Going into a long-distance relationship...

  • rafiki87

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    Jun 06, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    So the significant other and I will be apart for 12 weeks. He's away for military training and I'll be half-way around the world on holiday.

    His training being in the woods and all, allows him to call only on the weekends.

    We've been apart for a month already, but we talked on Skype every night so it was ok.

    Now it's day one of the 12 weeks and I'm going into withdrawal.

    So far the gym and retail therapy didn't do it for me today.

    I'd much appreciate ideas on how to get your mind off of the significant other and also interesting care package ideas to send throughout the summer.
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    Jun 06, 2010 9:11 PM GMT
    Write actual letters. There's something real and romantic about it. You can do it if you really want to. It only makes the relationship stronger.
  • owen19832006

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    Jun 06, 2010 9:14 PM GMT
    postcards are fab, and a way for you to put nice thoughts and nice feelings into paper and he will love to get them.
    as for you, im afraid work, gym and tv are the best friends you will have for the next few months
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    Jun 07, 2010 7:52 PM GMT
    When my ex was gone for six months, I read...a lot. Find good books and just read, it really helped me to take my mind off of missing him. That and I wrote in a journal every day but I do that anwyays. Also, as others said, writing letters is a good way to let him know how you're feeling.
  • rafiki87

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    Jun 07, 2010 10:29 PM GMT
    thanks guys for the input... i was just feeling kinda down and pretty much made Sunday my mope day...

    Things simmered down, i'll be flying out to see him in a couple weeks time so that's a plus.

    letters are defs an awesome idea.

    i've started working on this one book and mailed him a copy of it for him to work on as well. it's entitled «how i love you : a journal of my affection» by aimee chase. i know it's kinda cheesy cuz it's all «i love how you... type questions» and you just fill in the blanks.

    yeah, this whole being apart thing is throwing a monkey wrench in the relationship, but oh well, you roll with it.
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    Jun 07, 2010 11:12 PM GMT
    yeah me and my boyfriend are usually apart from each other around 12 weeks at a time because of college...we just make the best of calls and letters and we're very honest, i'll tell him that i see hot guys but i still want him, etcetc.

    it's just all in how much you both are willing to want it to work out yknow? icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 07, 2010 11:23 PM GMT
    My guy studied abroad and alaska and I was all by myself at our college. About 5-6 months weren't together. We both got through it and never want to be away from each other that long.

    We made it through that time period by keeping ourselves busy, making sweet phone calls to each other, doing something special for each other (little gifts), skyping, and making future plans on stuff that we can't wait to do.

    hang in there!
  • Iluros

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    Jun 08, 2010 7:33 AM GMT
    I had a similar interval of times apart in my previous relationship.

    It helped to talk on the phone everyday. Make sure to keep communicating. You may find that you don't always have a lot to talk about... which means this period of time is a good opportunity to improve your ability to talk with your boyfriend.
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    Jun 08, 2010 8:17 AM GMT
    hi! my boyfriend lives in the Dominican Republic! I'm in Los Angeles and in 6 months I'll be moving to Sydney for two years (: He will be moving to NYC. We see each other maybe for two weeks every three or so months. We talk on skype all day long or as time permits. Point being, communication is key! express yourself and make sure no time is taken for granted.

    Ha, today we had a fight because he didn't turn on the skype camera after i asked to see him. He was tired and it was 2am for him... he had to get up early to go to the gym and work.