Meeting other gay/bi men in the Navy. Is it worth the risk?


  • May 24, 2010 12:31 AM GMT
    I have just recently finished Navy boot camp and now im in Pensacola, FL for the next couple of months. I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions as to how to meet other Navy/military men on base here and how safe it is if I were to do so.
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    May 24, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    My first Navy love was my dentist. Met him at Denny's one night, played around, and had no idea he was also in the Navy...till the next day when I went in to have my wisdom teeth pulled. When I saw him walk into the room, our eyes met and we both damn near busted out in laughter. icon_lol.gif

  • May 24, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    Thats awesome. wish it was that easy. what was your rate in the Navy? you enjoy your time serving?
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    May 24, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    E-3, E.T.

    I enjoyed it for the most part, but got myself kicked out on purpose (UA for two weeks). My orders for deployment during Desert Storm got canceled at the last minute (literally, while getting the last signature on the way out) and they told me I'd be in Great Lakes another year or two. I'd just been through one winter there, and wasn't about to go through another. I cannot mentally handle extended periods of cold weather and lack of sunlight. icon_lol.gif
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    May 24, 2010 5:51 AM GMT
    curious_athlete saidI have just recently finished Navy boot camp and now im in Pensacola, FL for the next couple of months. I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions as to how to meet other Navy/military men on base here and how safe it is if I were to do so.


    If you have an iphone, I *think* you could get Grindr, put your location on hide, and cruze men that way. It loads guys based on closest proximity. Only downfall is if anyone grabs ur phone they could find the Grindr application easily.
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    May 24, 2010 2:34 PM GMT
    Yes. Grindr. And, in all cases, just be discrete.

    I get picked up by Navy guys all the time in Honolulu. I pick them up at the base gate and take 'em home.
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    May 24, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    Pensacola right after basic? Sounds like you're Aircrew. Been there, done that, and had a blast until RSS.

    A friendly bit of advice: don't go searching unless you want to get booted out.
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    May 24, 2010 3:25 PM GMT
    Just use the time honored opening line "hey sailor boy, buy me a drink?"
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    May 24, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidMy first Navy love was my dentist. Met him at Denny's one night, played around, and had no idea he was also in the Navy...till the next day when I went in to have my wisdom teeth pulled. When I saw him walk into the room, our eyes met and we both damn near busted out in laughter. icon_lol.gif



    At least a part of him got a sneak peek into your mouth. icon_eek.gificon_wink.gificon_lol.gif

  • May 24, 2010 10:31 PM GMT
    reppaT yes aircrew. what do u mean by RSS? did you get a lot of opportunities to "play" while here in Pensacola? and i am planning on getting an iphone soon. is there any way to hind your applications so that no one would find out i had grindr? that was one of my concerns too.
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    May 24, 2010 11:11 PM GMT
    RSS = Rescue Swimmer School.

    Yes, I met more than a few gay guys back then, and had several approach me, but I declined each time. I was far from being out then, and was still very confused. Hell, I was engaged to a woman while I was in the Navy.

    Others in my squad would turn in any gay guys that approached them. I never did. I knew where they were coming from, and let them know I was "cool with their advances but not interested in men."

    The same thing happened in my fraternity, though not as often. Dammit, I'm still kicking myself in the ass for turning away so many opportunities for easy, hot blowjobs.

    In regards to your query about iPhone apps (or any other trackable applications on your Mac/PC/smartphone), just be careful. Remember, your superiors have every right to snoop, and they often do.
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    May 24, 2010 11:17 PM GMT
    if the US government doesnt want you to risk your life for them because you are gay, then you should proudly take your walking papers, why would you want to serve a country that views you as less then a citizen?
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    May 24, 2010 11:31 PM GMT
    He's probably in the same situation many of us in the military were/are in.

    1) GI Bill
    2) He was stuck in a terrible home environment
    3) He loves his country
    4) He feels the need to see more of the world

    Many young men don't come to terms with their homosexuality until well into their military careers. What do you expect them to do, quit? Yeah, those dishonorable discharges look great on a resume.
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    May 24, 2010 11:35 PM GMT
    http://www.realjock.com/article/1657

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    May 25, 2010 2:51 PM GMT
    look at you people, you are supposed to be soliders in the worlds greatest army but you are hiding what you are from your own country. Thats not strength , thats weakness of character. Again have fun serving and paying into a system that holds you as less then a citizen. Ill take my dishonorable disharge to go please!
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    May 25, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    housetrancformer saidlook at you people, you are supposed to be soliders in the worlds greatest army but you are hiding what you are from your own country. Thats not strength , thats weakness of character. Again have fun serving and paying into a system that holds you as less then a citizen. Ill take my dishonorable disharge to go please!


    And what are you actually suggesting with giving your rhetoric (above)?

    Are you really so selfish, to be ready to forfeit even more of the country's strength and morale by making it even weaker than DADT already achieves?

    I'm reminded of the expression "to cut off one's nose to spite one's face."
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    May 25, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    housetrancformer saidlook at you people, you are supposed to be soliders in the worlds greatest army but you are hiding what you are from your own country. Thats not strength , thats weakness of character. Again have fun serving and paying into a system that holds you as less then a citizen. Ill take my dishonorable disharge to go please!
    says the guy with no face pic o:

    gays in the military have an excuse to hide their idendity, whats yours?

  • May 25, 2010 10:20 PM GMT
    Just be yourself...they will find you...Go to the enlisted club...etc...we all found each other when I was in the Navy...
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    May 26, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    Memorial day is gay weekend in Pensacola, so i dont think you'll have too big of a problem finding someone in a similar situation.
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    May 26, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
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    housetrancformer saidlook at you people, you are supposed to be soliders in the worlds greatest army but you are hiding what you are from your own country. Thats not strength , thats weakness of character. Again have fun serving and paying into a system that holds you as less then a citizen. Ill take my dishonorable disharge to go please!
    says the guy with no face pic o:

    gays in the military have an excuse to hide their idendity, whats yours?


    I just joined the site 2 days ago and my pictures were waiting approval, go take a look now, plenty of face action for ya, I have nothing to hide.

  • May 26, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
    Wisconsinrunner whats the enlisted club? and i just heard about Pride weekend here on Memorial weekend but i wont be able to leave base that weekend. I have duty Fri-Sun. and if i didnt i would need to have someone come along w/me because we cant leave base alone. also thanks everyone for reading/posting. it is all very helpful and much appreciated.
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    May 26, 2010 4:07 PM GMT
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    housetrancformer saidlook at you people, you are supposed to be soliders in the worlds greatest army but you are hiding what you are from your own country. Thats not strength , thats weakness of character. Again have fun serving and paying into a system that holds you as less then a citizen. Ill take my dishonorable disharge to go please!


    And what are you actually suggesting with giving your rhetoric (above)?

    Are you really so selfish, to be ready to forfeit even more of the country's strength and morale by making it even weaker than DADT already achieves?

    I'm reminded of the expression "to cut off one's nose to spite one's face."


    As I said before, we live in a country that thinks we are not good enough to be married, not good enough to serve in its military and die for it. If I were a monarch my soliders would be chosen for their pyshical and mental abilities and certainly not discharged because they like to sleep with men. I stand by what I said 100% and thank goodness we live in America where i am entitled to do so!
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    May 26, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
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    BuddyinNYC said
    housetrancformer saidlook at you people, you are supposed to be soliders in the worlds greatest army but you are hiding what you are from your own country. Thats not strength , thats weakness of character. Again have fun serving and paying into a system that holds you as less then a citizen. Ill take my dishonorable disharge to go please!


    And what are you actually suggesting with giving your rhetoric (above)?

    Are you really so selfish, to be ready to forfeit even more of the country's strength and morale by making it even weaker than DADT already achieves?

    I'm reminded of the expression "to cut off one's nose to spite one's face."


    As I said before, we live in a country that thinks we are not good enough to be married, not good enough to serve in its military and die for it. If I were a monarch my soliders would be chosen for their pyshical and mental abilities and certainly not discharged because they like to sleep with men. I stand by what I said 100% and thank goodness we live in America where i am entitled to do so!


    Yes you are entitled to do so, and maybe you should thank those of us who served and are serving so that you are entitled to express yourself freely. Maybe it hasn't occured to you that some of us don't see the world throught the "gay first prism", but see the bigger picture. Next time you want to flagellate those who serve or have served, you might want to remember the reason you are entitled to express yourself is because of those who have served and will serve in the future. And, by the way it's ok for you to admit that you are afraid to serve, those of us who have won't hold it aginst you , too much.
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    May 26, 2010 4:56 PM GMT
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    BuddyinNYC said
    housetrancformer saidlook at you people, you are supposed to be soliders in the worlds greatest army but you are hiding what you are from your own country. Thats not strength , thats weakness of character. Again have fun serving and paying into a system that holds you as less then a citizen. Ill take my dishonorable disharge to go please!


    And what are you actually suggesting with giving your rhetoric (above)?

    Are you really so selfish, to be ready to forfeit even more of the country's strength and morale by making it even weaker than DADT already achieves?

    I'm reminded of the expression "to cut off one's nose to spite one's face."


    As I said before, we live in a country that thinks we are not good enough to be married, not good enough to serve in its military and die for it. If I were a monarch my soliders would be chosen for their pyshical and mental abilities and certainly not discharged because they like to sleep with men. I stand by what I said 100% and thank goodness we live in America where i am entitled to do so!


    One can be a liberal and still be patriotic. (Patriotic doesn't mean anti-foreign or chauvinistic.)

    Yes, there are bad thing happening, but it isn't in our interests to just mock and degrade our country. What you posted was counterproductive and fatalistic. It's a bad as those people saying that they wanted to leave the country during the Bush administration years instead of standing up for our rights. As shameful as those USA citizens who hide behind the Canadian maple-leaf flags they put on their baggage when abroad so people won't assume that they are from the USA.

    You're not a monarch in the US and you're not going to be. But if you are so restless, DO something regarding DADT. Write letters to people in government, speak with people in the streets to get them involved as well.

    This country is, among other things, its' people and their voices. It's important what we think about ourselves and what we are doing about it. If one's so ashamed as to bash it to the extent that it hurts the men/women who serve in the armed forces, then that person is as guilty as the fools who support DADT.
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    May 26, 2010 5:06 PM GMT
    haha if u end up at the Annapolis navy ur fine. Some of those guys are REAL obviously gay. now given i wouldn't intentionally billboard it (honestly i wouldnt billboard it in general what ever u job is) but i dont think u'll have trouble finding other gay guys.