Web Cam Me Why Is The Web Cam So Important?

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    May 18, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    We met on balls and players site.
    He was a short stop.
    I was a pitcher.
    He was 12 years younger, and a Muslim.
    I was way too jaded, and skeptical of God.

    Conversation was running smoothly online.
    He actually did more than talk in one line sentences
    of "wassup?" and "kewl."
    I actually didn't let his age stand in the way of
    communication.

    Until this came up.

    Do you cam?
    Do you got yahoo?

    I actually done both but grew immediately bored and
    impatient with the whole ordeal of online dating and
    socialization. Cams are blurry, obscure devices that
    really are just preludes to cheap sex.
    Instant messaging became a real headache because
    dudes from all over will be hitting me up because of
    my blogs, and I really didn't feel like living my whole
    life out online.

    So I just don't cam.

    I don't instant message either. If we're just getting to know each
    other, then my pixels and pasted on pics should be good
    enough. If its good enough for Uncle Sam on my driver's
    license, then it should be good enough, and my emails
    will have to suffice.

    But he pointed out that caming will take it to another
    level. What level is that? I haven't experienced it.
    Why does he need more?
    Why do I need less?


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    May 18, 2010 4:09 AM GMT
    You're missing the obvious: web cams validate a person in real time.
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    May 18, 2010 6:23 AM GMT
    chuckystud saidYou're missing the obvious: web cams validate a person in real time.


    this. It´s easy to fake a pic: faking a cam when the other person has just asked you to stick your tongue out while pulling on your ears is not so easy.
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    May 18, 2010 6:31 AM GMT
    an interesting point - but I also (very quickly) tire of interacting on the digital landscape unless they are so far away that talking is silly. I don't know. It happens locally too, which is very frustrating. My new rule is: if we don't talk within 2 weeks then they're just not interested enough. End of story. Cam(ming) seems like a decent extension of that, actually... because it's real-time. Phone+. But one must make one's "calls" on such scenarios as they come (hah!). I say: try it, and see what happens. Though it honestly sounds like there may be some fundamental(ist) divides. icon_confused.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    May 18, 2010 6:42 AM GMT
    The webcam is intrusive, and invades that 3 foot zone of intimacy that makes us uncomfortable when we're with other people. I don't look really great when viewed through a lens, but I'm kinda hot in person. I wish to have more control over your first impression of me.
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    May 18, 2010 6:47 AM GMT
    I don't have huge qualms using cam for some sort of verification purpose, but I get very annoyed very fast when it turns into a strip show request.
  • inuman

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    May 20, 2010 5:00 AM GMT
    masterdefense said

    But he pointed out that caming will take it to another
    level. What level is that? I haven't experienced it.
    Why does he need more?
    Why do I need less?





    Well he would need more in the realm that he knows the pixels you mentioned are of you and not some guy or gal who gets his or her jollies off of the fact that they had a gay man hoping for more then just a nice chat, that maybe the person on the other end is real and maybe at some point would like to meet even for a coffee icon_question.gif

    Why do you need less is the question I wanna know. I know you said yourself that your pixels would have to suffice. What if the role was reversed and you found yourself asking to see the person on cam, just to confirm its really him and not the above mentioned.

    Should it not be fair that its a two way street, you expect him to be a real person and so should he, if he's shown you he has all his teeth and a nice mug on cam and that's it, why won't you do the same?

    I know we live in a world of "me, me, me, mine, mine, mine, now, now, now" but sometimes you have to give a little to get a lot, if that makes sense in regards to your open question(s)...
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    May 21, 2010 7:48 PM GMT
    Webcams are for people who are trying to meet up 4 instant sex...icon_lol.gif
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    May 21, 2010 8:00 PM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidThe webcam is intrusive, and invades that 3 foot zone of intimacy that makes us uncomfortable when we're with other people. I don't look really great when viewed through a lens, but I'm kinda hot in person. I wish to have more control over your first impression of me.


    This demonstrates just how distorted the views of people have become. If you meet someone at a social event, the bar, a dance, church, beer league hockey, they see you up close and personal. There's no excuse for folks trying to remain hidden behind a shroud. (I ditch them immediately.).

    Clearly, some folks have forgotten social skills and the value of physical appearance in social interactions.

    Now, I concur that some fat asses want a strip show from folks on the web cam. I don't EVER use it in that way. I'm NOT entertainment for some fat ass stuck in his apartment, but, a picture, especially in real time, is worth a thousand words.

    I pre-ignore picture-less on this site, and others. If someone is too stupid, or too lazy, to be able to put pictures up and complete a profile, in 2010, then, they MOST clearly at NOT worth my time.
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    May 21, 2010 8:09 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidI don't have huge qualms using cam for some sort of verification purpose, but I get very annoyed very fast when it turns into a strip show request.

    While attending the 1964-65 New York World's Fair, I tried the Picture Phone demonstration in the Bell Telephone pavilion. You sat in a booth and used this desk phone with a screen to talk with someone in another nearby booth. We were assured these would begin appearing in our homes in just a few years.

    Well, you know where idea that went. And while clumsy tele-conferencing became available some decades later, it took the Internet to sorta cobble together the webcam version we have today, more by accident than design.

    I've seen guys sit in their homes, dick in hand, mutually whacking off to another guy on the other side of the planet. I don't think that was foreseen in 1964 once we got these things into our homes. Our images of a Brave New World have instead given way to the Baudy Naughty Web.

    I sometimes do use Skype webcam with people I already know, for the pleasure of seeing them in person and to make our conversation more special. But it's all prearranged ahead of time, I can't ever imagine myself answering a webcam call as casually as I answer the phone. And I don't use it for exhibitionism or cheap thrills. Thank gawd I have the real thing in the next room, and don't need jerky low-res images to excite me.
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    May 22, 2010 2:17 AM GMT
    When a guy you just met online is very anxious to cam, it probably means he's a scammer. He'll tell you to go to this special site. Cuz it's free and it's the only way he can cam with you. But when you actually go to that free site, it will ask you for a credit card to verify your age. icon_lol.gif
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    May 22, 2010 2:22 AM GMT
    I don't really see the point of cam sex, to be honest. The idea does not turn me on. I'd rather watch some porn if I'm going to jerk off at home.
  • danisnotstr8

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    May 22, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    First, a compliment:

    You're a good writer. The way you presented your story was poignant and interesting. I loved the short sentences, the brief comparisons, your command of rhetoric, and the almost prose-like unravelling of your situation.

    Second, my personal thoughts on webcams:

    my BF lives in another country until june 30th. he's in israel. i'm in new jersey. we spend hours every day on cam... and we sleep with our laptops in bed next to us so we can pretend we're in bed together. we do our best.

    skype is amazing. sure, we have our sexual moments as well, but what's wrong with that? it's realistic.

    Third, to address your issue in particuar:

    you don't instant message, you don't cam... do you plan on meeting? what's wrong with going on a camera with him? just to say hello, to see his mannerisms, his smile, hear his laugh, see the twinkle in his eyes... what's the fear that people have of all this? it's a lot more realistic than exchanging pics and finding you have a couple of things in common...

    the internet becomes a hiding place for so many people. it can be used in other ways, and if people (and by people I mean americans) weren't so afraid of sex and intimacy, it can be used for that too. but there's some degree of unreasonable guilt and shame that people feel for that.

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    May 22, 2010 2:57 AM GMT
    Intuition is more effective than webcam to validate a person.
    Webcamming can only show what the person looks like. It cannot determine whether or not the person is actually going to show up, and be who he says he is. Anyone can "put on a show" for the cam. icon_wink.gif
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    May 22, 2010 3:42 AM GMT
    masculine31 saidWebcams are for people who are trying to meet up 4 instant sex...icon_lol.gif


    and .. so most of people who use their cams on JR chat are after instant sex .. interesting, web cam can go either way, ones who seek to see that the person they're talking to is real - since photos can be fake - and ones who say they want to hook up, meet up etc and wanna see if you're hot for that lol.