Respect of Monogamous Relationships?

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    Jan 31, 2008 10:15 PM GMT
    Just was thinking today about all the drama that seems to come with being gay and it stems from people not being faithful and people not respecting relationships. When a profile says "Monogamous Relationship" it seems no one cares. When profiles say this does that mean that you are still up for anything or do others just not give a shit? Personally I take offense to someone saying "I want to do you or lets meet for a hot night" WTF is this? Is it so hard for a man to allow a truly monogamous couple to live happily without trying to get in one of the guys pants? Is it our job to fuck any and everything with a cock? A little flirting usually will not turn me into an asshole but constant comments in gest pertaining to meeting for a fling or anything similar really pisses me off. Anyone else feel the same way and wish others would "Respect Your Monogamous Relationship"? Post freely please.
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    Jan 31, 2008 10:58 PM GMT
    I don't let it bother me anymore. It used to ryally piss me off, butnow I'll either ignore them if their approach was especially crude (one guy recently emailed me out of the blue and said he wanted to f**k me all night and seed me) or simply say "thanks, but taken...see my profile." A few of these have respected that and we've developed an online friendship. Many guys just look at the pics, particulary suggestive ones, and go right for the send email button.

    It's a shame, but there are many guys (especially in big urban centers, like San Francisco) who don't get the monogamy part because they arent, or don't care.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:01 PM GMT
    LatinMuscleSF said(one guy recently emailed me out of the blue and said he wanted to f**k me all night and seed me)


    just curious, do you still have his email address?....
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:03 PM GMT
    NO, I am up front with people. I also have made some great buddies on this site.

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    Jan 31, 2008 11:05 PM GMT
    It is not up to other. It is up to you. I you are in a monogamous relationship, it is your responsibility to draw the line. There will always be ass holes who don't resect anything. So it is all up to you and your partner.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:08 PM GMT
    I mean I'm single and I don't like getting those messages either! I usually respond with "Is that how your Momma taught you to say hi?!?!?"

    I'm with rk, it's up to you to draw the line on how far the flirting goes & some people just have no clue, period!
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:09 PM GMT
    I also think online is a different gig. You can say anything you want to me on here and I won't take it as threatening to me or my relationship. Out on the town is a different deal. I am not a jealous guy at all, but flirt with my boyfriend in front of me (when you know we are together) and i'll punch your junk. just so you know.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:10 PM GMT
    Chizzad saidJust was thinking today about all the drama that seems to come with being gay and it stems from people not being faithful and people not respecting relationships.


    This is not just a gay thing, straight or gay you have those who cross the line. It's unfortunately part of life and you just have to learn how to shut them down. Don't let them get to you.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:12 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidI mean I'm single and I don't like getting those messages either! I usually respond with "Is that how your Momma taught you to say hi?!?!?"

    I'm with rk, it's up to you to draw the line on how far the flirting goes & some people just have no clue, period!


    Oh I know it is up to the couple but once the guy knows how you feel and persist to disrespect your relationship that is past the already drawn line.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:14 PM GMT
    creyente said[quote][cite]Chizzad said[/cite]Just was thinking today about all the drama that seems to come with being gay and it stems from people not being faithful and people not respecting relationships.


    This is not just a gay thing, straight or gay you have those who cross the line. It's unfortunately part of life and you just have to learn how to shut them down. Don't let them get to you.[/quote]

    Thanks man, and I agree it is in str8 relationships too but it seems the open relationships and disrespect that I see are greater with gay men.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:16 PM GMT
    To: Chizzad & LatinMuscleSF

    No it does not bother me at all. If you guys are so bothered by this then, why have an account here with private photos.

    Im just glad that my partner and I have good communication and we are aware of others interfering with our relationship but that does not mean I dont love him or trust him.

    I dont know if its me but I see on both of you guys profiles a lot of flesh exposed which is endulgance for others.


    "It's a shame, but there are many guys (especially in big urban centers, like San Francisco) who don't get the monogamy part because they arent, or don't care."



    Its a shame you are ashamed, I love big urban city specially my lovely city of SF.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:16 PM GMT
    Chizzad said[quote][cite]a1972guy said[/cite]I mean I'm single and I don't like getting those messages either! I usually respond with "Is that how your Momma taught you to say hi?!?!?"

    I'm with rk, it's up to you to draw the line on how far the flirting goes & some people just have no clue, period!


    Oh I know it is up to the couple but once the guy knows how you feel and persist to disrespect your relationship that is past the already drawn line. [/quote]

    Then FUCK him up!!!

    Just kidding!

    Then simply state "If I wasn't married, I'd....." You can fill in the blank(s)!
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:18 PM GMT
    Kozmeka saidTo: Chizzad & LatinMuscleSF

    No it does not bother me at all. If you guys are so bothered by this then, why have an account here with private photos.

    Im just glad that my partner and I have good communication and we are aware of others interfering with our relationship but that does not mean I dont love him or trust him.

    I dont know if its me but I see on both of you guys profiles a lot of flesh exposed which is endulgance for others.


    "It's a shame, but there are many guys (especially in big urban centers, like San Francisco) who don't get the monogamy part because they arent, or don't care."



    Its a shame you are ashamed, I love big urban city specially my lovely city of SF.


    UMMMMM my private photos are not explicit bud....thanks
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:19 PM GMT
    a1972guy said[quote][cite]Chizzad said[/cite][quote][cite]a1972guy said[/cite]I mean I'm single and I don't like getting those messages either! I usually respond with "Is that how your Momma taught you to say hi?!?!?"

    I'm with rk, it's up to you to draw the line on how far the flirting goes & some people just have no clue, period!


    Oh I know it is up to the couple but once the guy knows how you feel and persist to disrespect your relationship that is past the already drawn line. [/quote]

    Then FUCK him up!!!

    Just kidding!

    Then simply state "If I wasn't married, I'd....." You can fill in the blank(s)!
    [/quote]

    Haha i would never use those blanks in any way to lead someone to think that if I were not in a relationship they might have a chance LOL. Funny though ahehehe
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:20 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Kozmeka said[/cite]To: Chizzad & LatinMuscleSF

    I dont know if its me but I see on both of you guys profiles a lot of flesh exposed which is endulgance for others.
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    Ummm this is a gay fitness site right?
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:20 PM GMT
    ChizzadA little flirting usually will not turn me into an asshole but constant comments in gest pertaining to meeting for a fling or anything similar really pisses me off. Anyone else feel the same way and wish others would "Respect Your Monogamous Relationship"?


    Chizzad has hit the nail on the head. When will gay men or men in general learn it is not ok to make comments when one has clearly spelled out the rules of their relationship. By in large the men on this site are great but in any forum there are always idiots. I like to ask the question "what part of NO don't you understand"e is looking for friends respect this. I am friends with many other gay men on a non sexual basis and as i get older I find that a network of good friends is very important in life.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:22 PM GMT
    I choose to be charitable and chalk it up to someone just too lazy to take the time to actually read anything in my profile...
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:23 PM GMT
    jarhead5536 saidI choose to be charitable and chalk it up to someone just too lazy to take the time to actually read anything in my profile...


    I wonder if anyone reads profiles anymore.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:25 PM GMT
    COmale said[quote][cite]Chizzad[/cite]A little flirting usually will not turn me into an asshole but constant comments in gest pertaining to meeting for a fling or anything similar really pisses me off. Anyone else feel the same way and wish others would "Respect Your Monogamous Relationship"?


    Chizzad has hit the nail on the head. When will gay men or men in general learn it is not ok to make comments when one has clearly spelled out the rules of their relationship. By in large the men on this site are great but in any forum there are always idiots. I like to ask the question "what part of NO don't you understand"e is looking for friends respect this. I am friends with many other gay men on a non sexual basis and as i get older I find that a network of good friends is very important in life.[/quote]

    Finally someone has seen the light. From a couple comments suggesting that since I am on this site and showing a little skin "a fitness site I remind you" I should just ignore this disrespect. First of all we all need to learn how to READ....others profiles that is. If I do not have hookup as one of my Here For's then chances are I'm not looking to hookup. Etc. lol
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:27 PM GMT
    COmale saidChizzad has hit the nail on the head. When will gay men or men in general learn it is not ok to make comments when one has clearly spelled out the rules of their relationship. By in large the men on this site are great but in any forum there are always idiots. I like to ask the question "what part of NO don't you understand"e is looking for friends respect this. I am friends with many other gay men on a non sexual basis and as i get older I find that a network of good friends is very important in life.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:30 PM GMT
    I think it is hard enough being in a gay relationship without having guys hit on you or your partner when they know you are in a monogamous relationship.

    I try to really respect other peoples relationships. I believe in karma. I have been cheated on in my last 3 relationships and I believe that if I get with a guy who has a boyfriend without the boyfriend knowing, then I have no right to complain if it happens to me.

    I also think it is just about respecting relationships in general. If you don't respect other peoples relationships, then you probably won't respect your own.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:30 PM GMT
    mnjock2003 said[quote][cite]jarhead5536 said[/cite]I choose to be charitable and chalk it up to someone just too lazy to take the time to actually read anything in my profile...


    I wonder if anyone reads profiles anymore. [/quote]

    I just wonder if anyone reads AT ALL!!!
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:31 PM GMT
    Chizzad said[quote][cite]Kozmeka said[/cite]To: Chizzad & LatinMuscleSF

    I dont know if its me but I see on both of you guys profiles a lot of flesh exposed which is endulgance for others.
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    Ummm this is a gay fitness site right?


    It is, but I dont get why the private photos, your pictures are great and a lot of exposure, Since I dont know you and Im going with what Im seeing and reading in your profile, It just makes me wonder, also I did not find any fitness advice forums that you participated except dating overweight guys.

    Im sure you dont need advice as you have a great body!!! Please quote me if im wrong and im not trying to burst your bubble. You said post freely please and Im giving you my opinion.


    What im getting is that you are maybe giving a different impression to others, reason why I dont understand your outrage.

    Have a great day.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:38 PM GMT
    I had read his profile and I had no problem figuring out he was in a monogamous relationship. I don't think its that hard to figure out.
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    Jan 31, 2008 11:41 PM GMT
    GuysGuyAtl saidI had read his profile and I had no problem figuring out he was in a monogamous relationship. I don't think its that hard to figure out.



    I'm with you, it is pretty obvious to me as well.