gta129 saidI'm still in the closet, but want to start dating. I find it hard to date while in the closet. Online dating is an option, but people seem to be overly obsessed on looks. I could goto bars, but I'm afraid I'll run into someone I know in downtown.
Has anyone here dated in the closet? How did you do it?
Review your priorities dealing with your personal life.
Do you want to remain single or alone?
Do you want to be frustrated?
Do you want to live a shadowy life of lies and fear because of other peoples' projections?
Do you want all the above to just fester in you and progressively ruin your spirit as time goes on?
Have you considered that slowly 'coming out', step-by-step, will be the beginning of real vibrant life for you within modern society?
Do you want to live life as a human being or regret having wasted your years without any real chance of finding genuine reciprocal love?
As others have said on these threads, the people who go to gay bars are either gay or gay friendly. At bars you confront people face to face, speak and get the feeling for what they're about. There are all types of gay people, just like all other groups of people. It's about time you figure out who you are, and, who you aren't. It sounds like bars would be a good start for you.
Have courage and faith in your mission. It's well worth the (step-by-step) plunge. I think we will all agree that you will be happier in the long run.