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    Feb 02, 2008 9:03 AM GMT
    Ok, now I'm gonna ask a question. THis question has been on my mind for a while. THis is NOT intended to start any heated discussions, so if you have thoughts about doing so....DON'T!

    Would you ever date a overweight/fat guy?

    Being currently fat (and working on NOT being so) I ask this question out of both plain curiosity and for perosnal reasons. Don't candy coat your responces cuz I DO have thick skin (most of the time lol).

    The MAN in me says "BRING IT ON!!!"
    The WOMAN in me says "OH CRAP< TRUTHFUL EMOTIONS!"
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    Feb 02, 2008 9:35 AM GMT
    Yes.

    Being on the opposite side of the spectrum (stick thin icon_rolleyes.gif ), my range of attraction starts from an average build to stocky actually.

    A little bit of paunch is not a turnoff for me (though it is when in the extreme). Understandably though, a muscular dude will always be more attractive.

    But I like cuddly guys. icon_wink.gif So definitely yep.
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    Feb 02, 2008 11:00 AM GMT
    I have on occassion dated heavy guys. Generally it's what's between a man's ears that I find the most attractive.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 02, 2008 2:39 PM GMT
    Two points: There is overweight (marginally) and then there can be obese. I certainly have no issues with anyone overweight.. obese honestly is another story.

    Most of us here value the importance of proper exercise and most are attracted to physically fit men.. but there are modestly overweight men who can be very attractive.. and their personalities can be better than those who are very fit.

    To exclude shows how truly shallow one may be.
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    Feb 02, 2008 2:42 PM GMT
    I carry calipers with me at all times to measure body fat on any guy....before I even agree to talk to him.

    Actually, I agree with HK.
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    Feb 02, 2008 2:45 PM GMT
    Depends on the Guy. I think physical attraction is important but when push comes to shove so it is really the man within that I fall in love with.

    I like a guy with motivation, so if the guy is a fat coach potatoe, then forget it.

    Health is important to me and the last thing I want to do in fall in love with someone who is heading for health problems down the road.

    Mr. perfect body who has fucked everyone in sight is not my kind of guy either.
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    Feb 02, 2008 3:03 PM GMT
    I admire the original poster for having the guts to ask this question. Anyone who is willing to be vulnerable gets my respect.

    I agree with the first portion of what the handsome gentleman from Kansas said but disagree with the final comment that if one says they would not date or foster a relationship with someone overweight it may show a sign of being shallow. I think thats jumping the gun a bit. Although I do get what you were saying.

    I'm sure he would agree that being put on the spot to explain why a person may not wish to create a relationship with someone overweight would also be a vulnerable position to be in because they risk being labeled "shallow" when they are far from that. It would be no more shallow of an overweight person who also has certain tastes. Perhaps there is a certain ethnic background they are not attracted to. They themselves may not be attracted to overweight individuals.

    In trying to explain peoples reasons for their tastes it all comes down to respect and the manner in which the person presents their reasons. For me personally, I can't rule out the option of dating a person who is out of shape because I've not been put in that position. However, there in may lie my answer. I've never sought that out. As simple as a matter of preferrence. I don't consider that shallow. We all have tastes that should be respected and not second guessed. I prefer someone who is taking care of their body. That would be my ideal choice. BUT my option remains open. I will never ever exclude someone out of my life based on physical appearance. I may not feel an initial physical attraction to the individual but I would be completely ignorant if I didn't allow myself the privilege of getting to know that person. Anything may come out of that situation icon_smile.gif I can only speak for myself but thats about as real as I can explain it for me. Bold question. I'm impressed.
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    Feb 02, 2008 5:40 PM GMT
    As long as he doesn't generate his own gravitational field or is so much bigger than I am that he would crush if he rolled over in the middle of the night. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 02, 2008 5:44 PM GMT
    You have a woman in you? icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 02, 2008 5:48 PM GMT
    McGay saidYou have a woman in you? icon_eek.gif


    Well, I have been told that I do. My coworkers named her Shaneequa and tell me they are deeply terrified of her.
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    Feb 02, 2008 5:50 PM GMT
    You'll be thinner if you can expel her from your body. Women retain water don'tcha know?

    If ever I have a woman in me, she'll be called Velveeta Jones.
  • iHavok

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    Feb 02, 2008 5:50 PM GMT
    You'd be surprised at how little obese can actually be. I only found out I was clinically obese when we had a health fair at work.
    I carry my weight well i guess.

    Luckily with three months of hard work, I am no longer obese, nor overweight (although I'm on the cusp). Time to hit the gym again!
  • Warren

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    Feb 02, 2008 5:51 PM GMT
    I have always thought that to have a successful relationship there has to be both physical and spiritual/mental attraction... So while I am mentally attracted to many overweight and obese guys, they stay in the friend category because there isn't a physical attraction there. Its not shallow, its just how we're built; if I don't feel the desire to be intimate with someone, then I can't really have an intimate relationship. I have dated a couple overweight guys, and they've been a blast to hang out with, but I never felt the urge to take it any further.
  • Hunter9

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    Feb 02, 2008 5:53 PM GMT
    I don't mind stocky, but I don't think I've ever been attracted to a fat/over-weight guy, and thus I could not date one.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 02, 2008 5:54 PM GMT
    Depends on the guy, really. I find different things attractive about different people.
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    Feb 02, 2008 5:57 PM GMT
    As far as The "Man in you"? The "Woman in you"? I say evict them both so you don't get pushed over the baggage limit if you know what I mean.

    Yeah, anyhoot .. I notice on your profile it says "overweight" but there are different levels of overweight. I know this guy that has a bit of a belly, but he has a sexy face and nice arms, and he is .. well .. just a sexy guy 'cause his personality too.

    I think the bottom line is the persons overall appearance and personality. I can't look at any one thing to make that determination. Also I look at it this way. You can change your bodyweight quickly (most people) a number of ways, but if someone has deep set issues in their head, or is an a**hole that may be with them all their life.
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    Feb 02, 2008 6:00 PM GMT
    McGay saidIf ever I have a woman in me, she'll be called Velveeta Jones.
    IF?????
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    Feb 02, 2008 6:04 PM GMT
    Are you suggesting I'm cheesy?
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    Feb 02, 2008 6:05 PM GMT
    RBY71 saidMcGay saidYou have a woman in you?
    Well, I have been told that I do. My coworkers named her Shaneequa and tell me they are deeply terrified of her.
    I vote we change her name to Lippy Loquacia
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    Feb 02, 2008 6:08 PM GMT
    McGay saidAre you suggesting I'm cheesy?
    Middle name Extra-sharp McCheddar
  • DrStorm

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    Feb 02, 2008 6:08 PM GMT
    You want a straight answer, well here's mine.

    No - not as a boyfriend or for sex. I really get turned on by very lean defined guys, esp. when the lights are out and I run my hands all over your hard body - my sense of touch is my strongest sense, not my visual sense. I have no tactile attraction to the Pillsbury Doughboy. This is purely a physical thing - it's what makes me hard icon_twisted.gif

    Would I like to have you as my friend, absofuckinglutely yes! Friendship involves emotional bonds and I have no problem with your weight. Half my friends are not the best looking, nor do they have gym-tight bodies. But I love them, warts and all.

    There, you got my straight answer!

    PEACE

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    Feb 02, 2008 6:14 PM GMT
    Well i wouldn't date an overweight/fat guy, simply because i am not atracted to them. I also wouldn't date a men with a moustache, or beard, and i refuge to date with racists. Just not my kind of guy's.
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    Feb 02, 2008 6:20 PM GMT
    If he is FAT as in FAT!!
    The answer is NO!

    A little paunch is ok but There is FAT and FAT!


    l like skinny guy's though?

    But not anorexic!
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    Feb 02, 2008 6:25 PM GMT
    Overweight, yes.

    Fat, no. Fat is an unhealthy state of mind.

    If he's overweight, he can change, too.

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    Feb 02, 2008 6:32 PM GMT
    If I was dating, I would.