Creating a spiritual bond before sex or even ,eeting?

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    May 22, 2010 7:40 AM GMT
    Why is it so many RJ guys want to jump in sexually after the first "hey"? How do you feel bout building a spiritual bond and friendship first, here, slowly and then meeting?
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    May 22, 2010 12:41 PM GMT
    I'm sorry.. but.. I just don't have time for you.. if you'd like to go be all wishy washing and mother of the earth then please, by all means, but not with me.
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    May 22, 2010 12:55 PM GMT
    There are those of us here who do prefer getting to know someone first, becoming friends, and establishing some sort of bond before having sex. Maybe I'm just an oddball. Who knows. But yeah. We exist.
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    May 22, 2010 3:46 PM GMT
    OK.....thank God I don't have to deal with trying to find someone anymore BUT.......how many of your friends would you have a sexual relationship with?

    This question never makes sense to me. My friends are my friends, I don't sleep with my friends (I never got fuckbuddies either!). My partner revs my engines and I thing about him in ways I could never think about a friend. Sure once you're in a relationship that "friendlike" quality is important between you in the sense that you get along, tell each other things and do stuff together but that's just part and parcel about being in love with someone. When you say your partner is your best friend, it's in a different way than your best friend is your best friend. You wouldn't have sex with your best friend? Would you?
  • Nwalker

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    May 22, 2010 3:55 PM GMT
    we all have to ( well some of us ) update our profiles... we clearly say LOOKING for Long term relationship or HOOK UP ( well again some of us write the trusth while others just play around

    when we say looking for a relationship its obvious we want to friend that would eventually develop to becoming ones partner... so i think its actually cool to get to know someone as a friend rather then just getting ur dick up an ass and getting over with it..

    and then again some are jsut looking for friends to hav a chatt and get advice..

    i mean no offence to anyone but ... there are a few relationships that do work with sex from the start.. but its ethical and wise to build a base if u plan to stick with your partner for many mant years... rather than jsut fuck once in a while and after 1 or 2 or even less months they find a new trick ...
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    May 22, 2010 4:02 PM GMT
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    May 22, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    Here's what I said on the duplicate thread.........

    OK.....thank God I don't have to deal with trying to find someone anymore BUT.......how many of your friends would you have a sexual relationship with?

    This question never makes sense to me. My friends are my friends, I don't sleep with my friends (I never got fuckbuddies either!). My partner revs my engines and I thing about him in ways I could never think about a friend. Sure once you're in a relationship that "friendlike" quality is important between you in the sense that you get along, tell each other things and do stuff together but that's just part and parcel about being in love with someone. When you say your partner is your best friend, it's in a different way than your best friend is your best friend. You wouldn't have sex with your best friend? Would you?

    Now delete one or the other!
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    May 22, 2010 5:13 PM GMT
    An emotional relationship will almost always last longer than just a sexual one. That emotional connection only enhances the sex that will eventually come. One too many times have people just jumped into sex and ruined a possible relationship, and more than likely will cause a lot of resentment and awkwardness.
  • JayDT

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    May 22, 2010 5:17 PM GMT
    Most people, not just men, want instant gratification. And in todays world that is easier than ever. Sure meeting someone after establishing a relationship of some sort and slowly building to a sexual relationship would be ideal for many people. But I don't think that most people these days have the actual skill set to do that.

    For me, if there is someone I am interested in getting to know, I prefer to do it in person as quickly as possible. Starting the relationship online builds unrealistic expectations in the mind about how the other person is, since you can't see their facial expressions or hear their inflections and you are reading between the lines into potential sentiments that may or may not actually be there.