boschboy saidthis morning, i saw this awesoem guy on the train to work. he had such an amazing body and was very very handsome. i really wanted to approach him, but as is the case, i'm always to shy and yes i overthink. he is a bodybuilder actually and dont want to get seven bells knock out of me. imagine turning up at the office with a shiner.
i really need advice on how to go about it please. but dont paste bullshit, i am serious about this. you can also share some of your experiences.
pls. excuse the typo's.
There's a saying: Never let them see you sweat.
If you want to hang out with muscleheads, body piercers, cutters, or fat asses, you need to find some commonality. That's called being friends, associates, in a club, etc. If you're tiny, and into opera, likely, but, certainly not impossible, that you won't find a connection. This is mostly a common sense thing. E.g., healthy folks generally don't hang out with fat ass smokers...there's just not a connection there.
The best advice: go get in shape. See what time brings. If he's interested, he'll let you know. Nothing is buzz kill like low esteem and timidity, except maybe worship, which is only something that needy folks would seek, and that most well adjusted folks don't.
I always have to shake my head when some smoker, fat ass, super fem, or whatever thinks I might have an interest. The absolute worst of course are the folks who say, "Top or bottom." or "what up?" If that's the best someone can do, there's clearly not a connection.
At any rate, if you want to go out with the guy ask him. It's really that simple. It doesn't have to be a confession. Unless you establish some commonality and mutual attraction, however, your action is destined for failure.
You: "So and so band is at so and so place. Wanna' go?"
You won't get assaulted for that. Just ask. Save the drama for the theater.
It's "you're" as in "you are." "Your" is the possessive of "you."