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    May 25, 2010 4:17 PM GMT
    So just looking for some general opinions here from you guys. Was out with mates last night (all straight) and was a guy there who I'd met in passing before but didn't know well. Had a great night out, plenty of drinks etc. Very tactile/boystrous group of guys so lots of messing around and hugging is normal for us. End of the night it's just this guy, a female friend of both of ours and myself left and decide to go back to hers for more drinks and watch a film.

    So all climbed under blanket to watch film with arms round shoulders etc. So all start to fall asleep reasonably soon and i put my head on this guys shoulder and lie on him a bit more and he puts arm round me on my chest. Every time I move he gives me a squeeze but he's also got girl under his other arm. Next he's slipping his hand into mine, holding hands etc. He was drunk and I know he's got issues going on at the moment (separated from girl (now wife) he has been with since age of 16 (13 years)) so didn't want to misconstrue anything so would shift position but leave hand out so he could take it if he wanted and each time he did, again holding hands under covers. Would stroke his arm etc when holding hands and he made no attempt to remove it but was feigning sleep at time also (but would wake to reset the hand hold etc if i moved).

    Next thing he and the girl have woken and gone to kitchen and I go through and they're kissing. Today we're chatting about the night in general and he's saying he doesn't remember anything after getting back to watch dvds. I don't even mention that anything might have happened because he already seems just slightly uneasy and I don't want to make anything difficult for him. Now I've just met this guy so it doesn't mean anything to me but he's a nice guy and I know I might like him if something were to happen.

    Do you guys think this could just have been a drunken extension of our usual tactile group dynamic or was I correct in thinking at the time this was something else? I might point out that the dynamic does not extend to hand holding usually!
  • Timbales

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    May 25, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    sometimes enjoying human contact is just that
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    May 26, 2010 3:20 AM GMT
    yeah, maybe you're right.
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    May 26, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidsometimes enjoying human contact is just that


    smart man.
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    May 26, 2010 3:23 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidsometimes enjoying human contact is just that



    PERFECT!
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    May 26, 2010 3:30 AM GMT
    Sweetly, so sweetly, you will hold this moment in your heart for him, because he can't. And every time you see him, you will regret nothing, including not saying anything to him about it. Instead, you will be the keeper of a moment that he needed you, and cared enough not to be afraid of being there with you as a mate.

    Life, if you are truly lucky, is made up of many of these kinds of moments between friends, and they shape us in ways that should not be misconstrued. Human beings are alone and without touch too much, much too much as it is. This is yours - and his. For him, and for you, hold it and honor it and be happy for having had it. And move on.
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    May 26, 2010 3:36 AM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidSweetly, so sweetly, you will hold this moment in your heart for him, because he can't. And every time you see him, you will regret nothing, including not saying anything to him about it. Instead, you will be the keeper of a moment that he needed you, and cared enough not to be afraid of being there with you as a mate.

    Life, if you are truly lucky, is made up of many of these kinds of moments between friends, and they shape us in ways that should not be misconstrued. Human beings are alone and without touch too much, much too much as it is. This is yours - and his. For him, and for you, hold it and honor it and be happy for having had it. And move on.


    OMG MCB, you're awsome!
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    May 26, 2010 3:38 AM GMT
    Get over it dude. He likes chicks...without dicksicon_cool.gif
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    May 26, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    Thanks guys. Like I say I'm not going to do anything - if he wants something then he knows I'm gay so he can make the move. Being mates is fine with me.