RJ challenge...go kiss him in public!

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    May 25, 2010 7:16 AM GMT
    Would you Kiss your man in front of the grocery store, wal-mart or ACE hardware and someplace not in your community?

    Would you pretend he's just your buddy?

    How come the dude can kiss his cute 24 year old, hold his wife's hand...kiss her good and then I am sure going to go home and live happily ever after.......
    Do you see something wrong here? I DO


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    I tried and I was pushed away! So much for being gay!
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    May 25, 2010 12:08 PM GMT
    I generally don't kiss my partner on the lips in public places, though we do hug and kiss on the cheek most everywhere, including outside the gay community. But that has more to do with our preference for keeping a kiss on the lips more private at all times & places.

    Nevertheless there are exceptions, it's not like a rule. I sometimes kiss him on the lips goodbye when I drop him off at his office, with other people around, most of them straight. And just this Sunday, following a stage show, we met the gay writer/director for some drinks & food at a straight outdoor cafe, and he gave me a great big kiss on the lips as literally hundreds of people were walking past.

    True, it was on Lincoln Mall in South Beach, a more accepting area, but more straight than gay, most of the strollers being tourists from elsewhere. Well, let them go back to Indiana with scandalous tales of men kissing in broad daylight on the sidewalk, I really couldn't care.
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    May 25, 2010 2:21 PM GMT
    I wouldn't have a problem, provided it's a brief peck and not a passionate makeout session.

    Kissing passionately in public is in poor taste IMO (unless it's your wedding day... and the bystanders actually came to see it!). It doesn't matter if you're gay or straight. Intimate moments should be shared in intimate settings.
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    May 25, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
    Every time I see Scott I kiss him on the lips with no hesitation. We hold hands when walking or I might sling my hand around his waist...

    Met him yesterday at TGIF to grab an early dinner together, walked into the bar, saw him and walked up and kissed him. The music didn't stop, our food wasn't any different (that we knew of) and no one got up and left or changed their table...

    On the other hand I rarely if ever kissed my ex in public...or private for that matter!
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    May 25, 2010 2:29 PM GMT
    Mystic_Man saidWould you Kiss your man in front of the grocery store, wal-mart or ACE hardware and someplace not in your community?
    Yes, and have (all those places and then some).
    My favorite words to tell people who don't like it: "Go fuck yourself." icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 25, 2010 2:35 PM GMT


    I was w/ my gf for 8yrs and public affection lasting more than 20 sec was a no go. I was in Banana Republic over the weekend and was a witness to some serious smooching between the Chino and "T" shirt display. YUCK.
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    May 25, 2010 2:47 PM GMT
    i feel like, as gay men, we really shouldn't get into judging straight couples for their age or their public display of affection. Because isn't that what we are trying to fight? and even if we would is the way to fight it simply "do it back to them"?
    i personally don't care who does what with who where.
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    May 25, 2010 9:39 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I were kissing in the pizza place last night. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 25, 2010 9:43 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I only kiss in church.
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    May 25, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    Voice22 saidi feel like, as gay men, we really shouldn't get into judging straight couples for their age or their public display of affection. Because isn't that what we are trying to fight? and even if we would is the way to fight it simply "do it back to them"?
    i personally don't care who does what with who where.


    well said my man
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    May 25, 2010 9:46 PM GMT
    I'm just not into any PDAs, straight or gay. I think holding hands with your man in public could be nice though.
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    May 25, 2010 9:48 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Mystic_Man saidWould you Kiss your man in front of the grocery store, wal-mart or ACE hardware and someplace not in your community?
    Yes, and have (all those places and then some).
    My favorite words to tell people who don't like it: "Go fuck yourself." icon_biggrin.gif


    Couldn't say it better my self.
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    May 25, 2010 10:26 PM GMT
    ANYONE SHOULD BE ABLE TO SHOW TRUE AFFECTION IN PUBLIC WITHOUT ONE SINGLE ISSUE!!!!!
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    May 25, 2010 10:27 PM GMT
    How can this be a challenge?
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    May 25, 2010 10:28 PM GMT
    Krovi saidHow can this be a challenge?


    Because guys are to afraid to do it...Have you...would you??
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    May 25, 2010 10:31 PM GMT
    SeaSon saidI wouldn't have a problem, provided it's a brief peck and not a passionate makeout session.

    Kissing passionately in public is in poor taste IMO (unless it's your wedding day... and the bystanders actually came to see it!). It doesn't matter if you're gay or straight. Intimate moments should be shared in intimate settings.

    That is what my bf and I do. Hugs and pecks in public, kissing in private
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    May 25, 2010 10:32 PM GMT
    SeaSon said...Kissing passionately in public is in poor taste IMO (unless it's your wedding day... and the bystanders actually came to see it!). It doesn't matter if you're gay or straight. Intimate moments should be shared in intimate settings.

    ~~~ this ~~~
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    May 25, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    If a guy won't kiss me in public or hold my hand, it's not gonna go anywhere. I like the physical display, and if you can do it in the home why can't you do it outside. Are you ashamed of something? It sure as hell better not be me!
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    May 25, 2010 10:37 PM GMT
    We don't even do that kind of thing at Pride, so I assume that we wouldn't do it regardless of social pressures.
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    May 25, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    I dated this gorgeous guy in college. One night we were at the movies with this group of giggling high school girls behind us letting us know loudly that they thought we were cute. My bf turned around and said "he is pretty hot" grabbed me dipped me back and really planted one on me. I of course loved it and nearly tore his clothes off when we got home, the girls all screeched and ran off.
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    May 25, 2010 10:41 PM GMT
    sxydrkhair said
    JayDT saidIf a guy won't kiss me in public or hold my hand, it's not gonna go anywhere. I like the physical display, and if you can do it in the home why can't you do it outside. Are you ashamed of something? It sure as hell better not be me!


    It is not safe...


    Says who it's not safe? I've held my bfs hand in Oklahoma, Alabama, California and every state in between. Let em say shit, I don't care. If your ashamed of your love, then the red necks have a weapon to use against you. If you don't they lose it all. And sure I've had challenges, nothing has ever resulted from them; I have no shame in who or what I am.
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    May 25, 2010 10:47 PM GMT
    sxydrkhair said
    JayDT said
    sxydrkhair said
    JayDT saidIf a guy won't kiss me in public or hold my hand, it's not gonna go anywhere. I like the physical display, and if you can do it in the home why can't you do it outside. Are you ashamed of something? It sure as hell better not be me!


    It is not safe...


    Says who it's not safe? I've held my bfs hand in Oklahoma, Alabama, California and every state in between. Let em say shit, I don't care. If your ashamed of your love, then the red necks have a weapon to use against you. If you don't they lose it all. And sure I've had challenges, nothing has ever resulted from them; I have no shame in who or what I am.


    You don't realized there are like 90% of the world are heterosexual and we make up about 5% of the population? There are so many homophobic idiots out there. Not safe... If you are in the Gay friendly stores, restaurants, supermarket anywhere else... then go ahead kiss or hold hand. Not all gay guys are like you think it is awesome to kiss and hold hands in public...



    Show me this chart.....I think it's far more than 5%

    More like 50%....
    I think your not really in the real world. So what if it is 5% Everyone should be allowed to KISS .....just like I see them do all around me. Makes me mad!
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    May 25, 2010 10:51 PM GMT
    sxydrkhair said
    JayDT said
    sxydrkhair said
    JayDT saidIf a guy won't kiss me in public or hold my hand, it's not gonna go anywhere. I like the physical display, and if you can do it in the home why can't you do it outside. Are you ashamed of something? It sure as hell better not be me!


    It is not safe...


    Says who it's not safe? I've held my bfs hand in Oklahoma, Alabama, California and every state in between. Let em say shit, I don't care. If your ashamed of your love, then the red necks have a weapon to use against you. If you don't they lose it all. And sure I've had challenges, nothing has ever resulted from them; I have no shame in who or what I am.


    You don't realized there are like 90% of the world are heterosexual and we make up about 5% of the population? There are so many homophobic idiots out there. Not safe... If you are in the Gay friendly stores, restaurants, supermarket anywhere else... then go ahead kiss or hold hand. Not all gay guys are like you think it is awesome to kiss and hold hands in public...


    So in other words you are going to let the bigots take control over what you can and cannot do in this world? Are you really that afraid of them? You know what I am afraid of, being ruled by fear because "other people" might do something bad to me.
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    May 25, 2010 10:55 PM GMT
    Here's me kissing my boyfriend in front of the Holy Sepulchre in Jerusalem at Easter Mass.

    What are people afraid of? Don't be such worms icon_smile.gif
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    May 25, 2010 10:55 PM GMT
    JayDT saidIf a guy won't kiss me in public or hold my hand, it's not gonna go anywhere. I like the physical display, and if you can do it in the home why can't you do it outside. Are you ashamed of something? It sure as hell better not be me!



    One of my favorite moments in all of literature -
    Taming of the Shrew
    Act V.I

    KATHARINA
    Husband, let's follow, to see the end of this ado.

    PETRUCHIO
    First kiss me, Kate, and we will.

    KATHARINA
    What, in the midst of the street?

    PETRUCHIO
    What, art thou ashamed of me?

    KATHARINA
    No, sir, God forbid; but ashamed to kiss.

    PETRUCHIO
    Why, then let's home again. Come, sirrah, let's away.

    KATHARINA
    Nay, I will give thee a kiss: now pray thee, love, stay.

    PETRUCHIO
    Is not this well? Come, my sweet Kate:
    Better once than never, for never too late.