Attachment Style Quiz!

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    Jun 04, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    Have you ever been accused of being too clingy? too distant? too worried about what's going on in your relationship(s)? Wellll.... all of those things relate to our attachment styles. I'm learning about attachment theory in one of my courses, and its truly a fascinating course. There are a lot of more valid / empirically supported assessments of attachment, but this one was fun, and I think pretty accurate.

    Me:

    The Free Agent

    You like to be independent, to play by your own rules. You're not terribly interested in finding a partner and settling down, and it makes you nervous to imagine that someone might depend on you for anything. Were you to find the right partner--someone as independent as you, probably--you'd not be too put out about sharing your adventures with him/her.



    Fictional characters with whom you might identify: Han Solo (Star Wars), Beatrice ("Much Ado About Nothing")



    Take yours and repost!

    http://www.okcupid.com/tests/the-attachment-style-test

    MAKE SURE TO SAY NO WHEN THEY ASK IF YOU WANT TO SAVE THE RESULTS.... OTHERWISE THEY WILL WANT YOU TO SIGN UP
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    Jun 05, 2010 12:24 AM GMT
    Ya do know that it asks you to sign up to the site
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    Jun 05, 2010 12:35 AM GMT
    I don't need the internet to tell me that I'm happily single and will probably stay that way. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 05, 2010 12:46 AM GMT
    Your result for The Attachment Style Test ...

    The Waffler
    44% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 37% Avoidance Of Intimacy

    You're not the most decisive person. You tend to be unsure what you want out of your attachments, and it's unlikely you've had more than mediocre relationships. Either that, or you've had some good relationships, and some bad relationships, and you're just between them at the moment. The point is that you don't know what you want. You vacillate between trust and mistrust, and between low and high self-esteem. You probably have a couple of good friends who support you and believe in you, but you tend not to let things get too heavy. You like to sit on fences.



    Fictional character with whom you might identify: Xander (Buffy the Vampire Slayer), Amelie (Amelie)
  • lozano86

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    Jun 05, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI don't need the internet to tell me that I'm happily single and will probably stay that way. icon_biggrin.gif


    But why your too damn sexy. oh wait i think i just answered it icon_razz.gif


    I'm

    p>Your result for The Attachment Style Test...

    The Cuddleslut

    29% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 16% Avoidance Of Intimacy

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    You're mostly secure, but sometimes you need a little extra reassurance to make it through the tough times. You are usually affectionate and sweet, and you find it easy to fall in love. An encouraging word from a crush or a loved one can motivate you for weeks.

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    Jun 05, 2010 1:22 AM GMT
    Cuddleslut for me also

    40% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 23% Avoidance Of Intimacy

    You're mostly secure, but sometimes you need a little extra reassurance to make it through the tough times. You are usually affectionate and sweet, and you find it easy to fall in love. An encouraging word from a crush or a loved one can motivate you for weeks.

    That sounds right.icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 05, 2010 1:42 AM GMT
    Another Cuddleslut here!

    The Cuddleslut
    25% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 15% Avoidance Of Intimacy
    You're mostly secure, but sometimes you need a little extra reassurance to make it through the tough times. You are usually affectionate and sweet, and you find it easy to fall in love. An encouraging word from a crush or a loved one can motivate you for weeks.
     
    Fictional character with whom you might identify: Kaylee (Firefly/Serenity), Hiro Nakamura (Heroes)
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 05, 2010 1:44 AM GMT

    Your result for The Attachment Style Test...

    The Player

    1% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 50% Avoidance Of Intimacy

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    You are most comfortable without close emotional relationships. It is very important to you to feel independent and self-sufficient, and you hate the idea of having to depend on others or having others depend on you. The very few times you have fallen in love, it was probably with someone unattainable and disinterested. You know how to have a good time with your friends, but when it comes time to bare your deeper feelings, you tend to laugh nervously and change the subject.



    Fictional character with whom you might identify: Captain Jack Harkness (Doctor Who/Torchwood), Holly Golightly (Breakfast at Tiffany's)

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    Jun 05, 2010 2:12 AM GMT

    Your result for The Attachment Style Test...

    The Player

    29% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 46% Avoidance Of Intimacy

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    You are most comfortable without close emotional relationships. It is very important to you to feel independent and self-sufficient, and you hate the idea of having to depend on others or having others depend on you. The very few times you have fallen in love, it was probably with someone unattainable and disinterested. You know how to have a good time with your friends, but when it comes time to bare your deeper feelings, you tend to laugh nervously and change the subject.



    Fictional character with whom you might identify: Captain Jack Harkness (Doctor Who/Torchwood), Holly Golightly (Breakfast at Tiffany's)



    CaptainJackHarkness.jpgHollyGolightly.jpg



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    Jun 05, 2010 2:35 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidYa do know that it asks you to sign up to the site


    Not if you say that you dont want to save your results... :-P
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    Jun 05, 2010 2:54 AM GMT
    The Waffler
    42% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 51% Avoidance Of Intimacy
    You're not the most decisive person. You tend to be unsure what you want out of your attachments, and it's unlikely you've had more than mediocre relationships. Either that, or you've had some good relationships, and some bad relationships, and you're just between them at the moment. The point is that you don't know what you want. You vacillate between trust and mistrust, and between low and high self-esteem. You probably have a couple of good friends who support you and believe in you, but you tend not to let things get too heavy. You like to sit on fences.
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    Jun 05, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    Why am I not surprised my anxiety is so high?


    The Cuddleslut

    29% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 13% Avoidance Of Intimacy

    You're mostly secure, but sometimes you need a little extra reassurance to make it through the tough times. You are usually affectionate and sweet, and you find it easy to fall in love. An encouraging word from a crush or a loved one can motivate you for weeks.



    Fictional character with whom you might identify: Kaylee (Firefly/Serenity), Hiro Nakamura (Heroes)

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    Jun 05, 2010 3:09 AM GMT
    The Free Agent

    10% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 27% Avoidance Of Intimacy

    You like to be independent, to play by your own rules. You're not terribly interested in finding a partner and settling down, and it makes you nervous to imagine that someone might depend on you for anything. Were you to find the right partner--someone as independent as you, probably--you'd not be too put out about sharing your adventures with him/her.



    Fictional characters with whom you might identify: Han Solo (Star Wars), Beatrice ("Much Ado About Nothing")



  • calibro

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    Jun 05, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    Your result for The Attachment Style Test ...
    The Waffler
    50% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 43% Avoidance Of Intimacy
    You're not the most decisive person. You tend to be unsure what you want out of your attachments, and it's unlikely you've had more than mediocre relationships. Either that, or you've had some good relationships, and some bad relationships, and you're just between them at the moment. The point is that you don't know what you want. You vacillate between trust and mistrust, and between low and high self-esteem. You probably have a couple of good friends who support you and believe in you, but you tend not to let things get too heavy. You like to sit on fences.

    Fictional character with whom you might identify: Xander (Buffy the Vampire Slayer), Amelie (Amelie)


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    Jun 05, 2010 3:27 AM GMT

    Your result for The Attachment Style Test...

    The Player

    29% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 48% Avoidance Of Intimacy

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    You are most comfortable without close emotional relationships. It is very important to you to feel independent and self-sufficient, and you hate the idea of having to depend on others or having others depend on you. The very few times you have fallen in love, it was probably with someone unattainable and disinterested. You know how to have a good time with your friends, but when it comes time to bare your deeper feelings, you tend to laugh nervously and change the subject.


     


    Fictional character with whom you might identify: Captain Jack Harkness (Doctor Who/Torchwood), Holly Golightly (Breakfast at Tiffany's)



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    Other Attachment Types:
    Secure: The Unicorn | The Cuddleslut | The Free Agent
    Preoccupied: The Cling Wrap | The Squid | The Insect
    Fearful: The Doormat | The Leper | The Exile
    Dismissing: The Hermit | The Stone | The Player
    Confused: The Waffler

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  • Nodak

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    Jun 05, 2010 3:53 AM GMT
    Quit as soon as they asked for e-mail address.
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    Jun 05, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    Nodak saidQuit as soon as they asked for e-mail address.


    too bad!!
  • Webster666

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    Jun 05, 2010 6:27 AM GMT
    I'm the "Cranky Old Lady," who doesn't have the patience to answer SEVEN(!) pages of questions, most of which have negative connotations regardless of how you answer them.

    BTW, have you seen the "We Con The World" video on Youtube ?
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    Jun 05, 2010 6:43 AM GMT
    The Waffler
    38% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 37% Avoidance Of Intimacy
    You're not the most decisive person. You tend to be unsure what you want out of your attachments, and it's unlikely you've had more than mediocre relationships. Either that, or you've had some good relationships, and some bad relationships, and you're just between them at the moment. The point is that you don't know what you want. You vacillate between trust and mistrust, and between low and high self-esteem. You probably have a couple of good friends who support you and believe in you, but you tend not to let things get too heavy. You like to sit on fences.

    Fictional character with whom you might identify: Xander (Buffy the Vampire Slayer), Amelie (Amelie)

    Sounds about right...
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Jun 05, 2010 7:04 AM GMT
    I got something about a waffle icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 05, 2010 2:51 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidI'm the "Cranky Old Lady," who doesn't have the patience to answer SEVEN(!) pages of questions, most of which have negative connotations regardless of how you answer them.

    BTW, have you seen the "We Con The World" video on Youtube ?


    I'm curious what questions truly have negative connotations - some of them do, but you have the chance to answer them in a way that negates any negativity... if you happen to have a 'healthier' attachment style.

    And yes, I saw that ridiculous, offensive video. Was there a point of going off topic or were you just trying to be irritating?
  • BestOfBreed

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    Jun 05, 2010 5:24 PM GMT
    Fun little test. Loved reading about some of the other styles .. especially the Lion! lol


    The Free Agent

    15% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 18% Avoidance Of Intimacy

    You like to be independent, to play by your own rules. You're not terribly interested in finding a partner and settling down, and it makes you nervous to imagine that someone might depend on you for anything. Were you to find the right partner--someone as independent as you, probably--you'd not be too put out about sharing your adventures with him/her.



    Fictional characters with whom you might identify: Han Solo (Star Wars), Beatrice ("Much Ado About Nothing")
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    Jun 05, 2010 5:42 PM GMT
    oh, jesus fucking christ. no wonder i don't wanna date. you're all as confused and fucked up as i am.

    so, now can we stop with all the angsty "Why didn't my relationship work?" threads? here's your answer right here.

    GOD!
  • metta

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    Jun 05, 2010 5:52 PM GMT
    Your result for The Attachment Style Test ...
    The Free Agent
    19% Anxiety Over Abandonment and 37% Avoidance Of Intimacy
    You like to be independent, to play by your own rules. You're not terribly interested in finding a partner and settling down, and it makes you nervous to imagine that someone might depend on you for anything. Were you to find the right partner--someone as independent as you, probably--you'd not be too put out about sharing your adventures with him/her.

    Fictional characters with whom you might identify: Han Solo (Star Wars), Beatrice ("Much Ado About Nothing")


    I don't really agree with the results. I would not be nervous with people depending on me. I'm very dependable. I feel that it is important to live with integrity, and part of that means being dependable. The problem is that some of the answers had two parts to them and only the first part of the answer was really correct and the other answers were not correct either. And it is not that I'm not interested in having a parter. It is that I really doubt that I will ever have one and I'm fine with that.
  • metta

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    Jun 05, 2010 5:54 PM GMT
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidI got something about a waffle icon_rolleyes.gif



    The Waffler
    http://www.okcupid.com/quizzy/results?quizzyid=15834090610423759446&resultid=346731786