Questionable Introductions?!.

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    Jun 05, 2010 2:02 PM GMT
    I recently moved from San Francisco to Upstate New York so I could help a sick relative. Anyway, A friend and me stopped to a liquor store so he could pick up a few things for a dinner he was having; as we were getting bottles of wine situated in the car, a very hot blond guy pulls into the parking space right beside us. Me & the blond guy made eye contact and he begins smiling a very wicked smile. As he gets out of his car, he takes a look at the wine bottles and makes a joke about us "getting the weekend started right."
    I continue the conversation until he heads into the liquor store himself. The guy was blond with a buzz cut, very American Eagle, wearing cargo shorts & the sexiest, tan, well muscled legs, killer arms, and an evil smile.

    I decided to take the semi-direct approach and wrote my cell phone number on a strip of paper, with the name "Dark Haired Sean," so he'd know I wasn't my Ginger haired friend. A few minutes later my cell rings and it's hot blond guy, sounding a bit confuses. I tell him I hope he has a great weekend, and he seemed like a chill guy so I thought I'd leave my number. I also say I thought he'd either be flattered or offended. He says he is kind of flattered but not offended. I tell him we should grab a beer sometime. He agrees.
    End of story. My red haired friend, who is happily coupled, was speechless. I was surprised & filled with dirty thoughts.

    Question being; how forward is too forward? Did I make the right move? And what would your opinion be if someone came at you like this, out of context?
    Cheers!
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    Jun 05, 2010 2:04 PM GMT
    P. S
    Incidently, i am not an area of Upstate NY that has a very high Gay Traffic area...
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    Jun 05, 2010 2:45 PM GMT
    EccentricStud

    You absolutely went about it the right way.

    Gay guys are often scared of what may be perceived as "over stepping the mark", although what you did was far from it.

    If it happened to me, out of context, let's say a woman did that to me. Would I be offended? Of course not, I'd be flattered.

    At the end of the day, YOU are getting attention from someone else, and any normal person would feel good about this because it's your self-esteem that's being boosted.

    Did you hear back from him?


    José
    Gay for Straight

  • Timbales

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    Jun 05, 2010 2:52 PM GMT
    sounds fine to me
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    Jun 05, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    Hey, you did great!

    One time I was standing at a crosswalk , back in the 80s, and a guy was cruising me from his car. Winter and very cold. He breathed on the side window and wrote Hi. My heart skipped a beat; I was having a down day about ever meeting a great guy (sound familiar to some of you?) and this was such a huge perk.

    -Doug

    PS whether or not it goes anywhere is another thing, but this was sweet cause you gave each other a nice boost.
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    Jun 05, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    That's awesome and inspirational icon_smile.gif Totally stealing that from you.
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    Jun 05, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    I am use to manuvering in urban areas; before Moving to Upstate NY, I lived in SF, then NyC before that. The semi rural thing is new to me. Still gaining my sea legs here & I don't really need a burning cross on the lawn.. It would screw up the landscaping...

    Gonna give him a call later to touch base and see if he is open to dinner or a drink... God damn he was hot
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    Jun 05, 2010 3:51 PM GMT
    meninlove said Hey, you did great!

    One time I was standing at a crosswalk , back in the 80s, and a guy was cruising me from his car. Winter and very cold. He breathed on the side window and wrote Hi. My heart skipped a beat; I was having a down day about ever meeting a great guy (sound familiar to some of you?) and this was such a huge perk.

    -Doug

    PS whether or not it goes anywhere is another thing, but this was sweet cause you gave each other a nice boost.


    Great story, something every Canadian completely understands, and maybe those in Minnesota icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 05, 2010 3:52 PM GMT

    EccentricStud, you have a wicked n wonderful sense of humour *still laughing*

    " Still gaining my sea legs here & I don't really need a burning cross on the lawn.. It would screw up the landscaping..."

    -Doug
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    Jun 05, 2010 3:54 PM GMT

    *winks at RST2009*
  • hdurdinr

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    Jun 05, 2010 4:06 PM GMT
    I say you did fine! Not sure I'd have to courage to do it myself though - I'd feel so embarrassed if the guy was offended, but if you don't ask the answer's always no right?!

    Please let us know how it goes - spare no details!
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    Jun 05, 2010 4:08 PM GMT
    EccentricStud saidI am use to manuvering in urban areas; before Moving to Upstate NY, I lived in SF, then NyC before that. The semi rural thing is new to me. Still gaining my sea legs here & I don't really need a burning cross on the lawn.. It would screw up the landscaping...

    Gonna give him a call later to touch base and see if he is open to dinner or a drink... God damn he was hot



    Dude! I am having the SAME challenges here in Denver after being in SF for 5/6 years! I don't find it TOO forward, it's normal for places like SF, NYC, LA and what not however in these smaller cities with less Homo Traffic, it comes across differently. But I SO hear you!
  • Celticmusl

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    Jun 05, 2010 4:24 PM GMT
    Very smooth OP. I had the opportunity but not the resources to leave my number with a guy last weekend. The guy sort of asked for my number but I didn't have anything to write with and we didn't have too much time to plug it into a phone.

    So before this weekend I wrote down my number on the back side of a couple of blank business cards so next time someone implies we should exchange numbers I can give him my number in a very nonchalant manner.
  • EricLA

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    Jun 05, 2010 4:45 PM GMT
    Unfortunately, it's not a science. Different approaches work for different people. I think your approach made sense for the situation.
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    Jun 05, 2010 4:53 PM GMT
    Definately would b flattered!!! Especially if I found the person who did it 2 b HOT.
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    Jun 05, 2010 5:03 PM GMT
    EccentricStud said
    Question being; how forward is too forward? Did I make the right move?

    Well, he's meeting you for beers, right? Obviously it wasn't too forward and yes, you made the right move.
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    Jun 06, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    You exchanged names and numbers without ever hooking up first?
    Dude, I'ma have to show you show this shit's done!
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    Jun 06, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    Well it sounds to me like he was not offended in the least. After all, he called you civily and not pissed off, right? Then that's half the battle won!icon_wink.gif

    I got the nerve to tell a guy at the soda machine at a Burger King once "I've never done this before, but I think you are so damn good looking that I just have to say so. Sorry if I offend you."
    He said he wasn't offended and was flattered but he was straight. And he thanked me for the compliment. C'est la vie!
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    Jun 06, 2010 2:06 AM GMT
    Hell, why not? Works for me.

    I once got in a car accident with a guy and we ended up hooking up. It was my fault but it was a car from a dealership that he was taking home and not supposed to. Granted, it was in San Francisco but we both lived in the suburbs and this was back in the 80's and neither of us was out. I was 18, he was about 20. One night stand, never saw him again, but Craig if you read this and you lived in Mill Valley (?) hit me up. I always wondered what happened to that guy. Cute as hell in his mechanics coveralls.
  • beaujangle

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    Jun 06, 2010 2:30 AM GMT
    This is interesting! Let us know the update, ok?
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Jun 06, 2010 2:33 AM GMT
    brave. bold. just the right move.
    And...BIG payoff! Hello!

    Trust your instincts, and you can't go wrong.

    Keep us posted.
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    Jun 06, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    A local newspaper ran a photo feature about a single guy who had personally renovated his own house in a somewhat unusual style. But what others might have seen as eccentric I saw as gay, along with his pic that also screamed gay to me. When I realized he lived just a block from me, I immediately wrote him a letter, congratulating him on the flattering article, and asking if I could see the house.

    He phoned me at my university office a few days later, his voice reinforcing my gaydar. We made an appointment for a couple of days later after work. I sensed he would be more impressed if I wore a suit with my long topcoat, so on the appointed day I came to campus dressed up more than usual for me.

    That evening when he answered his door he didn't do a good job of hiding his obvious delight at my appearance, looking like a little kid who'd found Santa Claus on his doorstep. He gave me the house & grounds tour as agreed, ending in a Victorian bedroom. We continued getting acquainted there, and now thoroughly convinced of his orientation, simply told him that I was gay. He replied that he was, too. This was really going as well as I had hoped.

    Then he told me my business clothes turned him on (right again!), and proceeded to give me a blow job while I remained fully dressed, just my zipper open. But all our clothes did come off in his own bedroom, where we had lovely sex. We became BFs that night, remaining together 2 years.

    There are times I've been slow & cautious in my approach to guys, and other times bold. And sometimes I've taken an unorthodox approach -- whatever got the job done best under given circumstances.