Difficulties with Anal Sex.

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    May 23, 2010 8:24 PM GMT
    I have been fooling around with someone for about ten months now; I care about him very much, but the problem is when we go to have sex and I bottom I either loose my erection or cannot cum. Like others have said it is not that I am not enjoying the experience the first 3 minutes at the most are uncomfortable but that is to be expected. I really want to be able to experience cuming while he is in me, it would really mean the world to me lol. Is there anything I can do? I don't want to make him miss out on the experience of getting someone off either.
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    May 23, 2010 9:06 PM GMT
    Anal sex is not the be-all end-all of being gay. Even some straight guys like anal sex with females...and some don't. Same with gays, some will like it and some won't. You might be one of those who doesn't like it.

    It took me three relationships to realize I'm simply not into it at all. It severely limits who I can date, but I've learned to live with that and date other guys who aren't into it.

    In other words: Maybe you're just not into it. Try frottage. It's much more fun (to me). icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 23, 2010 9:19 PM GMT
    Well, no. I do enjoy the sex, just I haven't been able to get to that point where I can blow my load. It feels good, and it is really hot just something is going wrong somewhere.
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    May 23, 2010 9:38 PM GMT
    Try doing anal for awhile, then have him pull out and lay beside you while your or he jerks you to where you're close then have him quickly get back in while you continue jerking yourself and cum. Have you tried it with him on his back and you sitting on it, that may help.
  • rnch

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    May 23, 2010 10:25 PM GMT
    contrary to what gay porn shows us; not ALL gay men are into anal sex, not all gay men stay erect when bottoming, not all gay men can jizz while being fucked.

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  • safety43_mma1...

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    May 23, 2010 10:27 PM GMT
    it is wierd i guess wheni bottom i am harder then a rock and cum many times over. there r other things then anal sex. it does take time sometimes to get into it
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    May 31, 2010 5:31 AM GMT
    Hey just checking back in, i've been working on masturbating while fingering myself I've found that I'm being able to cum that way I think I just needed to relax more I have not yet tried it with him but hopefully in good time I will be able to cum.
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    Jun 02, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    i wish lol know where i can buy some without a prescrip
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    Jun 11, 2010 4:52 PM GMT
    While he's inside you, try slowing down or have him pause for a moment while you get hard, then he can continue the pounding. It worked for me icon_biggrin.gif
  • Markebri

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    Jul 14, 2010 6:47 AM GMT
    You gotta relax, don't think too much about having to cum for the guy. Find a position that you're comfortable with, I know of some guys who can't get themselves off while being in a certain position. I personally love riding on top of a guy since I feel as if I'm in control, plus it hits the g spot..haha.

    Are you on any anti depressants? Those can cause your sex charge to dwindle.
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    Jul 14, 2010 11:02 AM GMT
    Markebri said. I personally love riding on top of a guy since I feel as if I'm in control, plus it hits the g spot..haha..


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