Wanting A BoyFriend

  • cowboy_527

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    May 15, 2010 2:26 PM GMT
    I am just a average country guy who is looking for a long term relationship. I have been trying to do so for the last few years without any luck. I would be open for anyone to write me if they are single and interested. I live in Northern New York State in the mountains and would like to stay living here. SO if your interested in coming for a visit and see how we get along and let your heart open and feel. I would welcome you into my life. icon_biggrin.gif
  • DCEric

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    May 15, 2010 3:57 PM GMT
    You are 20 and frustrated with a lack of a relationship? Relax take it easy. It will happen.
  • Abc123456

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    May 15, 2010 5:30 PM GMT
    It sucks hearing, "you're young, it'll come" when you desperately want the real deal from a quality guy. So, I'm not gonna say that, even though it's true.

    In the mean time DO stuff that makes you an appealing person to someone else. Think about the qualities you desire and use your single-ness to drive you. Nothing works better for motivation than the search for a partner. The brightest birds, the most elaborate dances by snakes, the thoughest ram skulls are all motivated by billions of years of, "this is what I offer". Just stay smart and don't let your drive become obsessive. And desperate attempts at suitable dudes are a turn-off; so don't come on too strong. Make sure your date-es are good for you, and don't worry about whether you're good enough for them. Everyone has a type, and it's magic when you find yours. You're going in the right direction by putting yourself out there; stick to your values and you'll find something like mr right... Maybe even mr right himself.

    It might also help to show who you are by creating the most accurate presentation of you; include pictures, and relavent information.
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    May 15, 2010 9:46 PM GMT
    I 2nd what..

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    May 16, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    KentuckyTuss saidI 2nd what..

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    hah! lovely use of grammar economy icon_biggrin.gif
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    May 16, 2010 12:16 AM GMT
    cowboy_527 saidI am just a average country guy who is looking for a long term relationship. I have been trying to do so for the last few years without any luck. I would be open for anyone to write me if they are single and interested. I live in Northern New York State in the mountains and would like to stay living here. SO if your interested in coming for a visit and see how we get along and let your heart open and feel. I would welcome you into my life. icon_biggrin.gif


    I know what you mean... though I'd prefer to move eventually...
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    May 16, 2010 12:18 AM GMT
    cowboy_527 saidI am just a average country guy who is looking for a long term relationship. I have been trying to do so for the last few years without any luck. I would be open for anyone to write me if they are single and interested. I live in Northern New York State in the mountains and would like to stay living here. SO if your interested in coming for a visit and see how we get along and let your heart open and feel. I would welcome you into my life. icon_biggrin.gif


    I love rural life...but I realized its not suited for gentlemen of our persuasion. I hope you find what you are looking for dude.
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    May 16, 2010 8:40 PM GMT
    I can understand your frustration not living in a "gay mecca" but trust me..10 years in the thick of things and I have tons of friends in just your shoes. Sometimes it's a numbers game, sometimes it's hard work, sometimes it's pure luck.

    First I'd suggest to do something different each month to expand your contacts. This could be gay rodeo, a weekend trip to a college town, look for an inclusive church, etc. There are websites solely for rural gay men and women and you probably should be there.

    Second, I agree with the other RJ member that you need to be more 'out there' online. A clear face pic, some REAL information that would start a conversation (books, movies, discussion points) can make a profile attractive, not , huh?

    And lastly, open your heart, make room in your home for another person, and take some time each day to journal your feelings.

    .......been there (from Kansas)

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    May 16, 2010 9:22 PM GMT
    why look let him come to you...just have fun and live your life............
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    May 16, 2010 9:29 PM GMT
    living in a gay mecca makes it worse, just so you know.
    At least in a small town other guys have fewer options and less distractions.
    I have given up completely, long ago, and I really don't care to tell you the truth.