Im in a quandry

  • Rowing_Ant

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    Jun 02, 2010 11:12 AM GMT
    So as some of you may know I've been off sick due to depression from my mom dying and have also been diagnosed wtih Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

    My problem is this: I have got a job offer to start Personal Training again, four days a week, 20 to 30 hours for Esporta ( a high class health club in Britain)

    I am still currently off sick and when I went to see my potential new boss yesterday he was very pissed I couldnt start yesterday as he wanted me to. So I told him I was on a sick note and have CFS - to which he said CFS doesnt exist its due to lifestyle and diet and exercise and not being int he right "game mind". So he agreed to let me start when my sick note expires in two weeks.

    I really like the look of this job....but...I dont know whether to start it and see what happens. Going from working sundays and doing light Church duties to working 20plus hours a week personal training, taking classes etc seems a big leap, especially for someone with CFS.

    Do I take it and see what happens?

    Do I explain to him what my Occupational Health tTherapist has said and see what he says? And aso consult my doctor?

    OR say fuck this, I start University to do my Masters Degree in September and spend the time from now until then getting my head sorted nad doing ground work for my MA

    I am rubbish at making decisions. Advice for training and living with CFS is greatly appreciated!!!
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    Jun 02, 2010 6:02 PM GMT
    You'll probably be far better off asking a doctor what s/he thinks.

    Personally - i say take it. Get yourself out of the house, go do some work, get your mind off of YOU for a change and worry about other people. I think it'll really help you wake up and start to get back into the swing of things. From now until your two-weeks are up, you should make sure to start getting slowly back into the proper training regimen etc to get used to things. If you've stopped - start working out again and take things slow. Don't the 20+hours come without warning to your body. Go out and do stuff from now until then to get used to this.

    lots of things - like CFS - can be beaten with optimism and willpower. Put in the effort, take it slow, and you'll do fine.

    I vote take the job.
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    Jun 02, 2010 6:31 PM GMT
    Take the job. The only way you're going to get back on your feet is if you force yourself to make it happen. Otherwise, the depression and CFS will continue. Stop delaying, and stop making excuses.

    Life goes on, my friend. You're not honoring your mother's memory by wallowing in a pit of despair; a pit you dug and jumped into all by yourself.

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    Jun 02, 2010 6:35 PM GMT
    Take the job, after consulting with a doctor if you deem it really necessary.

    There's a saying: "If you don't show up, nothing will ever happen..." ...or something like that...

    And Nike. JUST DO IT and beat your negative mind...icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 02, 2010 6:43 PM GMT
    The best thing you can do at this point is take the job. Activity, ANY activity is better than nothing at all. After my dad passed away almost 15 years ago, it was my job and other activities that saved my sanity. He's gone, so then it turned out to be about me. So focus on you, my man, get moving, work out, and be good to you. You deserve it. I know you fatigue easily, so take it slow. Just put one foot in front of the other. Take care, I know you can do this. (I'm a depression survivor myself).
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    Jun 02, 2010 6:57 PM GMT
    CFS is tricky. Most of the medical establishment has no idea what causes it or how to treat it. Some studies link CFS to a virus, but others have been inconclusive

    I've had chronic fatigue for years and the advice given here regarding diet and exercise is actually pretty accurate. I don't wake up with energy naturally, but if I'm excited about something, Adrenaline kicks in and provides enough "energy" to complete whatever needs to be done. It's kind of silly, but it works. So, try to do something you're interested in that will get you excited. Don't push yourself too hard, but do stay active.

    In terms of diet, as much as I try to advocate a vegetarian diet, I did notice that when I ate meat I had a lot more energy. So, make sure you're eating a balanced diet or are at least supplementing what you're missing.

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    Jun 05, 2010 4:53 AM GMT
    Well, I think there's more to CFS than attitude or mental state. Here:

    " Possible Causes

    On this page:

    * Infectious Agents
    * Immunology
    * Hypothalamic-Pituitary Adrenal (HPA) Axis
    * Neurally Mediated Hypotension
    * Nutritional Deficiency

    The cause or causes of CFS remain unknown, despite a vigorous search. While a single cause for CFS may yet be identified, another possibility is that CFS represents a common endpoint of disease resulting from multiple precipitating causes. As such, it should not be assumed that any of the possible causes listed below has been formally excluded, or that these largely unrelated possible causes are mutually exclusive. Conditions that have been proposed to trigger the development of CFS include virus infection or other transient traumatic conditions, stress, and toxins"

    http://www.cdc.gov/cfs/cfscauses.htm

    -Doug
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    Jun 05, 2010 7:53 AM GMT
    reppaT saidTake the job. The only way you're going to get back on your feet is if you force yourself to make it happen. Otherwise, the depression and CFS will continue. Stop delaying, and stop making excuses.

    Life goes on, my friend. You're not honoring your mother's memory by wallowing in a pit of despair; a pit you dug and jumped into all by yourself.



    There is a hell of a lot more to CFS than frame of mind as your potential boss thinks. If you have proper CFS than keep the hell away from him until he educates himself.

    That said, taking the job could be excellent for the depression. Tiredness is also a symptom of depression: how do you know it´s CFS and not depression tiredness? You are obviously not suffering from severe CFS or you wouldn´t even be thinking of taking the job. (I had it for 3 years, part of that I was near bed bound and then for a long time couldn´t move faster than a slow walk. I got on with and enjoyed my life, but it was not "just in the mind").