May 27, 2010 8:31 PM GMT
So two years ago I shaved my head, grew a beard and put on 25-30 lbs, a decent amount of it muscle. The boys liked! I got a lot of attention and whenever they saw older pics of me a lot thinner and with more...interesting hair and a shaved face they went 'ewww'. The change came through a depression of sorts. I ate more, but I strength train and run a decent amount so therefore I gained more muscle. Also I shaved my head during a suicidal period.
Present day: I'm happy, focused, lost the weight I had previously gained, re-grew my hair and shaved my face. The boys don't like. But I look how I want to look. Interestingly enough, I'm more attracted to men who looked like I did when I had more muscle on me and a shaved head, and yet I don't want to look like that myself, or feel I should have to look like that to be attractive to a man like that.
Other than the stock response of "It doesn't matter what others think, you should make yourself happy", what are your thoughts on the matter?
Present day: I'm happy, focused, lost the weight I had previously gained, re-grew my hair and shaved my face. The boys don't like. But I look how I want to look. Interestingly enough, I'm more attracted to men who looked like I did when I had more muscle on me and a shaved head, and yet I don't want to look like that myself, or feel I should have to look like that to be attractive to a man like that.
Other than the stock response of "It doesn't matter what others think, you should make yourself happy", what are your thoughts on the matter?