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    Jun 02, 2010 6:12 AM GMT
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    Jun 02, 2010 6:37 AM GMT
    You are worrying too much. At 21, almost NO ONE has their sh!t together. And those that do are probably boring overachievers. icon_lol.gif When I was that age, I was a fresh business school graduate who could only find part time work at a shoe store. My dreams were what kept me going to chase after what I really wanted out of life. That, and the support of those close to me.

    So I always support others in the pursuit of their dreams. And sometimes to get to those dreams, you have live through a few less than dreamy experiences. But at age 21, you are only on the start of the journey. So lighten up and let yourself go.
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    Jun 02, 2010 11:54 AM GMT
    In our highly materialistic superficial oversexed gay world who have time to think about love? unless of course if you just want to fuck someone or want a sugar daddy to just satisfy your urges! personally the world as a whole is really missed up! nobody knows for sure what they want anymore!

    By the way overachievers are just as bad as under achievers, if you ask me! I recently dated on over achiever who kept talking about himself on the whole date! I couldn't way to end the date, it was the most boring date I ever had in a while.

    Leandro ♥

  • Jun 02, 2010 1:50 PM GMT
    This is a great question. icon_biggrin.gif I used to think that age didn't matter, as I've dated guys that are younger than me. My longest relationships (2 years and 3.5 years) have been with guys that are within two years of my age, and my shortest ones (a month to a few months) were all with guys that were over 8 years younger than me.

    I've really taken a look at myself lately, and I think for me it's the dichotomy of what I like to do for fun vs. where I'm at in life. When it comes to things I really enjoy doing for fun, it's all about rollercoasters, beaches, anime/superheroes, driving around in the car singing as loud/offkey as possible, and generally being a big kid (the last guy I dated and I bought kites for fuck's sake -- and it was MY idea).

    When it comes to life, I've been with the same company for 9 years (since I graduated college) -- I own my townhome, my car's almost paid off, and I work from home. What I really want more than anything is a long term relationship (I'm not saying I have to have one to be happy.. I'm happy being single.. I mean ultimately), and honestly I don't think many guys that are younger are looking for that (or know what that means). Granted, it depends on the person. But my experience says that it's not a good idea to look for forever in someone a lot younger (but that's just me).

    There's always going to be parts of someone younger that you can't relate to (because it's been so long since you've had to deal with shit that they're going through), and a part of them will never be able to understand who you are/what you need because they haven't had the chance to experience all the things you have. Like I said, it depends on the person, but generally speaking I've found this true.