Hot Persian guys at gym ... too risky to try?

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    May 31, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    Man, at my gym there is this group of hot Persian dudes, in their early 20s and always train together. Their dark skin tone and rogue-ish look just melts me ... the worst part is I always see them checking me out (I have made certain that they are not just happen to look at my direction by chance).
    Now the question is: is it worth the risk to try and probe their sexuality? I am in a very gay populated/gay friendly gym, so it's really hard to tell if they are into guys or not. As you know the more gay friendly a man is, the more likely he is straight and secure with his sexuality. Also I know Persian culture is not known for their gay tolerance, so I could be putting myself in a very bad situation by trying to question their 'manliness'.
    I have been told that I am very straight looking in person so it is possible that they are just doing what straight guys do normally and comparing results (I have no idea though, never been THAT straight). But seriously it would make my day if even one of them turn out to be Bi ... kills me everytime I catch them looking @@
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    May 31, 2010 5:41 AM GMT
    I have a major problem with this dilemma.Happens to me often and I feel there is never an appropriate action to take. I'm sure your gaydar goes off, but it still feels like you don't want to make the wrong or offensive move, so I hope some other guys have an answer lol
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    May 31, 2010 5:43 AM GMT
    I can't answer your question without pictures of the guys from your gym. Once I view those, I can formulate an answer. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 31, 2010 5:43 AM GMT
    Well they obviously are not plotting to kill you. So that means they are looking because they are intrigued. I think you should make small talk, but maybe wait for a day when they are not all there. Chances are your attempts at small talk will be rejected when they are in larger numbers (simply because people feel safe in groups to be mean).

    Best of luck.
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    May 31, 2010 5:44 AM GMT
    Lol... ask them to spot with a bench press or a squat. It always works with me, plus I get to look up their shirts if they are spotting my presses. (I know, sneaky, lol).

    But if you are really interested, just spark up some convo...
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    May 31, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    GBRelentless saidLol... ask them to spot with a bench press or a squat. It always works with me, plus I get to look up their shirts if they are spotting my presses. (I know, sneaky, lol).

    But if you are really interested, just spark up some convo...


    Thats a great idea. And speaking of their shirts, check out what images are on their shirts. Maybe they are advertising their sexuality via t-shirt logos.
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    May 31, 2010 5:58 AM GMT
    GBRelentless saidLol... ask them to spot with a bench press or a squat. It always works with me, plus I get to look up their shirts if they are spotting my presses. (I know, sneaky, lol).

    But if you are really interested, just spark up some convo...


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    Funny!!!!
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    May 31, 2010 6:11 AM GMT
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    GBRelentless saidLol... ask them to spot with a bench press or a squat. It always works with me, plus I get to look up their shirts if they are spotting my presses. (I know, sneaky, lol).

    But if you are really interested, just spark up some convo...


    Thats a great idea. And speaking of their shirts, check out what images are on their shirts. Maybe they are advertising their sexuality via t-shirt logos.


    That was a joke about the spotting! But if you are interested in conversing with someone, then spark convo... simple as that! If the other parties takes it as homosexual innuendo, then so be it, but conversation is conversation. For example... I notice someone taking a pill after they worked out, I was curious as to what it was and I asked him about it. That led to us having an hour conversation and now we are good buddies. Is he gay? I don't know and I don't care...

    NOW... Most of the shirts I see in my gym are either college logos, plain solid colored shirts or sports jerseys. So what does that say about sexuality? Was that literal enough for you?
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    May 31, 2010 6:32 AM GMT

    Here in Belgium, we have many arab men. While many of them have problems with gay folks, they are otherwise genuinely nice people. They talk to me at the gym and even invite me to join them at coffee or tea.

    My advice is to join them socially and then see if a door opens up from there. It's just a question of mathematics that eventually you'll run across a gay one.

    Still, in 2010, the internet and it's search filters are the easiest way to get your fix. icon_smile.gif
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    May 31, 2010 6:32 AM GMT
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    GBRelentless saidLol... ask them to spot with a bench press or a squat. It always works with me, plus I get to look up their shirts if they are spotting my presses. (I know, sneaky, lol).

    But if you are really interested, just spark up some convo...


    Thats a great idea. And speaking of their shirts, check out what images are on their shirts. Maybe they are advertising their sexuality via t-shirt logos.


    That was a joke about the spotting! But if you are interested in conversing with someone, then spark convo... simple as that! If the other parties takes it as homosexual innuendo, then so be it, but conversation is conversation. For example... I notice someone taking a pill after they worked out, I was curious as to what it was and I asked him about it. That led to us having an hour conversation and now we are good buddies. Is he gay? I don't know and I don't care...

    NOW... Most of the shirts I see in my gym are either college logos, plain solid colored shirts or sports jerseys. So what does that say about sexuality? Was that literal enough for you?


    Ha! I just figured that he could look out for a gay club's t-shirt or some sort of pride t-shirt. But I doubt many would wear something like that to workout in.
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    May 31, 2010 6:36 AM GMT
    I'm Persian icon_smile.gif
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    May 31, 2010 7:34 AM GMT
    Are they just looking at you because you're looking at them?...
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    May 31, 2010 7:46 AM GMT
    luvitohateit saidI'm Persian icon_smile.gif


    woof!
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    May 31, 2010 8:34 AM GMT
    Lenoxx saidAre they just looking at you because you're looking at them?...


    That's quite possible. I generally don't keep my eyes on certain people at the gym. I did notice that when I catch their look and return the favor, they usually stare/gaze a bit before looking somewhere else, almost like acknowledging my suspicion. I did talk to two of them, and they are actually friendlier than they look. While I 'believe' they know I am gay I still can't pin down if they are into guys or not. I will probably take the friend approach as everyone suggested on here and see if it gets me somewhere, it certainly is hard to chat when they are always in group, like Persian troopers ... [luckily ran into the two guys in steam room]. Oh luvitohateit = hot Persian guy!
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    May 31, 2010 10:51 AM GMT
    I take it you've never been introduced or talked to them before other than a glance. Why not intro yourself and get to know them in general first? The answer to your question will come naturally and no need to 'probe' with impersonal questions.

    Good luck - u may wind up with some new friends - gay or otherwise.
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    May 31, 2010 10:52 AM GMT
    Say hi... what's the worst that could happen by doing that much?
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    May 31, 2010 11:35 AM GMT
    beow2k5 said Now the question is: is it worth the risk to try and probe their sexuality? I am in a very gay populated/gay friendly gym, so it's really hard to tell if they are into guys or not. As you know the more gay friendly a man is, the more likely he is straight and secure with his sexuality. Also I know Persian culture is not known for their gay tolerance, so I could be putting myself in a very bad situation by trying to question their 'manliness'.


    Are they PERSIAN or MUSLIM IRANIAN? Because there's a big difference.

    Either way hit on them.
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    May 31, 2010 12:04 PM GMT
    Gonna play devlil's advocate:

    You mentioned that you check them out often and then you catch them looking at you...could it be that they are wondering "Why does that guy always look at us when we're working out?"

    Unfortunately none of us are there at the gym with you to say for sure "yes hit on them" or no don't. But what I will say is be careful...there is no good right or wrong answer, You need to go with your gut.

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    Jun 01, 2010 3:27 PM GMT
    Persians are pretty cocky and fabulous by nature, if you don't have the balls to go up and make a conversation with them confidently, I doubt they would be interested.
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    Jun 01, 2010 3:32 PM GMT
    yes persian guys are hot especially their lower extremities icon_wink.gif it would be worth a try to atleast get their name and maybe work out with them sometime and go out someplace to hang out with
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    Jun 01, 2010 4:28 PM GMT
    yeah, made friend with two of the persian guys. One gets all smiley when we see each other at the gym~ Still don't know if he is/or not, but I am content for now ^^
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    Dec 17, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    I just got curious about the rest of the story icon_razz.gif what happened at the end?
  • RaggedyMan

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    Dec 17, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    Had to be Persians!!!
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    Dec 17, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    His last post was 2 yrs ago, so he is either married to a persian or changed gyms. Damn, the OP is cute!
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    Dec 17, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    huhwhat saidHis last post was 2 yrs ago, so he is either married to a persian or changed gyms. Damn, the OP is cute!

    Oh I know but I thought it was funny. All Persians are gay BTW icon_smile.gif