Diary of a Dairy Queen:
Filipinos born and raised in the Philippines have a special attraction for Caucasian features, much more so than other Asian countries. The growing population of half-filipinos/half-caucasians is a proof to this. LOL In fact, in 3 more months, I'll be uncle to a half-filipina/half-belgian niece.
Bear with me for a short history lesson, LOL. (Take note that all words used are used in historical context, please do not be offended
The original settlers of the Philippines were of Melanesian stock with dominant negroid features - that is: dark skin, curly hair, pronounced lips, and relatively rounded features. They share racial features with NZ and Australian aborigines and to a certain extent Polynesians. The Spanish used the term 'Negritos
' for them because of their short stature and dark skin (literally "little black person").
Malays (probably originally a racial combination of mongoloid and Caucasoid stock - from the Chinese and South Asians), the current dominant race of Southeast Asia arrived in the Philippines as refugees from an oppressive sultanate in Sabah. They displaced the original and more primitive Negrito
tribes. They brought with them their own standards of beauty. That is - fair skin. Fair skin for Malays especially in women meant that she came from a family rich enough to keep her from working under the sun. The fact that Negritos
were dark-skinned only reinforced the notion among Malays that dark skin = poor/unattractive and fair skin = wealthy/desirable.
Then came another complication in the form of Magellan. The Spaniards colonized the Philippines and held it for 300 years. And though there were relatively few colonists because of the distance from Spain (compare Latin America for example in which the dominant racial characteristic today is Caucasian), they still succeeded in almost completely obliterating the original Malay culture of the Philippines. The Philippines became almost wholly Hispanic in speech, culture, and of course, standards of beauty. Even until now, we have very little in common with our Asian neighbors. In fact, it is more accurate to describe the Philippines as a Latin American country, LOL, because we certainly have more in common with Mexicans than we do with Malaysians. You have to give it to Colonial Spain - they were expert brainwashers. LOL
Filipino Malays began viewing the white skin, narrow features, and greater stature of the Caucasian Hispanics as desirable because it was tied together with power and wealth.
Then the Americans came and liberated the country from the Spanish, putting us under US commonwealth rule until shortly after World War 2. Another 50 years of being exposed under a 'superior' Caucasian culture. This time with the added impetus of the image of Americans as 'heroic liberators' from both the Spanish and the Japanese. Caucasian features in addition to being associated with wealth and power, also became the prototypical mold of the romantic hero.
Finally, the killing blow is Western media. We imported very little in the way of entertainment from Asian countries in the latter half century. Heck, we only just started importing Korean and Japanese soaps a few years back. Back then, it would've never clicked much with the Filipino audience. We basically grew up to actors and actresses who were mestizos
(half-Spanish, half-Filipinos), and most of our previous soaps were dubbed and imported from Mexico.
Everywhere the Caucasian stereotype was idealized. Personally, this has caused me much grief. You see, I come from mixed heritage too. Both grandparents from my mothers' side were mestizos
. My grandfather even had blue eyes (one of my uncles has grey). On my dad's side, his mother was half-Indian. The result of which is that all my relatives are really very beautiful by the standards of our race. My younger brother has classic moreno mestizo
(light brown skin mixed with Hispanic features) looks. He looks like an arab actually, LOL. Ditto with my sisters, uncles, aunts, etc. Heck, my nephew has light brown hair, and both his parents are Filipinos!
And poor moi got stuck with mostly Malay features with the dark skin of my Indian heritage. I grew up feeling like the ugly duckling in a family of swans. Hence my deep self-esteem issues. (I'm not saying Asian features are ugly, just that it's not desirable in our culture - notice the irony there?)
Asides from that, I also have the Filipino preoccupation with Caucasian features. My ideals for beauty has always been Caucasian (which is why I'm doomed to loneliness for the time being, LOL). That doesn't mean I'm racist. Hell, I wish I could be attracted to Asians for example, then life would be so much easier, as I could find an S.O. right here. But it's not. I can still appreciate African and Asian beauty, but it's never the same as it is with Caucasians. I have the added burden of not finding my own features attractive because after all, I'm Asian.
So yeah, I'm a Dairy Queen but I'm not racist. How could it be racism when, in my example, I am not attracted to my own race! LOL I would have been racist to myself.
I blame it all on culture. Heh.
In an ideal world, this would never happen. But it's not. Racial distribution is not spread evenly. People grow up with different criteria for finding people attractive. But more and more, there are people who look past the race of a potential mate. We're just unfortunate to be born in what I think is the early stages of globalization and racial homogenization. There are more and more people of mixed heritage these days. I find this encouraging. But there still isn't enough to overcome traditional standards of beauty, but at least racism in its ugliest form is fast disappearing. Especially with the internet paving the way and breaking down prejudices.
Maybe someday we can just say we're human, and not have to state whether we're Asian, black, white, Latino, etc. But that's probably still a long way off. Heh.
So I think it's safe to say that it's not racism, except for very rare cases (in which they're just assholes anyway and not worth your time), but simply preference as had been said before. Some guys just like familiar/similar guys, some guys (like me) like the exotic/opposite, and the luckier ones get to pick from all sides LOL.
That's the perspective from my side, I guess.
That said, there WILL be exceptions in my case. There always is.