Is he in the closet? Plz help :)

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    May 12, 2010 11:32 PM GMT
    I'm in the closet and I think my friend might also be,(i like him) but I don't know for sure. He's not really a close friend so I can't ask him straight up without him possibly getting mad/outing me or something like that. His friends are mostly macho straight guys and so are mine. (were both 17 in a highschool that isn't too accepting of gays)

    He's good looking, plays sports, but hes never had a g/f, or been with any girls when he could easily get one if he tried. He's also pretty outgoing, so I don't think its a shyness problem. It seems like he talks about everything but girls, when most hetero jock guys don't stop talking about girls.
    He said "you have nice eyes, no homo" to me. This was also before we were really friends, over a year ago(how many str8 guys would care to notice/say this?)
    He also likes to touch other guys, but in non-homo (joking/friendly)ways that most straight guys wouldn't mind, but a gay guy might think hes flirting.

    I just get this vibe from him in general from other things he does/says and I think he might be getting it from me also, so I'm trying to drop subtle hints, and respond to his "hints". Even if I am right, someone has to eventually break the ice and ask. I don't know when or how to do this though.

    Does he sound like a closet case to you, or do you think it's wishful thinking?
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    May 12, 2010 11:42 PM GMT
    What are the two of you doing after graduation?
    If you are going your separate ways, explore your sexuality in collage like most guys your age.
    If not then just tell him, make a time and a place and make it happen. Tell him you think you might be gay or bi and wonder what he thinks about it—No Homo.
    Wish I could tell you straight up he was gay, but your generation seems all gay to me.
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    May 13, 2010 12:02 AM GMT
    Thanks for the reply. We still have another year in h/s, so graduation isn't an issue right now.(my typo)
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    May 13, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    txx333 said(were both 17 in a highschool that isn't too accepting of gays)

    Your RJ profile says you are 20. Why the disparity?
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    May 13, 2010 12:09 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    txx333 said(were both 17 in a highschool that isn't too accepting of gays)

    Your RJ profile says you are 20. Why the disparity?

    I didn't know if there was some rule that you have to be 18 to sign up, and I'm not looking to photo share or date or anything on here, so I didn't think it was a big deal.
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    May 13, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    lol …I believe your original post said you were 18 and you have edit it to say 17 after I asked about graduation. Dude if you can’t be honest with some strangers on line…

    Ok, assuming you’re not a troll; I’ll have to say I can’t really be of any help, when I was your age girls were asking me out and didn’t know what gay was—lord I would have killed for internet.
    The most I could say is ask him out to dinner or a movie, like the straight’s do. If he asks you if it’s a date, say yes.
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    May 13, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    Just walk up to him, rip off his clothes, and start groping all over him. You'll find out if he's in the closet or not.
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    May 13, 2010 12:31 AM GMT
    nope I wouldnt call him gay, I had mates in highschool who didn't talk about girls, it's not that they weren't interested or anything it just wasn't the thing they talked about most and some of them didn't even start chasing girls until they were older and they ended up being far more successful as a dog after they'd hit there 20's then any of there mates had ever been.

    Plus guys are affectionate, especially some guys, it can very much be just a bonding thing or he was brought up in a home with a very affectionate family where touching wasn't considered "gay" or "unmanly" to do, most friends will happily tolerate an affectionate mate to a point and will receive that affection without any problem what so ever..
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    May 13, 2010 12:40 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidlol …I believe your original post said you were 18 and you have edit it to say 17 after I asked about graduation. Dude if you can’t be honest with some strangers on line…

    Ok, assuming you’re not a troll; I’ll have to say I can’t really be of any help, when I was your age girls were asking me out and didn’t know what gay was—lord I would have killed for internet.
    The most I could say is ask him out to dinner or a movie, like the straight’s do. If he asks you if it’s a date, say yes.

    Well according to the site, I think you're supposed to be 18, so that's why I orginally put 18, but seeing as that changes things, I switched it back. The movie idea is pretty good but I'm not really close friends with him yet, so it would sound pretty gay. Usually only good (straight) friends go and see movies together.
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    May 13, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    "so it would sound pretty gay."

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    Yeah

    ha ha ha
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    May 13, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    huh?
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    May 13, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    Hey txx333, what does, 'no homo' mean? I think you have your answer. icon_wink.gif


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    May 13, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    Any guy would say that if he was in the closet and didnt want anyone to be suspicious. I've said it plenty of times with str8 friends.
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    May 13, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    That's just it txx333, if he wanted you to know.....why would he say no homo to you in particular?
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    May 13, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    But, it was a loong time ago before all this other stuff. I didn't really even like him that much at that point.