...I am not really that bad, I am a cancer after all. We are emotional creatures, caring and nurturing individuals. At least this cancer man is!

    I am trying to reach out to all...seems I only real in a select few....
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    May 10, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    I've mostly been the recipient of pity sex, because I'm physically very unattractive. Then when we got into bed, the guy would tell me I'd given him the best sex of his life.

    And I'd tell him "Drop Dead" because you're never getting it again, since by then I knew where he was coming from. You didn't like me as I was, just a pity fuck, and now you want more because it was unexpectedly fantastic? Go to Hell, buddy, I reserve it for guys who might actually like ME.

    Yeah, I know about pity sex, and been hurt by it too many times to wanna be reminded. icon_razz.gif
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    May 10, 2010 11:36 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI don't have pity sex. But there have been times where in the beginning the sex wasn't all that great and I thought whether or not to stop because it wasn't working for me but as I allowed myself to keep going it got better.


    There have been times too where the guy didn't get hard and I would let him know that it wasn't important and that cuddling and massage were just as good.....nude of course. icon_twisted.gif


    I think getting into pity sex from the get go is an insult to everyone involved. It's like implying that you are too good for someone and to make matters worse you are 'granting' special permissions or making an exception.

    And it's an insult to yourself because you are not allowing your needs to be met - in terms of going after what pleases 'you.' You shouldn't get into a situation like having sex with someone and compromise your own wants and needs.


    I can't find what I need so what does it matter....Someone would be happy....
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    May 10, 2010 11:48 PM GMT
    Mystic_Man saidI can't find what I need so what does it matter....Someone would be happy....

    Are all Cancers like this? Sounds like something I would say.
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    May 10, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    sure - over the years there have been a one or two guys have taken pity on me
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    May 10, 2010 11:54 PM GMT
    Why would someone want to have sex with you if you didn't want to have sex with him?
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    May 10, 2010 11:57 PM GMT
    No I do not! The last time I was in this situation, My man from Russia had been back home for a few months, and I used to go to the place where we met for a few drinks. I was to befriend a nice looking young man, in fact most of the guys where going Gaga over him, and I was the first guy he had ever met that he had fallen in love with. He had spent most of his life getting his education and a PhD in pharmacy. I did not care how good looking he was, I was clear from the start the last thing I needed was another man in my life, as I already had two, and that was enough. The shit that guy put me though because he wanted sex with me, I did not with him, and never did, and anything he got he took.
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    May 11, 2010 12:00 AM GMT
    NNJfitandbi saidWhy would someone want to have sex with you if you didn't want to have sex with him?



    go figure!! lol
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    May 11, 2010 12:01 AM GMT
    FRONT2BACK saidsure - over the years there have been a one or two guys have taken pity on me


    lol
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    May 11, 2010 12:07 AM GMT
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    NNJfitandbi saidWhy would someone want to have sex with you if you didn't want to have sex with him?



    go figure!! lol


    right, so tell him you don't want to and be done with it -- he'll thank you
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    May 11, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    Yes... he turned out to be a dirty little bastard and I loved every second of it.
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    May 11, 2010 12:15 AM GMT
    NNJfitandbi said
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    NNJfitandbi saidWhy would someone want to have sex with you if you didn't want to have sex with him?



    go figure!! lol


    right, so tell him you don't want to and be done with it -- he'll thank you


    I have told guys before and they ended up hating me. I say it nicely too...they still hate me....

    I would rather just ignore it and not say anything, but I am sure he will persist. I like him, he's smart and funny, I just don't feel the need to hook up with him. Not that I couldn't fuck him silly...I just don't want to. So maybe it's me...rrr
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    May 11, 2010 12:27 AM GMT
    Mystic_Man said
    NNJfitandbi said
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    NNJfitandbi saidWhy would someone want to have sex with you if you didn't want to have sex with him?


    go figure!! lol


    right, so tell him you don't want to and be done with it -- he'll thank you


    I have told guys before and they ended up hating me. I say it nicely too...they still hate me....

    I would rather just ignore it and not say anything, but I am sure he will persist. I like him, he's smart and funny, I just don't feel the need to hook up with him. Not that I couldn't fuck him silly...I just don't want to. So maybe it's me...rrr


    If someone hates you for that you know that friendship isn't meant to be.
    If it's a real friend he will respect your desire to keep it platonic.
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    May 11, 2010 12:28 AM GMT
    dont do anything you dont want to.
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    May 11, 2010 12:37 AM GMT
    "Ah, sweet pity. Where would my love life have been without it?" - Homer Simpson
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    May 11, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    madtown said"Ah, sweet pity. Where would my love life have been without it?" - Homer Simpson


    lol

    It's funny, but it's not. I mean how many guys must engage in risky sex because of pity...


    Hmm
    I am wondering
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    May 11, 2010 12:49 AM GMT
    I've had pitiful sex, but never pity sex.
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    May 11, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    Once. I was drunk and had known him a really long time (since childhood). I realized the next morning I had gone home wearing his underwear. Did I say I was drunk?
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    May 11, 2010 12:59 AM GMT
    No. My body is my own to decide with whom I will have sex. I will not be coerced or cajoled. In fact, someone who tries too hard is unattractive to me. It is pitiable.
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    May 11, 2010 1:01 AM GMT
    Christian73 saidOnce. I was drunk and had known him a really long time (since childhood). I realized the next morning I had gone home wearing his underwear. Did I say I was drunk?

    So which of you two are we supposed to pity? Perhaps both?
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    May 11, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    Mystic_Man saidI can't find what I need so what does it matter....Someone would be happy....

    Are all Cancers like this? Sounds like something I would say.


    Yeah me too...

    I'd say no really. If you are not into him in that way don't do it. He will move on when he knows the answer is no.