Gym Hookups-101

  • brownbear787

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    May 26, 2010 3:18 AM GMT
    Hey guys,

    So I've been going to a gym for several months now and I haven't met another gay guy or have hooked up with anyone. To be honest, I'm not even sure if guys hookup at my gym or if their are any gay guys going to it. So I was hoping you guys could give me some pointers, tips and feedback on hooking up with and even meeting guys at the gym.

    1. For hookups. If you see a hot guy, how do you know if he's into dudes or not? Do you need to have a good gaydar to sense these things?

    2. Peeping at guys in the looker room- clearly this is pretty discreet, but could this be a way to seal the deal on hooking up?

    3. Making friends with other gay/bi guys- how can this happen if you're not even sure what their sexuality is.

    4. Any advice on locations or topics for starting conversations? (i'm not into sports at all btw)

    Just some tidbits about my gym: It is family orientated and equally caters to men, women, and children. Also many of the men are married/str8. I know this because I have yet to spot another gay guy at my gym. Moreover, the only guys that have conversations at the gym are people working out together and members talking to staff members.


    HELP ME OUT GUYS!
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    May 26, 2010 5:08 AM GMT
    so you go to the gym not to use the gym, but rather to hope you can get lucky and smash then go home? hmmm...
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    May 26, 2010 5:10 AM GMT
    Well first of all, why would you wanna get some booty at a gym? Lol
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    May 26, 2010 5:10 AM GMT
    Looks like you're going to the wrong gym, unless you want to hit up some hot mamas.
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    May 26, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    yeah.. most guys are there to pump iron not ass..

    it's good eye candy at times though icon_smile.gif
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    May 26, 2010 5:15 AM GMT
    :O



    really? I've seen some guys at my gym sending signals that are so strong you can see them from across the universe, but I don't bother with them, nd you shouldn't go to the gym to have sex, if you think about it you're paying for a membership to have sex? I don't pay for it.. Never have, Never will
  • calibro

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    May 26, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    save your money and buy a pass to a bathhouse with a weight room if you're looking to hook up at the gym
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    May 26, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    Make a normal, genuine friendship at the gym, you may enjoy your workouts more. Don't go to hunt meat.
  • Delivis

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    May 26, 2010 5:38 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidMake a normal, genuine friendship at the gym, you may enjoy your workouts more. Don't go to hunt meat.


    agreed
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    May 26, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    Definitely go to a gay gym if that is what you want to do. Otherwise, you can cruise - nothing stopping you - but it seems you have scoped out the vibe of the place pretty well. If you want to keep working out there, I would make the gym a friends-only place until you meet the right friend who wants to get down with you. Think of the consequences - you may end up uncomfortable going if you know you will see a potential Mr. Wrong you hooked up with, then found you were not compatible.

    Good luck, and have a good time.
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    May 26, 2010 6:10 AM GMT
    Delivis said
    Ciarsolo saidMake a normal, genuine friendship at the gym, you may enjoy your workouts more. Don't go to hunt meat.


    agreed


    Double agreed.
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    May 26, 2010 6:15 AM GMT
    "You cruise, you lose" applies here.
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    May 26, 2010 6:22 AM GMT
    First of all, a gym should not be seen as a pick up joint. You are there to work out, get fit, keep healthy. From time to time, yes, you may strike up a new friendship or two. Right off, you have the common interest of fitness and health, hence your reason for being at the gym. So if you want to make a friend, just smile, nod or say hi to people you see frequently, don't get too personal, maybe something light at first like ask them about their work out, their day (but not in the change room), maybe sign up for one of the classes or group exercise activities, but again all that is a secondary goal to the primary goal of physical fitness.

    And true, there are gyms that attract a higher percentage of gay clients. But even there, the guys are there first to work out, then second to scope out, be scoped out, and make out. icon_lol.gif

    And if you are looking for that, you joined the wrong gym. Especially one that you yourself have described as family oriented. You don't go shopping for sirloin at the bakery and you don't find a gay lover at the family gym-boree.
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    May 26, 2010 6:48 AM GMT
    yea i really dont think the gym is or should be a hookup place for gays, or straights for that matter. Sure it might be the object of countless gay fantasies, but that doesnt mean jack for shit.

    most guys at the gym are straight, and the few homosexuals might not be even looking for sex.

    to the op, use manhunt or craigslist, im sure you'll find what you're looking for.
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    May 26, 2010 7:13 AM GMT
    Very tacky to look to the gym for hookups. I mean, to look at the eye candy and admire or even to create friendships, now that's apprporiate. but to make it a mission to hook up and learn "tricks of the trade" = tacky
  • Kage

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    May 26, 2010 8:54 AM GMT
    Gym is not for hookups BUT if the situation presents itself make use of it.
    Just ensure there are no unwanted issues afterwards.
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    May 26, 2010 9:05 AM GMT
    There are guys at the gym that check me out regularly (discreetly). There are some that I check out regularly (discreetly). But I don't consider the gym to be a place to chat it up. Yes, you're both there because you're interested in fitness...but to me that's not enough to start a conversation.

    Now, if you notice something on their shirt that shows an interest or experience in common with you, that's a cool way to meet people. No matter whether you think they're attractive or not.

    Come to think of it, I don't believe I've ever cruised any location. It's not that I lack confidence, or gaydar...but it takes a bit more than looks to get me to come on to someone.
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    May 26, 2010 9:21 AM GMT
    It seems like you've watched an episode of a TV drama where it shows gay guys flirting in the locker room.

    Trust me if anyone is looking and is really interested it will reveal itself after a while.

    PS... try a club/bar setting or craigslist. also hate to say this but if you want some tail and your not in a "Gay" area, you might have to travel....
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    May 26, 2010 9:59 AM GMT
    This is where the definition of creeper comes from...
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    May 26, 2010 10:30 AM GMT
    Are you living in the 80's? Gyms aren't for cruising. Only creeps cruise the gym scene looking for sex.

    Hang your head in shame.
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    May 26, 2010 10:35 AM GMT
    I had an 18yo follow me around for a few weeks at the gym... claimed to want a gym buddy...I was like, sure, whatever, if you want to work out with me, go for it. He was thin as a rail and sorta went through the motions of what I was doing. Then, one day he followed me into the showers. He attempted to get a little frisky and I told him, "dude, I'm here to work out, that's it"... never saw him again after that!

    I think the whole gym/locker room thing is best left to fantasy and porn plot lines :-)

    (not to mention if you get caught doing anything, you will more than likely get tossed out of the gym for good...not good!)
  • cowboyathlete

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    May 26, 2010 11:23 AM GMT
    Fearthefall said"You cruise, you lose" applies here.
    Good line! I lost count of how many guys at the gym I wanted to bone or get boned by, but that is not why I am there.
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    May 26, 2010 12:42 PM GMT
    brownbear787 saidHey guys,

    So I've been going to a gym for several months now and I haven't met another gay guy or have hooked up with anyone.
    Gym guys like to feel the muscles of other guys who are pumped and tight. Maybe if you'd workout and get pumped and tight instead of just watching everyone else, you'd be able to pick up some guys.
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    May 26, 2010 1:00 PM GMT
    Lostboy said
    Delivis said
    Ciarsolo saidMake a normal, genuine friendship at the gym, you may enjoy your workouts more. Don't go to hunt meat.


    agreed


    Double agreed.


    Excellent comment!

    Eye candies are great inspirational source to get motivated. Besides, striking a conversation with strangers is not my favorite things to do.
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    May 26, 2010 1:25 PM GMT
    OP, you're young, and a lot like I was at your age, so just a couple of things:

    1) Most of the guys are right about the gym being a place to work out, not necessarily hook up. Especially because if you're caught, you're in hot water.

    2) You, like me, are a bigger guy. You probably think (as I used to) that there is something wrong with you because guys aren't cruising you, three's not. Probably over 90% of the guys you are likely to meet are straight anywy, so even if you were the hottest piece of ass there, they still wouldn't be interested.

    3) The odds just aren't in your favor unless you work out at a gym where a lot of gay people go, or a lot of married closet cases looking for action in the sauna. And even if you do hook up, what then? You may have exhausted your supply of men at that gym, then you're back to the same dillemma.

    4) Focus first and foremost on working out, improving your shape, getting more endurance, that all boosts self esteem. Good luck!