does being thin matter?

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    May 20, 2010 12:55 PM GMT
    Hey there,

    I don't know how to start this, but I was wondering for about months now. I'm a thin guy no matter what I eat (large portions of food) I'm still gonna be thin, it's a gene thing I got from my family - thanks mom and dad - my question here does it really matter whether you're thin or muscled to be noticed among other men?

    I do sometimes notice men seeing me, that's a good thing but I mean I wanna know if being thin matters for not being noticed by other guys that sees thin men to be - sorry for saying this - gross or just normal not something that they would actually be interested in?

    I just wanna be familiar with the big picture here when it comes to guys, does being thin matter? how so? and anything you wanna share feel free to do so.

    Thanks a lot,

    ab.
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    May 20, 2010 2:50 PM GMT
    I'm thin, and back when I was dating and sexually active, there was no shortage of guys who were interested in me. However, athletic/muscular guys were generally not interested, so that may be a problem for you if those are the guys you're interested in.
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    May 20, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    I have a thing for thin guys...so lanky, taller or even shorter and thin...

    I will do a double take more than for a guy with bulging muscles and Guido hair.
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    May 20, 2010 7:39 PM GMT
    paradox saidI'm thin, and back when I was dating and sexually active, there was no shortage of guys who were interested in me. However, athletic/muscular guys were generally not interested, so that may be a problem for you if those are the guys you're interested in.


    Pretty much.

    I will note that it is possible to bulk up to some extent with diet and exercise. I'm not sure to what extent you can really change your skeletal structure however; part of being thin might include less broad shoulders and less robust rib cage.
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    May 21, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    oh oh oh, I'm just gonna come right out and say it... I like thin guys, there fucking HOT as hell, ya know, I like beefy, buff, what ever, but I gotta admit, thin guys are really getting my attention lately, I see one walking by and I turn into a puddle of drool hahaha!

    YES, thin guys are very kewl by me!
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    May 21, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    Why are you hiding under that hoodie?
    from what I can see of your face, you have nothing to hide.
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    Feb 11, 2013 7:44 PM GMT
    Giovannix0x saidok this is an old post but it really doesn't matter if your thin or not. If I was muscular I don't think that would make any difference to gay guys. Someone will either find you attractive or not.


    You obviously haven't been gay for very long if you think that haha.
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    Feb 11, 2013 7:47 PM GMT
    I don't think it's so black and white. I've seen plenty of muscle guys with thin bfs. It all depends on what we are attracted to.
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    Feb 11, 2013 8:01 PM GMT
    I'm the same as the OP, its in my genes though. All of my family eat like horses and put on no weight.

    Even at the top of my fitness I still look thin (Triathlon training) but I've accepted it and guys still like me so I don't care anyway icon_biggrin.gif

    (I'll be fat in a few years though, thats what happened to my siblings hahaha)
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    Feb 11, 2013 8:08 PM GMT
    Thin/athletic build guys usually draw my attention first.. don't really know why but really buff/muscular guys just don't it for me. So its all good icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 11, 2013 8:57 PM GMT
    Giovannix0x saidI weigh about 130 lbs. and I'm 6'2. I eat alot and and go to the gym, but I have a ultra-fast metabolism. If I gained 50 lbs. would that make me more attractive?


    Who are you asking and 50lbs of muscle or fat?
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    Feb 11, 2013 8:58 PM GMT
    I've been thin most of my life. Doesn't matter to me at all.
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    Feb 11, 2013 9:17 PM GMT
    Giovannix0x saidI weigh about 130 lbs. and I'm 6'2. I eat alot and and go to the gym, but I have a ultra-fast metabolism. If I gained 50 lbs. would that make me more attractive?


    I'm 6'2" and gained 50lbs in 5 years, almost entirely lean mass (my bf remained the same), but I'm still very lanky and people still incredulously ask me "do you work out?" when they see me drinking my protein shakes. Needless to say the fashion industry is not on our side and it will be very difficult to find well fitting shirts while you are anywhere below 200lbs. Most shirts will make you look thinner than you already are in the meanwhile.

    To answer your question... yes, you will be more attractive if you gain 50lbs of lean mass. If that will be enough to attract buff guys around your age, that's a whole different story.

    At only 130lbs you will still be quite lanky even if you gain 50lbs of lean mass and you will still be several pounds away from breaking through the lanky barrier, which for our height means being somewhere between 200lbs-220lbs.
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    Feb 11, 2013 9:30 PM GMT
    Giovannix0x saidI was asking anyone. Would having muscle mass really make a difference in my attraction? Alot of people at work say i'm too skinny, but if I gained weight and muscle I'm not sure if that would make me more attractive to gaymen. I have'nt really met alot of gaymen, but I've been to gay nightclubs a couple of times, and no one looked at me or anything. So I do wonder if it's because I'm slender??


    I think I may have answered your question well since we are equally tall and I have gained 50lbs as you were asking. You will have to gain a lot more than 50lbs, much more than most people would have to gain, with the extra hindrance that you are an ectomorph, so you will have to eat more and spend more on food to sustain the same amount of mass that would cost less to mesomorphs or endomorphs.

    Giovannix0x saidI should'nt make a difference to a guy if i'm muscular or thin.


    Would you date someone as skinny as you?
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    Feb 11, 2013 9:46 PM GMT
    Thin may not have the social currency as well proportioned muscular, but it still beats out morbidly obese! icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 11, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
    Make sure you dress in clothes that suit skinny guys instead of the oversized stupid clothes I used to wear when I was skinny in the 90s (shudder).

    Examples of clothes to wear: cable knit sweater, cardigan, fitted v neck t-shirt, denim jacket, double breasted coat.
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    Feb 11, 2013 9:56 PM GMT
    bus9ja2d saidExamples of clothes to wear: fitted v neck t-shirt


    Don't give him ideas...

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    Feb 11, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    bachian said
    bus9ja2d saidExamples of clothes to wear: fitted v neck t-shirt


    Don't give him ideas...

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    I would like to apologise for that individual, on behalf of everyone from the UK.

    Skinny guys in fitted v necks have a cool sort of rock star look icon_biggrin.gif same with the denim jacket.
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    Giovannix0x saidIs being skinny really a dealbreaker?? Would I have a problem landing any of these muscular guys on RJ or in real live just because I'm skinny?

    Yes and Yes.
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    Feb 11, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    Giovannix0x saidIs being skinny really a dealbreaker?? Would I have a problem landing any of these muscular guys on RJ or in real live just because I'm skinny?


    Please refer to one of the 74,000 threads on this issue. Bye.
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    Feb 11, 2013 11:58 PM GMT
    Giovannix0x saidIs being skinny really a dealbreaker?? Would I have a problem landing any of these muscular guys on RJ or in real live just because I'm skinny?


    Why do you single out muscular guys? Why can you not date other skinny guys? Don't complain about a rejection you do yourself.
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    Feb 12, 2013 12:05 AM GMT
    Chainers said
    Giovannix0x saidok this is an old post but it really doesn't matter if your thin or not. If I was muscular I don't think that would make any difference to gay guys. Someone will either find you attractive or not.


    You obviously haven't been gay for very long if you think that haha.


    Truth
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    Feb 12, 2013 12:13 AM GMT
    The existential answer: Does anything really matter?
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    Feb 12, 2013 12:20 AM GMT
    This is a skinn ass necro thread...icon_biggrin.gif