Would you date a broke, unemployed guy living with his parents?

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    May 28, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    Would you guy that is broke, unemployed and living with his parents?

    And I don't mean a guy who is your boyfriend that comes on hard times. I mean a cool guy that you just met who at the time has very little savings and has been been out of work for more than a year so he had to move back home with his parents.

    Is it superficial and shallow to dismiss him or just realistic? Since many people go through rough patches, would you give him a chance or just move on?

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    May 28, 2010 4:28 AM GMT
    It would all depend on what he was like as a person.
  • GQjock

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    May 28, 2010 10:57 AM GMT
    Wow .... he'd have to be God Damned awfully Hot icon_cool.gif
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    May 28, 2010 11:48 AM GMT
    helllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll no
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    May 28, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    Hey Indy good topic and oh gawd this is really just right up my alley!! my last relationship was with a guy who when I met him he already was on his three month of being unemployed, and although he lived in the same house with his mother he had his own place living in the downstairs apartment on his own. According to him he was helping his mother with paying the property taxes since the house mortgage was already paid for. Anyway the fact he didn't have a job didn't bother me, first because I am not materialistic and secondly because I loved him!

    The problem was with him! he felt that being unemployed made him look and feel like a looser, and that I would eventually get tired of him and live him for someone more successful? I reassured him that his unemployment status was out of his control, and that he shouldn't feel inadequate about it, and that I was fine with it because I loved him! well even that kind of support didn't helped him feel any better, so one day he called me on the phone and asked me he needed time alone to go through the rough patches he is being going through for about a year. So how do you like them apples? my experience with an unemployed boyfriend was unique in the sense that my financial and emotional support wasn't appreciated! go figured!?


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    May 28, 2010 2:52 PM GMT
    Indy404 saidWould you guy that is broke, unemployed and living with his parents?

    And I don't mean a guy who is your boyfriend that comes on hard times. I mean a cool guy that you just met who at the time has very little savings and has been been out of work for more than a year so he had to move back home with his parents.

    Is it superficial and shallow to dismiss him or just realistic? Since many people go through rough patches, would you give him a chance or just move on?


    It would depend on whether he was truly making a good faith effort to find a job and not just a deadbeat.
  • Kage

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    May 28, 2010 2:55 PM GMT
    Yes, as per the hot cowboy above me.
    Deadbeat = no.
    Trying = perhaps but I doubt it.
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    May 28, 2010 7:36 PM GMT
    Kage saidYes, as per the hot cowboy above me.
    Deadbeat = no.
    Trying = perhaps but I doubt it.


    said who? the cowboy above you have battle a lot worse then most of us and have pulled through just fine! icon_wink.gif


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    May 28, 2010 7:37 PM GMT
    Yes, absolutely - shit happens when we least expect it.
    No point kicking a dog when he's already down. He would have to be making an effort to find a job though.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    May 28, 2010 7:38 PM GMT
    It would depend on the circumstances and what he was doing to get himself out of that predicament. If he had no goals, and no game plan how to achieve them...no way would I date him.
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    May 28, 2010 7:39 PM GMT
    He would have to submit a business plan and there would need to be benchmarks and deadlines, but probably not. Someone in that position shouldn't be dating in the first place, they should be focused on themself.
  • Classyboy04

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    May 28, 2010 7:52 PM GMT
    I would have to say, I used to be one of those guys.Its not easy here in chicago to find employment in your field and I was struggling hard. But now I have a job at Soldiers Field as a Pastry Cook. So I wouldnt diss a guy because of his employment or living situation. Now if you find a guy who doesnt want to do anything but sit around then no I would not want to date him cause he is not on my level.Get to know the person first, you maybe surprise what you find icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 28, 2010 7:58 PM GMT
    If he had a goal and a plan in place to get a job, then if I really really liked him, I probably would. If there was no plan, I would have to say no thank you.

    I do have to say that I am one of the unemployed people who are looking for a job and I have goals and a plan in place to achieve that. I also have a home based business that is starting to bring me in some decent cash as well as a payout that I received when my last job ended. So I still am looking pretty good.

    .....I think.....
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    May 28, 2010 7:59 PM GMT
    not a chance -
    he'd be a drain on the system, and not in a good way.
  • bmw0

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    May 28, 2010 8:06 PM GMT
    There are a lot of variables to this. If he was broke, unemployed and in school to better himself, yes in a heart beat.

    If he was broke and lazy, not a chance.

    Those would be things to consider, but you don't need a lot of money to be a good person.

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    May 28, 2010 8:13 PM GMT
    likely not....
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    May 28, 2010 8:19 PM GMT
    it depends on how old he is. it's conceivable that a 25 year old could move back in with his parents...especially if he has school bills. if he is over 30, that's a different story.

    in fact, if he is over 30 and he has chosen to live with his parents, rather than continue to live independently (even if it is by moving in with some roommates), there are some issues there.

    why? do you know someone like this? icon_wink.gif
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    May 28, 2010 8:20 PM GMT
    I'd take the broke basement dweller over the soulless law-firm droid any day of the week.

    It is depressing to see how many guys here base their life decisions on utterly superficial and uncontrollable characteristics. Once one has given up so much individuality to social expectations life is nothing more than slavery in the service of marketing.

    I'll eat dal and rice thanks very much.
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    May 28, 2010 8:24 PM GMT
    UrsaMajor said

    I'll eat dal and rice thanks very much.


    you could do worse...icon_wink.gif
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    May 28, 2010 8:28 PM GMT
    It is sad to see so many heartless responses! I don't wish this kind of thing on anyone not even my worst enemies, but I sure hope it happens to those of you whose indifference, and may it happen at your worst possible time in your life! most of the unemployed I've known have remained motivated and endlessly looking for a job, any job! and they still can't find one, so is it right to call them deadbeats and lazy bums?


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    May 28, 2010 8:30 PM GMT
    yes, you never know what someone is going through. I completely understand, I was laid off from my job of six years and have not been able to find a new job. I have been going on interviews as well and doing jobs such as working as an extra to bring in some coins. I may have to leave new york soon and move home if I don't find a job soon because my place is too expensive. It's one thing though if this guy is just hanging out at home and not looking for work.
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    May 28, 2010 8:31 PM GMT
    UrsaMajor saidI'd take the broke basement dweller over the soulless law-firm droid any day of the week.

    It is depressing to see how many guys here base their life decisions on utterly superficial and uncontrollable characteristics. Once one has given up so much individuality to social expectations life is nothing more than slavery in the service of marketing.

    I'll eat dal and rice thanks very much.



    My hero! thank goodness somebody have a heart! I was getting worried!


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    May 28, 2010 8:32 PM GMT
    Short Answer: In this economy its a little tough to be judgmental.
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    May 28, 2010 8:35 PM GMT
    Considering the economy and job market in many parts of the country, something like this isn't unusual. Many young people find themselves in a position to move back home after graduating from college or getting fired/laid off from a job because of having limited resources to support themselves (not to mention loads of student debt lurking to be paid off).
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    May 28, 2010 8:40 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidIt would depend on the circumstances and what he was doing to get himself out of that predicament. If he had no goals, and no game plan how to achieve them...no way would I date him.


    Agreed. Plus, he'd have to have a heart of gold AND the body/face of a god. Those rarely occur together, so my answer is, PROBABLY NOT. icon_lol.gif