Why do only older guys like me?

  • gjoseph

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    May 13, 2010 2:54 AM GMT
    Hey Guys,

    Sorry if it seems like I'm bitching or complaining but why do older guys i.e. guys old enough to be my own father like me? I was on Plentyoffish and a 60 yr old married man was like you sparked my interest in liking guys...I was like how and I politely declined any further contact if he wanted to "hook-up" etc. Also, whenever I go to the gay bars etc. guess who's hitting on me...older guys. I don't mind being friends, or chatting but taking it any further is too much for me.

    I guess you can say I had a "whore" phase and a-lot of guys my age are going through it but all I want is a guy that's sweet, around my age and we share common interests...is that too much to ask? I just feel like no guy around my age is into me or they just want sex. I feel so hopeless but I know I'm still young (19.5) and have PLENTY of time for a romance...I guess I'm scared of being old and alone.
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    May 13, 2010 3:09 AM GMT
    ".I guess I'm scared of being old and alone."
    I think that's very unlikely. icon_wink.gif


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    May 13, 2010 3:29 AM GMT
    cause you're a cutey patootey is why? Wanna date?

    Stop fretting about it. Tell the old guys like me you aren't interested and what the heck.. most guys young and old are only interested in sex anyways.. so that's what you're gonna get the most of at bars and clubs even by the guys around your age. Enjoy yourself... You'll meet "the guy" probably when you're least expecting to in a place or at a time you never expected.
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    May 13, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    You're 19. Most guys are older than you.

    Enjoy it, hotness. And, just say "thank you" to your admirers (who are polite about their affection).

    One day you might be the one giving out the complements and "it's all on the wheel".

    Be Well!
    Alan
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    May 13, 2010 7:10 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidYou're 19. Most guys are older than you.


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    May 13, 2010 7:11 AM GMT
    gjoseph saidWhy do only older guys like me?
    Because you're not old enough to ask "why do only younger guys like me?"
  • gjoseph

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    May 13, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    Thanks you guys! I for sure will stop worrying about finding "the one" and just let love take its course....Life is way too short so yes I definitely should have fun while I can.

    You guys are the best!!!
    -Gerald
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    May 13, 2010 5:49 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    gjoseph saidWhy do only older guys like me?
    Because you're not old enough to ask "why do only younger guys like me?"

    This! lol!
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    May 13, 2010 8:42 PM GMT
    just go with it and enjoy the compliment..take it for face value, they see you as attractive...Say Thank you,
  • nessthing

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    May 16, 2010 9:52 PM GMT
    I'm 19 myself, and I totally understand the anxiety. Most gay guys our age that I meet through school or whatever either ignore me or are seriously incompatible or both. Often they're going through similar phases of their life as me, but they haven't exactly figured out what they want or how to approach it. I know I haven't. We're usually in the same chapter, but not anywhere near the same page, if that makes sense.

    Internet dudes are largely the same.

    Good thing I like older men. Heh.
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    May 16, 2010 11:25 PM GMT
    Older guys tend to know a good thing when they see it and will opportunistically snag you up if they smell the need for attention and intimacy.

    Younger guys on the other hand are young. Meaning, they either don't know what they want right now or even worse know EXACTLY what they want down to a T lol.

    So be patient, enjoy life, learn to make friends and enjoy casual dating, and just see where life takes you. Don't assume that you as datable in your life right now as you will ever be. You have time to experiment, you have time to find yourself. Don't worry so much about tomorrow, it'll drive you mad. Trust me lol.
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    May 17, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    While you think that's all who notices you you could also be not noticing whose noticing you.

    Most immature guys (myself included) don't have any balls to step up to anyone and make the first move. This isn't entirely your fault as the "scene" is pretty intimidating with different varieties of gay "plastics" (<---- see movie Mean Girls)

    You can be friends with older gents but make sure it's strictly platonic if that's all you want. More times than often friends introduce you other guys who may spark your fancy.

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    May 17, 2010 12:38 AM GMT
    When you find out why, please tell me... I would love to know the secret icon_wink.gif
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    May 17, 2010 12:48 AM GMT
    they want to suck your youth of you : )
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    May 17, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    IsmeIvan1990 saidthey want to suck your youth of you : )


    reminds me of the south part episode where Chef got killed
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    May 17, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    See where you fit in the food chain and then see where the guy you want fits in it. Is he more sought-after than you?
  • barriehomeboy

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    May 17, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    It takes time, this online thing. You can't post a profile and expect to meet Mr Right in a few weeks. You reap what you sow. Put out an interesting profile and some pix of a nice looking guy, you'll eventually, emphasis on eventually, get some bites, like a minnow on a fishing line. Pix of a babyfaced guy are going to attract mostly child molestors.
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    May 17, 2010 1:32 AM GMT
    gjoseph saidHey Guys,

    Sorry if it seems like I'm bitching or complaining but why do older guys i.e. guys old enough to be my own father like me? I was on Plentyoffish and a 60 yr old married man was like you sparked my interest in liking guys...I was like how and I politely declined any further contact if he wanted to "hook-up" etc. Also, whenever I go to the gay bars etc. guess who's hitting on me...older guys. I don't mind being friends, or chatting but taking it any further is too much for me.

    I guess you can say I had a "whore" phase and a-lot of guys my age are going through it but all I want is a guy that's sweet, around my age and we share common interests...is that too much to ask? I just feel like no guy around my age is into me or they just want sex. I feel so hopeless but I know I'm still young (19.5) and have PLENTY of time for a romance...I guess I'm scared of being old and alone.


    PREACH!!!
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    May 17, 2010 10:45 AM GMT
    perhaps they have straight fantasies...
  • Nayro

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    May 17, 2010 11:06 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidperhaps they have straight fantasies...


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    May 17, 2010 12:17 PM GMT
    Christ, man... just be grateful that someone said that they find you attractive and say thank you! Who cares how old he is? A compliment is a compliment... be humble enough to take one.
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    May 17, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    Why do only YOUNGER guys like me?
  • Joeyphx444

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    May 17, 2010 4:19 PM GMT
    Guys my age are too into partying and being stupid. That or they still don't know who they are. Sometimes an older guy is past all that shit.

    It's tough when a lot of the guys my age are looking for older and I am looking for my age icon_razz.gif I am sure it is the same with older guys.

    I am about to be 21 and maybe just the whole hype of that age and what people think about it will change my luck with men
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    May 17, 2010 4:25 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidperhaps they have straight fantasies...


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    May 17, 2010 4:29 PM GMT
    No Offense to the original poster, but "younger" guys tend not to be so attracted to overly fem guys, we tend to look for more of equals than distinct 'roles' in a realtionship (outside of the bedroom)


    In Ireland a big thing in the last 3 or 4 years is older guys with young 'petite' Asian guys, you see it all the time, where as people obvioulsy have their types, but I find 20 - 40 year old guys tend to be more 'balanced' in what they are attracted to.