One's hot, the other's not. (OP has responded)

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    Jun 01, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    Has anyone ever noticed in SOME gay couples that there is a drop dead gorgeous guy, and then the other guy is kind of like..bleck? I know a few couples like this. It baffles me..? I mean wouldn't the smoking hot guy go for another smoking hot guy? I don't know, maybe I'm just irrational and shallow.
    Well the other day, I was with one of the couples. We were all in our bathing suits, except the unnatractive one. "Noooooo, I'm too uggllly." said the ugly duckling in a nasaly voice. He wouldn't get in his f*****g swim trunks, so his HOT HOT partner said, "Aw babe, if you don't go then I can't go." I felt my blood boiling because not only is the ugly duckling ugly, his personality is so bland. So, I felt compelled to speak to the hot duckling. I pulled him aside and said, "Why are you dating him? You really honestly could do SOOOO much better. I'm not wanting to infringe (Oh hell yes I was) but I seriously see you happier in another relationship." He then looked at me and walked off. He told the ugly duckling, and the ugly duckling told me, "I'd appreciate it if you stayed out of my personal affairs." This kind of made me giggle. I'd seriously pulled a bitch move, but I still felt strongly about it. So now I guess they are having some relationship issues and ugly duckling wants to place the blame on me.

    icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif I mean, I AM the one to blame for knocking some sense into hot duckling.
    I now hear that hotness duckling has a date with another sexy little duckling.
    *cheers for myself*

    Sometimes, being a beeeshh is the right thing. icon_twisted.gificon_biggrin.gif


    UPDATE


    Holy fucking shit, this got some INTENSE critisism.

    1. Trying to attack me with the looks thing is ridiculous. I may not be your type, but I know, and many others that I am far from an "ugly duckling" so that bullet didn't even come out of the gun.

    2. I think I left out to much detail in this thread. Their relationship was falling apart, not to mention the ugly duckling treated the other one like shit. I think that may of been key in explaining this whole thing, and I should NOT have left that out.

    3. Someone asked if my lips were fake? I'm 19? Some people are just born with beautiful features. ;) Excuse you.

    4. You know ALL of you are shallow bastards. You are freaking gay. Get over yourself.

    5. Yes I have a heart. I told the guy he could do better than some unatractive, fat, acne covered, and mean person. There is NOTHING wrong with that. I want HIM to be happy. He has explained to me that he wanted the relationship to end anyways. It's not like I told him that his boyfriend is a piece of crap. I simply gave some criticism. I did it politely at that. "Why are you dating him? You really honestly could do SOOOO much better. I'm not wanting to infringe, but I seriously see you happier in another relationship" There is NOTHING wrong with saying that to him.

    6. I'm deleting my profile.

    The end
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    Jun 01, 2010 7:27 PM GMT
    I am definitely going to get some negative feedback on this one. Oh yess..
  • mcwclewis

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    Jun 01, 2010 7:30 PM GMT
    If you hadn't mentioned that his personality was bland, too... I probably would have told you you're a horrible person.



    Regardless.... that was still a pretty terrible thing to do.


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    Jun 01, 2010 7:32 PM GMT
    hum, it really depends on the situations. I could totally see a few scenario that works:
    #1 Maybe when they got together when the hot duckling wasn't so hot, but then he got into fitness/muscle and transformed himself while his partner just isn't vain enough to do anything about his look.
    #2 Look only go so far in a relationship, perhaps they are extremely compatible.
    #3 The hot duckling just love to be worshiped by the ugly duckling, and not having to worry about the ugly one cheat on him @@
    #4 The ugly duckling pampers the hot duckling, supplying all his materialistis/emotional need. Being considerate/thoughtful/kind/loving/caring certainly worth something.
    #5 Hey, maybe the hot one just like them the way they are, it happens!
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    Jun 01, 2010 7:39 PM GMT
    I think it had to do with the hot duckling thinking that the ugly one whould never cheat on him.

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    Jun 01, 2010 7:49 PM GMT
    I'd also say the equivilant couple, would be this one.

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    Jun 01, 2010 8:05 PM GMT
    Yes, you are "shallow," and immature.

    Hopefully you'll eventually learn what a loving relationship is and requires, otherwise you'll miss out on so much fulfillment that's within reach. "Gorgeous," "ugly," and "unattractive" are relative subjective terms. As for "bland", not everyone likes the beach but goes for one's partner or friend. If I took you to an historical place that I was intrigued about, you might respond in the same bland way as I would about going to the beach. Doesn't mean the person is bland, perhaps just out of his element.

    As for having the nerve to say what you did to that guy (about THEIR relationship), well ... you will learn from future encounters. Maybe by being beaten up, or, perhaps by loosing a job opportunity that you would otherwise be perfect for. Sometimes people just work that way.

    You'll rethink the validity of your honestly believing "Sometimes, being a beeeshh is the right thing."

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    Jun 01, 2010 8:12 PM GMT
    Yeah, congrats on being a total cunt.

    This type of behavior is why thinking men choose the 'bleck' guy over the maybe-cute-but-a-huge-fucking-asshole-who-behaves-like-a-teenager other guy.

    Food for thought.
  • DanOmatic

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    Jun 01, 2010 8:46 PM GMT
    OP, you're waaay out of line. Oh--the words "petty" and "mean-spirited" come to mind, too. Now that's unattractive.
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    Jun 01, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    I'll take "Things that only a vapid douchebag twink would say" for $500, Alex".
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    Jun 01, 2010 8:52 PM GMT
    Its never a good idea to make comments about one partner to the other. The relationship is nobody's business but theirs. People do resent such comments.
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    Jun 01, 2010 8:53 PM GMT
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    Sorry, felt appropriate. ^^
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    Jun 01, 2010 8:54 PM GMT
    guy94hg59 saidI am definitely going to get some negative feedback on this one. Oh yess..



    And this is exactly why you posted it. Oh yess...


    Hey guys... did you ever notice how some people in the world are hot and others are just horrifically ugly????

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    Jun 01, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    "Sometimes, being a bitch is the right thing." No, that is not the right thing and when you say things like that you feel bad about it later. That was uncalled for and very immature of you.

    One day you'll realize looks aren't everything. Someone's personality can also be attractive too.
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    Jun 01, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    i guess the good looking guy can see stuff u cant see, or has a different idea of what attractive is.
    For example: I would considered u to be an ugly duckling, but i am sure other hotter people than myself would find u attractive- and I wouldnt give a toss because id say to myself, rather u than me to be stuck with an ugly duckling.

    Also, they prob dont have realationship issues. Seems to be ur the one with jealousy issues cos u cant score some1 as for hot urself.icon_cool.gif

    ..........i have waaay to much time on my hands to actually be writing this...lol
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    Jun 01, 2010 9:01 PM GMT
    guy94hg59 saidHas anyone ever noticed in SOME gay couples that there is a drop dead gorgeous guy, and then the other guy is kind of like..bleck? I know a few couples like this. It baffles me..? I mean wouldn't the smoking hot guy go for another smoking hot guy? I don't know, maybe I'm just irrational and shallow.
    Well the other day, I was with one of the couples. We were all in our bathing suits, except the unnatractive one. "Noooooo, I'm too uggllly." said the ugly duckling in a nasaly voice. He wouldn't get in his f*****g swim trunks, so his HOT HOT partner said, "Aw babe, if you don't go then I can't go." I felt my blood boiling because not only is the ugly duckling ugly, his personality is so bland. So, I felt compelled to speak to the hot duckling. I pulled him aside and said, "Why are you dating him? You really honestly could do SOOOO much better. I'm not wanting to infringe (Oh hell yes I was) but I seriously see you happier in another relationship." He then looked at me and walked off. He told the ugly duckling, and the ugly duckling told me, "I'd appreciate it if you stayed out of my personal affairs." This kind of made me giggle. I'd seriously pulled a bitch move, but I still felt strongly about it. So now I guess they are having some relationship issues and ugly duckling wants to place the blame on me.

    icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif I mean, I AM the one to blame for knocking some sense into hot duckling.
    I now hear that hotness duckling has a date with another sexy little duckling.
    *cheers for myself*

    Sometimes, being a beeeshh is the right thing. icon_twisted.gificon_biggrin.gif



    It would have been SO much easier for you to simply write "No one will ever TRULY love me because aside from a cute face there isn't much else"

    But then again I'm pretty sure you are just bored and making stuff up.
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    Jun 01, 2010 9:08 PM GMT
    For some reason I used to think that you were an adorable, cute and nice kid. Now I think you are a douche bag. Not very nice what you did! icon_cry.gif
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    Jun 01, 2010 9:10 PM GMT
    you are a very tiny person and have should have no problem reading this
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    Jun 01, 2010 9:16 PM GMT
    My first relationship of 11 months was with someone that isn't classically attractive. But his heart, outrageous sense of humor, and sense of responsibility, were more than sufficient to keep us together for almost a year. We broke up, not because I could "do better" in the looks department, but simply because there were other incompatibilities.

    Everyone's looks fade eventually, (though I've seen some RJers on here that look 30 at age 50!).

    What your actions truly proved, is your need to validate your own self-worth by denigrating the worth of others. Translation: you have no self-worth. You derive it by a shallow competition. Anyone who trumpets another's flaws, especially superficial ones over which they have no control, probably has no non-superficial qualities of their own.
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    Jun 01, 2010 9:17 PM GMT
    Well let's assume that the personality played a bigger role in the OP telling his friend that, don't you think that to an extent you should be honest with your friends about the person they're dating? Sometimes there are things you don't see while in the relationship that others can see better. For this, I think that it's OK to tell your friend that who they're dating is a jerk or what not.

    As a side note, I've been told the same thing by my friends and it made me think twice about a guy I had been dating for 3 years. I don't blame my friends for having told me and I know it's stupid of me to have broken up the relationship with that playing a part in my decision simply because I care so much about what others say. That said, it's not cool to tell your friend that his boyfriend is ugly because A. people have different tastes and his are obviously different than yours and B. he probably already knew and didn't need you to tell him.
  • Daniepwils

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    Jun 01, 2010 9:18 PM GMT
    guy94hg59 saidHas anyone ever noticed in SOME gay couples that there is a drop dead gorgeous guy, and then the other guy is kind of like..bleck? I know a few couples like this. It baffles me..? I mean wouldn't the smoking hot guy go for another smoking hot guy? I don't know, maybe I'm just irrational and shallow.
    Well the other day, I was with one of the couples. We were all in our bathing suits, except the unnatractive one. "Noooooo, I'm too uggllly." said the ugly duckling in a nasaly voice. He wouldn't get in his f*****g swim trunks, so his HOT HOT partner said, "Aw babe, if you don't go then I can't go." I felt my blood boiling because not only is the ugly duckling ugly, his personality is so bland. So, I felt compelled to speak to the hot duckling. I pulled him aside and said, "Why are you dating him? You really honestly could do SOOOO much better. I'm not wanting to infringe (Oh hell yes I was) but I seriously see you happier in another relationship." He then looked at me and walked off. He told the ugly duckling, and the ugly duckling told me, "I'd appreciate it if you stayed out of my personal affairs." This kind of made me giggle. I'd seriously pulled a bitch move, but I still felt strongly about it. So now I guess they are having some relationship issues and ugly duckling wants to place the blame on me.

    icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif I mean, I AM the one to blame for knocking some sense into hot duckling.
    I now hear that hotness duckling has a date with another sexy little duckling.
    *cheers for myself*

    Sometimes, being a beeeshh is the right thing. icon_twisted.gificon_biggrin.gif


    I don't know what is more pathetic: you calling someone else an ugly duckling like you are some hot stud; or you butting in on the dynamics of someone else's relationship that has no bearing on you.

    You really need to grow up. Looks fade away, you will realize this someday.
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    Jun 01, 2010 9:21 PM GMT
    mswete saidWell let's assume that the personality played a bigger role in the OP telling his friend that, don't you think that to an extent you should be honest with your friends about the person they're dating? Sometimes there are things you don't see while in the relationship that others can see better. For this, I think that it's OK to tell your friend that who they're dating is a jerk or what not.

    As a side note, I've been told the same thing by my friends and it made me think twice about a guy I had been dating for 3 years. I don't blame my friends for having told me and I know it's stupid of me to have broken up the relationship with that playing a part in my decision simply because I care so much about what others say. That said, it's not cool to tell your friend that his boyfriend is ugly because A. people have different tastes and his are obviously different than yours and B. he probably already knew and didn't need you to tell him.



    Of course frank talk about the foibles of a friend's current boyfriend is a true mark of friendship: "faithful are the wounds of a friend." But when a "friend" tells you you could do so much better than your current partner...and it's based more on looks, and the fact that he doesn't want to get in a pool...it has nothing to do with the the other friend's best interest.

    When the OP says that this "ugly duckling" has a bland personality, I consider the source of the judgement.
  • allamathlete

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    Jun 01, 2010 9:23 PM GMT
    wow dude i didn't think stuff like that really happened... since you are young i will chalk it up to being immature... but i can't wait to see your post when that karma comes back.
    people like you are one of the reasons so many gay men hate the gay scene.
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    Jun 01, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
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    mswete saidWell let's assume that the personality played a bigger role in the OP telling his friend that, don't you think that to an extent you should be honest with your friends about the person they're dating? Sometimes there are things you don't see while in the relationship that others can see better. For this, I think that it's OK to tell your friend that who they're dating is a jerk or what not.

    As a side note, I've been told the same thing by my friends and it made me think twice about a guy I had been dating for 3 years. I don't blame my friends for having told me and I know it's stupid of me to have broken up the relationship with that playing a part in my decision simply because I care so much about what others say. That said, it's not cool to tell your friend that his boyfriend is ugly because A. people have different tastes and his are obviously different than yours and B. he probably already knew and didn't need you to tell him.



    Of course frank talk about the foibles of a friend's current boyfriend is a true mark of friendship: "faithful are the wounds of a friend." But when a "friend" tells you you could do so much better than your current partner...and it's based more on looks, and the fact that he doesn't want to get in a pool...it has nothing to do with the the other friend's best interest.

    When the OP says that this "ugly duckling" has a bland personality, I consider the source of the judgement.


    No, I know, I was trying to open the conversation to something more debatable since I think the consensus is is that what he did was out of line.
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    Jun 01, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    I'm suprised they didn't punch you in the face, I would've, I'm being honest.

    It's really none of your business about your friend's relationships