Single Again :-)

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    May 19, 2010 6:59 PM GMT
    I am single for the first time since I was 20, just ended a 19 and half year relationship. An amicable split...we just have been roomates rather than lovers for the past 5-7 years. Time for us both to let go and allow each other to grow.

    Excited, nervous, happy and feel like I am 20 again! Anyway, just sharing my excitement! Anyone else go through a breakup after a long relationship and live to tell about it? Was it difficult dating again after so long? I am not looking for commitment at the moment because I want to find myself again, but I do want to date and finally get laid again REGULARLY. Will the fact that I am recently out of a 19 year relationship and not looking for an immediate husband again be a turn off?

    :-) :-) :-)
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    May 19, 2010 7:15 PM GMT
    gfromftl said myself again, but I do want to date and finally get laid again REGULARLY. Will the fact that I am recently out of a 19 year relationship and not looking for an immediate husband again be a turn off?

    :-) :-) :-)


    No, most guys out there are not looking for a husband.

    Glad you're out there. Keeping you bottled up in a bad sexless relationship[ was a waste of perfectly good hotness. icon_wink.gif
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    May 19, 2010 11:11 PM GMT
    gfromftl saidWill the fact that I am recently out of a 19 year relationship and not looking for an immediate husband again be a turn off?

    uh.... *ponders*



    Noooo, I'm thinking that's not going to be a turn off sweety.. just between you and I of course *gives funny look*

    I recently and finally ended a 9 year relationship (long story) anyway, the whole men thing is far easier then I thought it would and I live in backwaters of Sydney... Hell.. they all ugly out here!! (well, most of them)

    You can get laid pretty easily, I haven't started dating... but screwing around is like buying a used car... you got sooooooooooo many cheap options icon_razz.gif
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    May 19, 2010 11:46 PM GMT
    Hey, you're only 39 and you'll be busy. I'm thinking that the only thing a track record of a 19 year relationship will do is attract guys that are impressed with dedication and may want to settle down. Heheh, tell 'em you'll take a rain-check.

    ...and if you're not going commando make sure you're wearing clean undies and play nice with the other kids, unless they want to play dirty (sorry, channeling my inner parent icon_redface.gif

    -Doug

    PS Perhaps lilTanker can come up with a Newly Single Kit. Hmm, this could be kinda fun.

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    May 20, 2010 2:50 PM GMT
    I went a little nuts after my 15 yr relationship ended (not much sex at the end there....OK, none!)

    Now 5 yrs later the novelty has worn off and while I do enjoy the freedom of doing things my way, I'll admit that I'd rather be with a partner.

    So, enjoy yourself!
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    May 20, 2010 7:20 PM GMT
    Huge smile on my face, and so ready to have some fun! Thanks, guys
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    May 20, 2010 7:23 PM GMT
    Congrats and welcome to rediscovering you. That's the best part of finding yourself single again after a long relationship. Glad it ended amicably too, never fun when things are messy and full of Drama.
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    May 20, 2010 7:37 PM GMT
    lilTanker said.. but screwing around is like buying a used car... you got sooooooooooo many cheap options icon_razz.gif


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    May 20, 2010 7:40 PM GMT
    gfromftl said Will the fact that I am recently out of a 19 year relationship and not looking for an immediate husband again be a turn off?

    :-) :-) :-)



    nah, i wouldn't worry about it. and like the previous posters said, welcome to rediscovering you! this can be an exciting time for ya. but you gotta promise to keep us posted!
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    May 20, 2010 7:40 PM GMT
    gfromftl saidI am single for the first time since I was 20, just ended a 19 and half year relationship. An amicable split...we just have been roomates rather than lovers for the past 5-7 years. Time for us both to let go and allow each other to grow.

    Excited, nervous, happy and feel like I am 20 again! Anyway, just sharing my excitement! Anyone else go through a breakup after a long relationship and live to tell about it? Was it difficult dating again after so long? I am not looking for commitment at the moment because I want to find myself again, but I do want to date and finally get laid again REGULARLY. Will the fact that I am recently out of a 19 year relationship and not looking for an immediate husband again be a turn off?

    :-) :-) :-)


    No, enjoy your freedom and independence! icon_biggrin.gif

    Being your own man is attractive in itself.
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    May 20, 2010 8:04 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    gfromftl saidWill the fact that I am recently out of a 19 year relationship and not looking for an immediate husband again be a turn off?

    uh.... *ponders*



    Noooo, I'm thinking that's not going to be a turn off sweety.. just between you and I of course *gives funny look*

    I recently and finally ended a 9 year relationship (long story) anyway, the whole men thing is far easier then I thought it would and I live in backwaters of Sydney... Hell.. they all ugly out here!! (well, most of them)

    You can get laid pretty easily, I haven't started dating... but screwing around is like buying a used car... you got sooooooooooo many cheap options icon_razz.gif



    Hey LilTanker what's up with the muse!? you never cease to amaze me! I like your logic!!


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    May 20, 2010 8:29 PM GMT
    Good God, no. Play. Play safe. And man....brother, I feel your story more than you can imagine, and more than the rest of RJ cares to hear about again. Trust me.

    Just be mindful of your heart, and anybody else's in the process. Men say they don't want a husband, and the same ones love hearing it, and long for it more than those who say nothing.

    I envy you this ability. I'm not made that way. I'm happy to play, but know full good and well where I "live" and so I'm not capable of playing for too long, and I don't like entering anything too glibly. So, I float until I bump and look up and see if it's real. Otherwise, I just get too caught up.

    You...I think you can handle that. So be mindful, be safe. Go be!