Do opposites really attract?

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    May 28, 2010 7:45 PM GMT
    Just thought I'd ask the question, because lately it seems like guys are looking for their identical twin, or close to it. Maybe more so here in the Northeast, as opposed to elsewhere. My preference varies, but I def am attracted to my opposite(lighter features). What's a guy to do? haha
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    May 28, 2010 8:06 PM GMT
    People tend to go for similar personality types. Extroverts will tend to be attracted to other extroverts because they're energised by socialising and taking action. Introverts tend to form better relationships with other introverts, because introverts are typically more independent and lose patience with extroverted personality types.

    However, in my experience, there are fewer introverts than extroverts, and introverts are often more willing to look beyond their personality types than extroverts are, which leads to a bias that favours the extrovert.

    In terms of body types, people will usually be attracted to people that show physical characteristics that match their personality. "How do people tell personality from physical characteristics?" you may ask. Well, here's a BBC questionnaire that might help to show how this effect with facial recognition, it's not a huge stretch to apply it to the physique as well icon_smile.gif

    TLDR version, if you want to sleep with someone, try to look like them as much as possible!
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    May 28, 2010 8:17 PM GMT
    Well, I don't think so. People do tend to date their type of person that they're compatible with, but at the same time adds something different to the mix. In my experience, if I date someone too similar too me, it's like dating my best friend. If I date someone too different, it just doesn't work out very smoothly. Sometimes, a middle guy is seen as the perfect fit.

    Looks wise, it's something that's personal. I've seen muscle dudes with skinny guys, racially mixed couples, etc. I think looks is just a preference.
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    May 28, 2010 8:24 PM GMT
    For me when it comes to guys, it's all about values and goals, not so much introvert vs. extrovert. I prefer having a partner who shares my essential beliefs and whose life direction complements mine. It's nice to have someone by your side who's on the same page as you most of the time. That's how you work towards supporting each other during times of need and learning to compromise when you have differences. Otherwise I think being too different would become a problem after a while. Being too opposite might be interesting at first, but for me I can't see it working in the long run because both sides would get fed up with not agreeing on much of anything.
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    May 29, 2010 5:48 PM GMT


    Being open to any or all possibilities leaves a window for experience. anything other is like a carbon foot print. *yawn*
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    May 29, 2010 5:51 PM GMT
    Hillie said

    Being open to any or all possibilities leaves a window for experience. anything other is like a carbon foot print. *yawn*


    I like this one! icon_biggrin.gif
  • dannyboy1101

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    May 29, 2010 6:32 PM GMT
    Nope. Hence why every gay man has a gym membership. LOL
  • jrs1

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    May 29, 2010 6:34 PM GMT
    do opposites attract?

    yes. yes, sometimes they do.
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    Jun 15, 2010 9:12 PM GMT
    Yes I think so. I always went for guys like me and those relationships always ended. the guy i am with is a polar opposites and I have never been happier.
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Jun 15, 2010 9:26 PM GMT
    i have to have a polar opposite.
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    Jun 15, 2010 9:26 PM GMT
    Yes, for me anyways. I've always been drawn to people very different from myself. When I host parties, I'm always surprised by how I managed to get the crazy cast of characters in one room. When it comes to relationships, I'm very much the same way. Besides, I think I might explode if I was ever with someone like myself. No way!