In a relationship... what are you willing to forgive?

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    Jun 04, 2010 3:19 PM GMT
    Say if you really like someone to be point to where you may love them... what are you willing to forgive as far as mistakes?
  • rnch

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    Jun 04, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    depends on the bf and my feelings for him and the "mistake" !

    with my current bf i would "forgive" a lot more than i would had in the past, with other guys.
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    Jun 04, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    So are we talking about faults/mistakes we're willing to tolerate in order to pursue the relationship?

    I personally don't believe in holding grudges. Eventually it's important to learn to forgive others even for grave mistakes, although we all know how that is much easier said than done.

    I would say this is very much an "it depends" category. Some people don't want to forgive big mistakes like infidelity. Others think that small things eventually add up and make a difference. In the end, you have to consider what good qualities about him outweigh the bad qualities. Can you accept him as is?
  • owen19832006

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    Jun 04, 2010 3:32 PM GMT
    it depends what the mistake actually is! cheating i cant forgive...
    lies, well i have done in the past but i get pissed off everytime i think of it.
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    Jun 04, 2010 5:26 PM GMT
    Heheh, define 'mistakes'. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 04, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    I think mistakes and actions aren't the important thing when it comes to a mistake, the intention behind each action is what I care about.

    If the intention isn't forgivable, then it's over.

    I hope I'm making sense...If my boyfriend drunkenly cheated on me I would forgive him for it, and expect a huge decline in drinking or he'd have to drink with me or something. If he didn't wanna do the 2nd part, then the whole thing is kfuckyou.
  • Timbales

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    Jun 04, 2010 6:53 PM GMT
    I can't answer the question with any honesty until it happens.
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    Jun 04, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ObrFwjesno
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    Jun 04, 2010 11:08 PM GMT
    I am forgiving of most things..........but somethings can take a wee longer than others, and somethings are just unforgivable. If my partner was involved in abusing children, that would be unforgivable, but I could forgive just about everything else.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 04, 2010 11:19 PM GMT
    I have to agree with Kevinsbeach icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 04, 2010 11:29 PM GMT
    The second you lie to me you cease to exist in my world. Other than that you are free to be your wonderful flawed self.
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    Jun 04, 2010 11:35 PM GMT
    Using "it's" instead of "its," but definitely not "your" instead of "you're."
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    Jun 04, 2010 11:36 PM GMT
    A lot. Everyone has flaws. If they are not abusive and you click really well together, you need to forgive their faults
  • Greygull

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    Jun 05, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    I can forgive cheating once, I cannot forgive abuse or being taken advantage of
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    Sep 26, 2010 8:08 PM GMT
    If someone is dishonest, its devastating to me. I mean, we might have problems and issues, and we might be incompatible somewhere in some areas, yet if we are honest about working through it all and getting along together its OK. Yet, if they are lying, it means that they pursue a goal different from mine and it hurts a lot to find that out. icon_sad.gif And it is oh so hard to forgive that!
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    Sep 27, 2010 12:49 AM GMT
    I would never forgive cheating or physical abuse
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    Sep 27, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    Soulasphyx saidSay if you really like someone to be point to where you may love them... what are you willing to forgive as far as mistakes?


    It doesn't matter what I am willing to forgive, but, rather, what your standard is, and what YOU are willing to forgive.
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    Sep 27, 2010 12:52 AM GMT
    To err is human, to forgive is divine.

    Not saying that everything is forgivable but most things are. And second chances are always in order, especially if love is involved.
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    Sep 27, 2010 12:54 AM GMT
    josephga saidI would never forgive cheating or physical abuse


    Never ever forgive cheating of any kind. If he ever laid a harmful hand against me, I'd break his faceicon_evil.gif
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    Sep 27, 2010 1:07 AM GMT
    cheating i cud forgive once, maybe. any physical abuse towards myself is intolerable.