Vers/Btm and Vers/Top Guys

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    May 28, 2007 4:06 AM GMT
    Question..guys who label themselves as either of the two...Why is it that they always end up being a btm? I've never met a guy that says he's vers that ever tried to top me.

    If he did, I probably would have hit him b/c I'm not interested in trying to btm.

    Is this a way for vers guys to try to sound "cool" b/c they go both ways (which is kinda like saying your bi to me), or is this a way of saying they don't like being called a btm b/c of the stereotypes attached to it? I don't understand why these things are such a big deal.
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    May 28, 2007 7:41 AM GMT
    Well, maybe you should ask yourself why you yourself are a top? Why would you hit someone for trying to top you? I think the answer is in your own questions.
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    May 28, 2007 8:34 AM GMT
    I'm a top because ass is what turns me on. A guy's dick never has mattered to me when it comes to sex. Granted, I'll do whatever is necessary to please him, but it's not something I care about.

    Also, the guy who tried to top me was giving me a massage, then all of a sudden I felt his dick near my ass trying to slide it in, which was scary and something I didn't want. He disrespected me.

    The answer doesn't lie in my question at all. I'm just curious about the whole versatile thing b/c I've never met a guy that's truly versatile.
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    May 28, 2007 8:40 AM GMT
    Perhaps you need to have more sex then? ;-)
  • GQjock

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    May 28, 2007 12:13 PM GMT
    Is there a blinking sign on your ass that says, "No dicks beyond this point"?
    Do you think a polite, Sorry I don't enjoy bottoming...wouldn't have worked better than Hitting someone?
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    May 28, 2007 12:40 PM GMT
    Agreed to responses.
    Someone who is "massaging" you, and you are being intimate, then you attempt to hit them?
    Now that is messed up.
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    May 28, 2007 4:58 PM GMT
    a massage is NOT being intimate..he was clothed..i just had my shirt off..and this was suppose to be a FRIENDLY thing to do b/c I was in a a lot of pain that day..and he tried to stick a BARE dick in me without me knowing at all..how is that right? that was very rude and uncalled for.
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    May 28, 2007 6:21 PM GMT
    I understand your point. Agreeing to a massage isn't the same as agreeing to be barebacked. The lesson here maybe don't let a naked man give you a "friendly" massage.
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    May 28, 2007 9:08 PM GMT
    Am I missing something here? You're a total top and you're asking why a versatile guy wouldn't try to top you?

    Could it be because... you don't bottom?

    I am fully versatile and I assure you that here in the City of 10,001 Bottoms, if I didn't top, I'd have about a tenth as much sex.
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    May 28, 2007 9:20 PM GMT
    It just depends on the guy they are with I guess. I was a top for one of my relationships, yes I'm 100% bottom but for this one guy I topped. Its weird for me when a big smaller than me (height and size not cock sized wise pervs!)tries to top me...it doesn't get me off.

    But very time I run into a guy that says he does both he does try to make me the stop. I just let them know straight out that I'm a bottom and if we are going to have sex then you are topping me or you're not having sex at all tonight!
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    May 29, 2007 1:20 AM GMT
    LOL people keep misunderstanding what I'm saying..The initial topic was made just because I am curious about guys who say they are versatile. The guy in question TOLD ME that he was a BOTTOM and it wasn't about sex anyway. HE offered to give ME a massage b/c my back hurt and he led it to sex by a)lying about it being JUST A MASSAGE and b) being a btm.
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    May 29, 2007 1:30 AM GMT
    maybe you have a very cute butt that it just made a bottom guy "top" :D JK

    but some people feel different about different guys maybe versatile guys dont wanna top you cuz you look so manly and they know you're top
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    May 29, 2007 2:49 AM GMT
    I think getting a dick in my ass is HOT! Of course, I've yet to experience this...
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    May 29, 2007 2:50 AM GMT
    ummm how does a massage go from you onlyhaving your shirt off and him being fully clothed to his dick sliding in your ass??


    its sounds like you have some issues to work through. and If ass is what attracts you and not dick why don't you just fuck women in the ass??

    People are vers because they enjoy both it does actually happen
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    May 29, 2007 3:54 AM GMT
    lol I dont fuck women because I'm 100% gay. This all went too far lol. Ok, so I have a bad back. This guy (who said he was a btm and was being "friendly") offered to massage my lower back. So I took my shirt off. It only felt natural to take my pants off b/c it just felt better. I had just boxers on. So a few minutes into it, it was fine. It was so nice I was actually starting to doze off. Then the next thing I know, he was totally naked behind me, and I could feel his dick on my ass..then he's like, "let me put it in". I said no, he kept pursisting, trying to keep me from moving. So, being he's a tiny guy, I forced him off and hit him. Simple as that.
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    May 29, 2007 11:27 PM GMT
    wow u beat tiny guys :( so you like bondage and sadistic sex? :D
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    May 30, 2007 5:43 AM GMT
    LOL
  • docbailey2005

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    May 30, 2007 12:50 PM GMT
    Persoanlly, i'm a much better top and prefer top but sex is about pleasure. i'minto masculine fit men key word is masculine. If a guy is anything like me then he probably wants to pound some hole at some point. I dont have a problem with a total bottom guy if thats what pleases him.I don't like to advertise that i bottom simply becasue it is a mood thing and totally depends on the guy. Some guys may say they're top simply to not seem submissive in peoples eyes.
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    May 30, 2007 10:50 PM GMT
    I think people say vers to not make sterotypes. Like if right now i said he was a bottom you would most likely think about a queenish acting person. But if i say top you will think of a strong he-man person. I think they do this so no one sterotypes them. It is a way to get out of the sterotypes. Also some people like it both ways.
    Also did you not walk into getting btmed? I mean you striped, layed face down and let him touch you inches from your ass. Sounds like you wanted to be toped.
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    May 31, 2007 12:09 AM GMT
    Swiftjock:

    A massage and sex are two totally different things.

    He was a friend and said a number of times, "I'm a bottom", so I thought nothing of it at all.

    Being topped doesn't interest me at all actually.

    In regard to your word association with "top" and "bottom", I do agree with that. People stereotype, which results in uncessary problems.
  • docbailey2005

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    May 31, 2007 4:16 PM GMT
    Sex is about pleasure my friend. I'm mostly top but i dont necessary tell men upfront i bottom or post it in my ads. If the mood is right i will pleasure my guy the best way i can within reason.
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    Jun 01, 2007 9:47 PM GMT
    ok so the reason why I say I'm a top /vers. Like you, I love ass, I love doing anything I can to it, and I think putting my dick into someone's ass feel fucking GREAT!!!! but, when I'm in a relationship, with someone I really like or love, and he is a top, I'll let him fuck me. Sometime it's about give and take, and sometimes you just got to take it...in the butt! LOL! But honestly, I can get off anyway. I just like sex...It's sweaty, sticky, aggressive, and just feels so fucking good. But the way I get off is by pleasuring someone else, and if they get pleasure by fucking or getting fucked, that always makes me go through the roof.

  • Jun 02, 2007 4:53 PM GMT
    i say that i am a vers/top because i can always fuck! i can be a bottom though. i like to let guys know that i'm not limited, but i am a wimp when it comes to taking it. and if i am with a top, they have to be gentel with me until i can get over it. and they have to let me take a turn every once in a while.
  • dfrourke

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    Jun 09, 2007 1:26 AM GMT
    "I probably would have hit him b/c I'm not interested in trying to btm..."

    ...maybe your guys always end up being bottoms, because they sense if they did try to top they'd walk out with a black eye...

    ...I have been in relationship where I have been the top mostly...and I have been in relationships where I have been the bottom mostly...I have NEVER been in a relationship where I was ONLY one or the other...

    - David
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    Jul 02, 2007 5:46 AM GMT
    I like topping women. I'm totally spoiled being married - no condom. No interest in screwing a woman in the rear, fingering maybe...

    Tried topping a guy once, hated wearing the condom - didn't get off. Stayed hard, just didn't get off. I haven't tried since. I'd like to, but being nervous about being able to get off doesn't help with the process.

    At some point, when I'm out and dating guys, I'll just have to get use to wearing the condom. I think a few successful rounds would do wonders for my enthusiasm for topping.

    Bottoming - awesome. I love the line from Queer as Folk - a nelly bottom tries sex with a woman to 'cure' himself and later recants explaining "Sex just isn't the same without something in my butt!"

    So, that's my vers/btm rating.