Question to everyone who wants to have a monogamous LTR

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    May 26, 2010 12:56 AM GMT
    My question to everyone who wants to have a monogamous LTR is: Are you willing to ensure that all your partner's sexual needs (within limits) are being met?

    Otherwise monogamous relationships are destined to fail, due to roving eyes and/or cheating.
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    May 26, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    Hells yes, i'm more concerned about some guy meeting mine, I can get a little.. erm.. naughty icon_razz.gif

    in truth, I just need a guy who can let lose and do things to me and with me that will make me groan..
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    May 26, 2010 2:39 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidHells yes, i'm more concerned about some guy meeting mine, I can get a little.. erm.. naughty icon_razz.gif
    You don't say?

    but why would you want to have a monogamous relationship with someone who doesn't scratch your every itch, at least from time to time.
    lilTanker said
    in truth, I just need a guy who can let lose and do things to me and with me that will make me groan..

    Again and again and again.
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    May 26, 2010 2:52 AM GMT
    Really?

    There are things in the bedroom I love but would happily give up if my partner wasn't into it.

    I generally agree with you, you have to be willing to meet you partner's sexual needs. However, the goal can't be 100% fulfillment. That is unrealistic and even if you could fulfill them 100% it is highly doubtful you have the same proclivities and thus would be less than 100% fulfilled.

    The aim is to be over all satisfied. Which means doing things in bed you rather wouldn't. That means jerking off to a particular fantasy rather than have your partner do it. And people can be overwhelmingly satisfied doing this.

    There are those who will never be satisfied with monogamy. And of course there are those who will never be satisfied with anything else. But, if roving eyes piss you off, chances are you wont be happy with anything.
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    May 26, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidReally?

    There are things in the bedroom I love but would happily give up if my partner wasn't into it.

    I generally agree with you, you have to be willing to meet you partner's sexual needs. However, the goal can't be 100% fulfillment. That is unrealistic and even if you could fulfill them 100% it is highly doubtful you have the same proclivities and thus would be less than 100% fulfilled.

    The aim is to be over all satisfied. Which means doing things in bed you rather wouldn't.
    you are correct, you can't do everything every time. Of course both partners need to be satisfied. That's why I temporized my statement a little with: "from time to time" and "within limits".

    Please note I called them 'needs' not 'wants', so anything you can happily give up is not a need.
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    May 26, 2010 3:19 AM GMT
    In my opinion, the most intense sexual gratification is knowing that the person you are trying to arouse is, in fact, aroused. So yes, I don't think I'd have any problem trying something new or giving up something I previously enjoyed.