Guys my age not interested.. only older men. Why?

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    May 19, 2010 8:17 AM GMT
    I just don't really understand this. Seems like only older men ever hit on me and never the younger guys. When i try to talk to guys my age, i just get ignored. I know i am kinda short and young looking for a 21 year old so maybe thats a reason? I have no idea! Would like to hear some thoughts on this! Thanks.
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    May 19, 2010 12:56 PM GMT
    Josh2227 saidI just don't really understand this. Seems like only older men ever hit on me and never the younger guys. When i try to talk to guys my age, i just get ignored. I know i am kinda short and young looking for a 21 year old so maybe thats a reason? I have no idea! Would like to hear some thoughts on this! Thanks.

    same thing has happened to me, but i dont mind

  • Kage

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    May 19, 2010 1:04 PM GMT
    Older guys are hot.
    They know what they want and the certainly know what you want and more than willing to give it.

    The worst sex I have had is with a younger guy and the best sex I have ever had is with an older guy.

    Are you a top or bottom btw?
    It is more dificult as a top at your age to find a willing bottom.
    Duck-tape works wonders for that.
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    May 19, 2010 1:17 PM GMT
    I'm an older guy (43) and younger guys (under 30) are really attracted to me. I don't know what it is: perhaps that I'm settled in a career, stable, not a player, etc... There's a perceived maturity I suppose. I have had only one lover since I've come out in October who was near my age. The rest have been 24, 30, and 31. Again dunno why. My friends call me CouGAY LOL! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 19, 2010 1:41 PM GMT
    Kage saidOlder guys are hot.
    They know what they want and the certainly know what you want and more than willing to give it.

    The worst sex I have had is with a younger guy and the best sex I have ever had is with an older guy.

    Are you a top or bottom btw?
    It is more dificult as a top at your age to find a willing bottom.
    Duck-tape works wonders for that.

    You obviously haven't had a roll with me icon_razz.gif
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    May 19, 2010 1:42 PM GMT
    Nowadays, I'm the "older" guy which is cool, in a sense. In the past, I typically have gone for guys older than me, however it seems that the perception that they got their SHIT together, at least mentally & emotionally, is a crock o' shit!

    Now, this is based off my personal experiences so bare with me. In my eyes, you're a man. An adult. Act/behave and carry yourself accordingly, there is NO need to behave like a 12 year old little emotionally wrecked little girl when you're a 40-something year old man. So, as I continue to age I am now leaning towards younger guys because the seem to be a bit more emotionally stronger, I know it sounds ass backwards but again, my personal experiences.
  • Kage

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    May 19, 2010 1:50 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Kage saidOlder guys are hot.
    They know what they want and the certainly know what you want and more than willing to give it.

    The worst sex I have had is with a younger guy and the best sex I have ever had is with an older guy.

    Are you a top or bottom btw?
    It is more dificult as a top at your age to find a willing bottom.
    Duck-tape works wonders for that.

    You obviously haven't had a roll with me icon_razz.gif


    No.
    I have a feeling that you might be the one to change my mind. icon_twisted.gif
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    May 19, 2010 1:51 PM GMT
    oh you'd feel something alright ;)
  • iHavok

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    May 19, 2010 1:55 PM GMT
    Josh2227 saidI just don't really understand this. Seems like only older men ever hit on me and never the younger guys. When i try to talk to guys my age, i just get ignored. I know i am kinda short and young looking for a 21 year old so maybe thats a reason? I have no idea! Would like to hear some thoughts on this! Thanks.


    Could be many different things... It's not a problem unique to you, personally I do not approach guys under the age of 25 because I recall how awkward and uncomfortable it was to be that age and hit on (usually they were persistent too).

    Wanna make them stop fast? Tell them your personal philosophy is that if they can't find something attractive enough about a 40 year old to make them date one, you shouldn't have to either.

    Gets the point across fast...but then again it is rather rude also.

    and as far as reasoning, i lean towards men using it as a way to try to lie to themselves about their actual age and whats expected of them at this stage in life, almost related to a Peter Pan syndrome.
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    May 19, 2010 2:19 PM GMT
    Josh2227 saidI just don't really understand this. Seems like only older men ever hit on me and never the younger guys. When i try to talk to guys my age, i just get ignored. I know i am kinda short and young looking for a 21 year old so maybe thats a reason? I have no idea! Would like to hear some thoughts on this! Thanks.


    wow...same here...i dont look my age =/, i am 21 in August and i still look like a high School guy...-.-
    And yes...i tried to talk to people my age but they ignore me...i just want friends =/, i am not looking for a boyfriend directly...well, if that friend of mine get interested on me and me on him, well it can happen, but...they ignore so much...maybe they are not looking for friends...
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    May 19, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    Soon you will learn the wonders of an older man. My perfect man: 6'-6'4", 150-175 lbs, 26-30...
  • Hunter9

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    May 19, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    same here, the ratio of guys that hit on me that are 40+ compared to under 30 is like 4 to 1. ethnically, asians hit on me FAR more than any other ethnicity (and yes, there is a big asian community here, but they are vastly over-represented in guys that hit on me)
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    May 19, 2010 2:38 PM GMT
    Generally older guys are more confident and will approach you while younger guys are less confident or do not feel the need to approach other guys because they are themselves being approached by older guys.

    I would continue to approach guys, andif one of them ignores you speak to his friend...
  • dhinkansas

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    May 19, 2010 2:51 PM GMT
    No offense to anyone because I can only speak based on what I've encountered with other guys around my age (4icon_cool.gif who state an unwillingness to date anyone over 30. Sometimes I think it's an ego thing, and they trump the Peter Pan card and refuse to admit they've grown up. And being past 40 is ok. We all had our time in our 20's and 30's, and it shouldn't last forever. With that said, attraction is attraction, and numerous threads have beat the is he too old or too young for me topic to death.
  • rnch

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    May 19, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    Josh2227 said... i am kinda short and young looking...
    what you consider as a liability today will be an asset 10 or 20 years from now! icon_cool.gif
  • HOTWEILLER

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    May 19, 2010 2:59 PM GMT
    this is getting so normal. In my case i just feel interested for older guys (with more than 15 or 20 years of difference), many young guys are thinking like me... we are in an age that we want to learn, no to teach, and these experient and older guys can offer this for us
  • italguynj

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    May 19, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    As an "older" guy and friends who are 35+, the consensus is not really about maturity since there are tons and tons of immature older guys and there are younger guys who are confident and mature. It more about compatibility and being on the same rug of the ladder when it comes to many different aspects of life: stage of life, friends, physical bodies, careers, house ownership, etc. Typically, people within a certain similar age range just get along better. Additionally, 'older guys' have experienced what it was like when we were younger especially with the fact that men are men & everyone needs time to sew their wild oats. I would say the fear of a 40 year old to date a 25 year is quite reliable. Even if you had a great relationship but it ends after say 5 years, the younger guy is still typically young, fit & has many dating years ahead of him. The older man does not and he has a lot more to lose when getting involved with a younger man.
  • wellwell

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    May 19, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
    It'z b'cuz short dudes w/ man-sized dix are awesome, and all the "older" guys well know it !!
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    May 19, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    how much older are we talking about here? 40s?50s?60?

    Young guys generally think that they own the world and that their shit don't stink! Give it a chance..
  • rnch

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    May 19, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    wellwell saidIt'z b'cuz short dudes w/ man-sized dix are awesome, and all the "older" guys well know it !!
    yes, agree 100%! icon_twisted.gif
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    May 19, 2010 3:29 PM GMT
    It's the same for me, I'm 19, most guys who are interested are 26+.

    Not that this is a problem. it's delightful. I love it. The guy I'm semi seeing now is 29 and Ooooh what a stud icon_razz.gif

    The only problem in the past has been that a lot of the older guys who hit on me see me as this easy little bottom twink. And then I tell them I'm not easy, nor am I a bottom, and they laugh, say whatever, and wander off.
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    May 19, 2010 3:49 PM GMT
    YES THAT IS SO TRUE!!! So sometimes older men don't understand don't totally understand everything, but they're usually hotter than the younger ones ;-)
  • calibro

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    May 19, 2010 3:59 PM GMT
    I actually prefer older men so it's not an issue with me. I say embrace it and go out with one if there's some chemistry. You'd be surprised where love shows up if you stop preventing it from coming in.
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    May 19, 2010 4:10 PM GMT
    Guys hit on you?! Lucky man!
  • gjoseph

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    May 19, 2010 6:00 PM GMT
    Ahh this topic is identical to the one I started a couple of days ago....how can one fight against the social stigma of dating someone that is "older". If I dated a 33 yr old my friends would treat me as if I'm a gold-digger or someone who is desperate.