is it a self conscious thing?

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    May 21, 2010 2:41 AM GMT
    So, I met his little hottie lastnight, well, he a was 6'4 hottie, but a very lean skinny hottie, so really, he was a tall skinny hottie (much like the cappuccino I had today) but that is neither here nor there.. anyway..

    both lacking a LOT in the privacy department, so we were going at it in a park in the dark, it was really kinda hot, well, it was actually very cold, but, we were hot, but again neither here nor there... anyway...

    So, we are getting it on in the park, we were both practically butt naked in short order hahaha (well, shirts off, pants down kinda thing hehe) and I thought he had a hot body, so I told him so..

    He said........

    Thanks


    Just take a quiet moment to think about that one...

    Thanks..

    I can't recall the last time I got thanks when I've told a guy he had a hot body.. I usually get something cocky in return, usually something they guy will say to try and get me more riled up.. I don't get thanks, I get made passionate kisses or blow jobs or.. ya know.. SOMETHING good.. but not thanks

    It has just stuck in my mind and I"m wondering if it's a self confidence thing?

    Admittedly, he's young (20) he's also got that shy unsure thing happening (which a lot of 20 year olds have) he's also a little lacking in experience (although he's been with guys before) which shows through in his technique, but I don't mind, he wants to come back again so I'll teach him a thing or two ;)

    so yeah.. just wanna know the thanks bit.. he told me I had a hot body in his own way, I just smirked at him and umm.. yeah I wont go beyond that cause this isn't about the sex so... moving on.
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    May 21, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    Sounds like a fairly normal response to me.. not sure what you were expecting
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    May 21, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    The male world is centered on his penis.
    Him saying "Thanks" just doesn't pay enough attention to you and your penis, so you feel (wrongly) slighted......Your compliment should have been about him, not what you hoped it would get you. When it didn't come back to you in the way you expected...you were disappointed...I say have him back and keep complimenting him! Some guys have a hard time accepting compliments for their physical build, strength, beauty....don't be offended..it is really a kind of cute, humble response from him....icon_cool.gif
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    May 21, 2010 3:07 AM GMT
    20 year old gets a pass...Oh yeah...a big O'le pass
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    May 21, 2010 3:07 AM GMT
    Better'n my encounter with a 20 y/o. icon_rolleyes.gif
    He asks me to meet him today at 5pm after he jogs. I go there. He walks past but comes back.
    He says "I thought you'd be fat & ugly at 53, but you're very tan and trim!
    But I only asked you to meet me because I found out my BF was cheating on me. I don't think I can cheat on him. Sorry."

    I told him I wasn't going to help him cheat. When my BF knows that I'm meeting a guy, it isn't cheating. But I wasn't going to get involved with someone else's BF. Two wrongs don't make a right.
    Kids. What can you do?
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    May 21, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidThe male world is centered on his penis.
    Him saying "Thanks" just doesn't pay enough attention to you and your penis, so you feel (wrongly) slighted......Your compliment should have been about him, not what you hoped it would get you. When it didn't some back to you in the way you expected...you were disappointed...I say have him back and keep complimenting him! Some guys have a hard time accepting compliments for their physical build, strength, beauty....don't be offended..it is really a kind of cute, humble response from him....icon_cool.gif

    I wasn't expecting anything, I just wasn't expecting a thanks.. ya know, most guys use it as a way to get me going harder and it makes them feel sexy..

    I just wasn't expecting thanks.. hahaha Besides, he payed enough attention to ma goods anyway *coughs*
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    May 21, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    StudlyScrewRite said Better'n my encounter with a 20 y/o. icon_rolleyes.gif
    He asks me to meet him today at 5pm after he jogs. I go there. He walks past but comes back.
    He says "I thought you'd be fat & ugly at 53, but you're very tan and trim!
    But I only asked you to meet me because I found out my BF was cheating on me. I don't think I can cheat on him. Sorry."

    I told him I wasn't going to help him cheat. When my BF knows that I'm meeting a guy, it isn't cheating. But I wasn't going to get involved with someone else's BF. Two wrongs don't make a right.
    Kids. What can you do?

    Slap a bitch *nods*


    I'm all for slapping *nods* the world needs more slapping going on!!!!
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    May 21, 2010 3:46 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI've said and read thanks more often than not.... Was he American?

    na, aussie
  • Webster666

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    May 21, 2010 3:57 AM GMT
    You said, "self conscious," then you said, "self confidence."

    So, that's a little confusing...

    Anyway, even in the throes of passion, good manners are always a compliment to the person displaying them.

    Good for you, going back for more.
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    May 21, 2010 5:42 AM GMT
    Hah, I got called "beautiful" once and it caught me so off guard I just stood there blank faced and didn't know how to respond. So instinctively I just said "thanks". I think it's probably a self confidence thing, 4 years ago I never would have heard that and now that I've changed I still don't know how to take compliments sometimes (especially from good looking guys icon_wink.gif ). He is pretty young so I'm sure he might not have even heard someone say that to him before.
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    May 21, 2010 7:58 AM GMT
    MikeAP35 saidHah, I got called "beautiful" once and it caught me so off guard I just stood there blank faced and didn't know how to respond. So instinctively I just said "thanks". I think it's probably a self confidence thing, 4 years ago I never would have heard that and now that I've changed I still don't know how to take compliments sometimes (especially from good looking guys icon_wink.gif ). He is pretty young so I'm sure he might not have even heard someone say that to him before.

    You my dear, should never feel anything less then gorgeous!!!!

    I'd totally not be able to keep my hands off you hehe ;)
  • Kage

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    May 21, 2010 8:55 AM GMT
    Hmmm...I consider it polite to say thank you to a compliment..

    It depends on the guy though...a guy complimented me on my ass and I said "Better to fuck with..." well it seems that it definitely had him going as he was quite busy ea...well you get the idea.
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    May 21, 2010 8:59 AM GMT
    StudlyScrewRite said Better'n my encounter with a 20 y/o. icon_rolleyes.gif
    He asks me to meet him today at 5pm after he jogs. I go there. He walks past but comes back.
    He says "I thought you'd be fat & ugly at 53, but you're very tan and trim!
    But I only asked you to meet me because I found out my BF was cheating on me. I don't think I can cheat on him. Sorry."

    I told him I wasn't going to help him cheat. When my BF knows that I'm meeting a guy, it isn't cheating. But I wasn't going to get involved with someone else's BF. Two wrongs don't make a right.
    Kids. What can you do?


    I have had a couple of messages from a couple...received an sms from one of them today and he wanted a quickie before work...his bf was at a job interview...now that I dont do.
    Like you, my partner knows what I am doing and with whom but I am not the kind of guy to fuck around with a couple.

    So this one is a no go...damn and they were hot.
    /sigh
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    May 21, 2010 9:00 AM GMT
    Kage saidHmmm...I consider it polite to say thank you to a compliment..

    It depends on the guy though...a guy complimented me on my ass and I said "Better to fuck with..." well it seems that it definitely had him going as he was quite busy ea...well you get the idea.

    Well I say thank you to a compliment too, but, not when I'm right in the middle of getting all hot with a guy, I mean, he was under me when I said it and he said thanks..

    I dun know I jut can't remember the last time I heard thanks like that hahaha
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    May 21, 2010 9:02 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Kage saidHmmm...I consider it polite to say thank you to a compliment..

    It depends on the guy though...a guy complimented me on my ass and I said "Better to fuck with..." well it seems that it definitely had him going as he was quite busy ea...well you get the idea.

    Well I say thank you to a compliment too, but, not when I'm right in the middle of getting all hot with a guy, I mean, he was under me when I said it and he said thanks..

    I dun know I jut can't remember the last time I heard thanks like that hahaha

    Under you? I'm jealous!
    Hahaha...he was probably caught by surprise.
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    May 21, 2010 6:56 PM GMT
    I don't think you can ever go wrong with:

    You are hot!

    You are too!
  • Timbales

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    May 21, 2010 7:10 PM GMT
    I probably would have said "Thanks" too, or stuck my tongue in your mouth.
  • JayDT

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    May 21, 2010 7:14 PM GMT
    I like thanks. It's Modest, honest and appreciative. I think the cockiness is often to cover up a deeper level of insecurity on other more profound levels. This guy knows he has more than just his body. Thank you is good.
  • martinaston

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    May 21, 2010 8:11 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Kage saidHmmm...I consider it polite to say thank you to a compliment..

    It depends on the guy though...a guy complimented me on my ass and I said "Better to fuck with..." well it seems that it definitely had him going as he was quite busy ea...well you get the idea.

    Well I say thank you to a compliment too, but, not when I'm right in the middle of getting all hot with a guy, I mean, he was under me when I said it and he said thanks..

    I dun know I jut can't remember the last time I heard thanks like that hahaha


    Well if " he was under me when I said it" maybe he had his mouth full and opted for a brief reply in order to maximise his attention to your goods...icon_redface.gif
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    May 21, 2010 8:27 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidIt has just stuck in my mind and I"m wondering if it's a self confidence thing?

    It's self-evident it stuck in your mind, when you use the words "hottie" and "hot" about 27 times in your post. As for confidence, if you mean his, I can think of several possible explanations:

    He's a bit shy with receiving compliments, which is not necessarily the same thing as low confidence, and you caught him off guard. He's also inexperienced with making sexy replies quickly. He may also have felt your compliment required one from him in return, even that you might be fishing for one back for yourself, and being inexperienced he wasn't sure what the right words were, so he just said thanks to appear grateful & polite.

    I think time will tell, so make some more time for him.
  • Celticmusl

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    May 24, 2010 1:07 PM GMT
    Get over it and don't worry about it. Actions speak louder than words and it sounds like everything went well in that department. Actually the "thanks" part is what I usually say if it catches me off guard. Also, I usually have this idea that if a gay guy is giving me a compliment it's to get something from me. So I feel that it is a manipulative ploy. I guess if you were expecting a compliment in return it was in your scenario as well.

  • HankFit247

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    May 24, 2010 1:20 PM GMT
    "Thanks" is my standard reply.

    It' up to you to get/keep the conversation going.

    If your looking for something, make it known, respectfully of course.
    "How was your night, out with friends? Having fun?" is an easy in.

    But you have about 3 minutes to capture my attention, engage my senses.

    I'm there for the energy and music, new friends is cool, hu's NOT SO MUCH.

    And if I'm out w friends, which is obvious, stalk/stop me on the way out of the restroom. I hate my friends watching "What kind of trouble I might be getting into".

    Or better yet, follow me to Charlie's, I'll be 1/2 naked dancing on the box soon enough, Come up cop a feel, be ready to bust a move, and I might invite you up. Although you only have 10-20 seconds, after that it's just creepy unless the train has left the station and out comes a tongue.

    I get off on putting on a show. Others do too.