He Was Straight!

  • Celticmusl

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    May 31, 2010 2:07 PM GMT
    Okay so my friends will say this could only happen to me:

    My friends and I went to a Memorial Day Weekend event at a gay patio bar last night. It started around six so the sun was still out. There were literally wall to wall men, and you could barely move to walk to one of the bars to get a drink. Great looking men, very nice diverse crowd such as young, old, bear, twink, jock, some women, various ethnicities, you name it.

    Of course guys check out other guys in this situation. Just because a guy checks you out doesn't mean they want to marry you or even talk to you......I get it. I check out a lot of guys myself just to figure out if I'm at all interested. Well one guy comes in with a black baseball cap on worn backwards and instantly I was drawn to him. I just liked the way he walked, the way he carried himself, his manners, and of course he was a cute guy.

    Later that evening I noticed he was texting(actually he explained it was a blackjack game) and sitting on a picnic table that was about 5 feet away from our group. Quite a few of my friends noticed he was checking me out, repeatedly. They practically insisted that I go up and talk with this guy. Luckily, a bowling friend of mine was seated somewhat close to him and so I went and talked with my bowling friend. Within a couple of minutes I introduced myself to this cute guy named "Alex" and we hit it off instantly and had tons of stuff to talk about.

    So finally he explains that he is straight. I was a little befuddled but I'm used to being jerked around so didn't show my shock over the fact that I knew he kept checking me out. Later, he explained that he was checking me out because he liked my plaid shorts since he is an avid golfer and would like to find a pair.

    Long story short, he is a great guy, there is a lot of chemistry there and he admitted the same. We went along with his friends to another gay bar and closed down the place. One of his friends told me he thinks "Alex" has tendencies but that was not what out chemistry or new friendship was about.

    So.......has this ever happened to you? It's still early in the morning so I haven't texted my friends the news yet......but they are going to split a gut over this!
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    May 31, 2010 2:15 PM GMT
    No, it never happened to me.
    Do you like golf? If you do, it could be the beginning of a good friendship with him.
    I hope you got his number or have some way of contacting him.
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    May 31, 2010 2:23 PM GMT
    Yes it has happened to both myself, and Bill. It still does. A lot of straight guys like us. We like them. It's all good.

    -Doug

    Sounds like you guys had a great time all around.

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    May 31, 2010 2:33 PM GMT
    I like how the title uses the word "straight" in the past tense. icon_wink.gif
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    May 31, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI like how the title uses the word "straight" in the past tense. icon_wink.gif



    ROFL Paul, That one flew over me at 10,000 feet. 10 points for that one!


    -Doug
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    May 31, 2010 2:38 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    paulflexes saidI like how the title uses the word "straight" in the past tense. icon_wink.gif



    ROFL Paul, That one flew over me at 10,000 feet. 10 points for that one!


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  • rnch

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    May 31, 2010 2:39 PM GMT
    what are YOU looking for, CM? a 24/7 live in bf who gives mind blowing sex on demand?

    a friend to hang out with and enjoy each other's personality and comapionship?

    it sounds like you two share "chemistry"..a friendship, if not a close friendship could be possible...at the least.

    as ya'll get to know each other, and get more comfortable with the other.....who know what thismay evolve into?

    i can get meaningless quickie sex about any night of the week. a good friend is harder (no pun intended) to find.
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    May 31, 2010 2:43 PM GMT
    rnch saidi can get meaningless quickie sex about any night of the week. a good friend is harder (no pun intended) to find.
    Worth repeating... icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 31, 2010 2:45 PM GMT
    Yes I always go for the straight boys. And then I spend months pining over them. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • rnch

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    May 31, 2010 2:57 PM GMT
    Celticmusl saidOkay so my friends will say this could only happen to me:

    My friends and I went to a Memorial Day Weekend event at a gay patio bar last night. It started around six so the sun was still out. There were literally wall to wall men, and you could barely move to walk to one of the bars to get a drink. Great looking men, very nice diverse crowd such as young, old, bear, twink, jock, some women, various ethnicities, you name it.

    Of course guys check out other guys in this situation. Just because a guy checks you out doesn't mean they want to marry you or even talk to you......I get it. I check out a lot of guys myself just to figure out if I'm at all interested. Well one guy comes in with a black baseball cap on worn backwards and instantly I was drawn to him. I just liked the way he walked, the way he carried himself, his manners, and of course he was a cute guy.

    Later that evening I noticed he was texting(actually he explained it was a blackjack game) and sitting on a picnic table that was about 5 feet away from our group. Quite a few of my friends noticed he was checking me out, repeatedly. They practically insisted that I go up and talk with this guy. Luckily, a bowling friend of mine was seated somewhat close to him and so I went and talked with my bowling friend. Within a couple of minutes I introduced myself to this cute guy named "Alex" and we hit it off instantly and had tons of stuff to talk about.

    So finally he explains that he is straight. I was a little befuddled but I'm used to being jerked around so didn't show my shock over the fact that I knew he kept checking me out. Later, he explained that he was checking me out because he liked my plaid shorts since he is an avid golfer and would like to find a pair.

    Long story short, he is a great guy, there is a lot of chemistry there and he admitted the same. We went along with his friends to another gay bar and closed down the place. One of his friends told me he thinks "Alex" has tendencies but that was not what out chemistry or new friendship was about.

    So.......has this ever happened to you? It's still early in the morning so I haven't texted my friends the news yet......but they are going to split a gut over this!
    the fact that he was in a gay bar, checking you out and chatting you up bodes well for the future! icon_wink.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    May 31, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
    rnch saidwhat are YOU looking for, CM? a 24/7 live in bf who gives mind blowing sex on demand?

    a friend to hang out with and enjoy each other's personality and comapionship?

    it sounds like you two share "chemistry"..a friendship, if not a close friendship could be possible...at the least.

    as ya'll get to know each other, and get more comfortable with the other.....who know what thismay evolve into?

    i can get meaningless quickie sex about any night of the week. a good friend is harder (no pun intended) to find.




    I agree to most of this. Most of my friends think I am always wasting my time trying to get to know someone, trying to be "friends first". I've had friendships that are heading towards lasting 30 years. My longest ltr was only 7.

    It is very strange about the "chemistry" and he even recognized sometimes a relationship is just about two people, whether you call it a marriage, or a friendship, or something else. He was a Psych major, just like moi, so we talked a great bit about the psychology of it all.

    Actually, I have the bad habit of psychoanalyzing people. Perhaps since he went to an all-boys Catholic school for 12 yrs maybe he just misses the tight bonding with other guys. In that kind of situation I would assume most if not all of your intimate relationships are going to be with other guys.
  • Celticmusl

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    May 31, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    BuddyinNYC saidNo, it never happened to me.
    Do you like golf? If you do, it could be the beginning of a good friendship with him.
    I hope you got his number or have some way of contacting him.


    We brought up the subject a few times to exchange numbers but it never happened.

    But he invited me to an event happening this Thursday that he and his friends will be attending. I guess they are involved in organizing the event so I'm pretty sure he will be there.
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    May 31, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    If your intentions are more than a friendship, like love and lust, really, don't waste your time. As lucratively wonderful as it may seem. Even if the guy is not sure himself, you don't need that baggage.

    Again, if getting together with him makes you crave more, you're only setting yourself up for heartbreak.
  • Midas426

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    May 31, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI like how the title uses the word "straight" in the past tense. icon_wink.gif
    Technically it did happen in the OP's past. But I recognize the other implication too. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 31, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    Celticmusl said
    [...] Most of my friends think I am always wasting my time trying to get to know someone, trying to be "friends first". I've had friendships that are heading towards lasting 30 years. My longest ltr was only 7.

    It is very strange about the "chemistry" and he even recognized sometimes a relationship is just about two people, whether you call it a marriage, or a friendship, or something else. He was a Psych major, just like moi, so we talked a great bit about the psychology of it all.

    Actually, I have the bad habit of psychoanalyzing people. [...]


    LT Friendships (LTF) are a wonderful thing and there's no need to worry that they might take the place of a LTR. Both are great and gratifying when they're real and strong. One never knows what kind of investment each will be during the long run. One type (LTF/LTR) might help bring on the other. Since "Alex" has gay friends, perhaps he could introduce you to some guy.. and the rest will be blissful history. Perhaps the resulting friendships with him or his friends could eventually bring you into your desired career. One never knows. It's great to be able to proceed in life's mysterious journey with an open mind (though cautiously), hopefully broadening the probability of being in the right place at the right time.

    I don't think that it's a bad habit to psychoanalyzing people, as long as you know what limits are and don't irritate people. That's who you are. If someone doesn't like it, you weren't meant for each other. If you were to suppress your nature, you wouldn't be truthful to yourself. Now that would be bad.

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    May 31, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    Celticmusl said
    BuddyinNYC saidNo, it never happened to me.
    Do you like golf? If you do, it could be the beginning of a good friendship with him.
    I hope you got his number or have some way of contacting him.


    We brought up the subject a few times to exchange numbers but it never happened.

    But he invited me to an event happening this Thursday that he and his friends will be attending. I guess they are involved in organizing the event so I'm pretty sure he will be there.


    That's a no brainer and a priority - GO FOR IT !
  • GQjock

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    May 31, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    He went with you and your friends to a Gay Club and closed the place down?

    icon_confused.gif I think golf is his code word for Liking Dick
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    May 31, 2010 4:11 PM GMT
    GQjock saidHe went with you and your friends to a Gay Club and closed the place down?

    icon_confused.gif I think golf is his code word for Liking Dick

    lmao!!!

    Hey. Let me swing your Par 2. ;) lmao.
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    May 31, 2010 4:11 PM GMT
    GQjock saidHe went with you and your friends to a Gay Club and closed the place down?

    icon_confused.gif I think golf is his code word for Liking Dick
    I met my best friend in a gay bar, and did some gay4pay adult work with him. But he's happily married and has two kids. So far we've never done anything off camera because I respect his "assumed" straightness. Oh and his wife eventually became my friend too, so now we're one big happy family. Sex or not, I enjoy their company. Maybe we should 3-way. icon_biggrin.gif
  • calibro

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    May 31, 2010 4:18 PM GMT
    likes plaid and golf... dude, he's totes a lesbian icon_wink.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    May 31, 2010 4:46 PM GMT
    calibro saidlikes plaid and golf... dude, he's totes a lesbian icon_wink.gif



    Lol, funny thing is we talked about how golf is the lesbian sport. I have also been accused of dressing like a lesbian. icon_redface.gif
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    May 31, 2010 7:25 PM GMT
    This happened to me with a guy at my new job recently. He's really cool and we hit it off from the get-go and he would always find a way to come and talk to me and gave me his email, facebook, etc. We even hung out the first weekend after I started there.

    Turns out he's just one of those really friendly straight guys...dammit. Oh well.
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    May 31, 2010 7:31 PM GMT
    He's six-pack straight. Get him drunk.
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    May 31, 2010 7:32 PM GMT
    Story of my life bro....
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    May 31, 2010 7:42 PM GMT
    GQjock saidHe went with you and your friends to a Gay Club and closed the place down?

    icon_confused.gif I think golf is his code word for Liking Dick

    Yeah, if he ever says he'd like to check out your wood, he's probably not talking about a golf club. icon_wink.gif