Soo I have made some changes in my life...

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    Jun 07, 2010 4:55 PM GMT
    So....anyone ever go from fat kid...to not fat kid...and start noticing seemingly overnight changes to their personality, or am I thinking to hard?
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    Jun 07, 2010 6:56 PM GMT
    Usually, the people who use to weight a lot and have slimmed down tend to be pretty humble people as far as their personalities from what I've seen. Perhaps that is not the case at all.

    Maybe people get confidence and believe the world now owes them something?
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    Jun 07, 2010 7:11 PM GMT
    Soulasphyx saidUsually, the people who use to weight a lot and have slimmed down tend to be pretty humble people as far as their personalities from what I've seen. Perhaps that is not the case at all.

    Maybe people get confidence and believe the world now owes them something?


    I'm not sure I could ever not be humble/nice/caring lol ( I care way to much about people to change that much) . Its just a couple of friends brought it to my attention when I went out Saturday night that I was acutally talking to guys...something I never really do and it kind of hit me like a brick wall and I started wondering when I started doing stuff I never used to do (I'm usually the guy making jokes and just kind of being "around" for my friends, rarely do I actually interact with anyone I don't know).

    It has been a pretty big year for me though, I moved out of my podunk town and into the big city, lost over 40 lbs, and even gotten laid a couple of times.

    I guess I could just be making mountains out of mole hills, its not like they are negative changes I guess. My friends just always made jokes about how If I ever got into shape I would probably become a douche/whore since I would have nothing holding me back from being "sweet and humble"
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    Jun 07, 2010 7:45 PM GMT
    Quite the opposite for me: It took me a long time not to think of myself as fat.

    I think there's a part of me that will always "feel" fat, no matter what the outside looks like.

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    Jun 07, 2010 8:21 PM GMT
    nicelyproportioned saidQuite the opposite for me: It took me a long time not to think of myself as fat.

    I think there's a part of me that will always "feel" fat, no matter what the outside looks like.



    Yea I totally feel this way sometimes. I used to wear an undershirt under whatever I'm wearing (even in summer) to "smooth out" if that makes any sense.

    I JUST stopped doing it last month and sometimes feel fat even if I don't look it icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 07, 2010 8:22 PM GMT
    nicelyproportioned saidQuite the opposite for me: It took me a long time not to think of myself as fat.

    I think there's a part of me that will always "feel" fat, no matter what the outside looks like.



    yeah, as a former fat kid too, i definitely agree with that. plus, after working as a go-go boy, i developed some serious body image complexes... it's odd when guys compliment my looks because i honestly feel uncomfortable not out of a sense of humbleness but psychologically i just think they're toying with my emotions because i won't let myself believe it.
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    Jun 07, 2010 8:28 PM GMT
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    nicelyproportioned saidQuite the opposite for me: It took me a long time not to think of myself as fat.

    I think there's a part of me that will always "feel" fat, no matter what the outside looks like.



    yeah, as a former fat kid too, i definitely agree with that. plus, after working as a go-go boy, i developed some serious body image complexes... it's odd when guys compliment my looks because i honestly feel uncomfortable not out of a sense of humbleness but psychologically i just think they're toying with my emotions because i won't let myself believe it.



    i was never large, but i was "too small," and in some ways that's just as bad. the exotic dancing was a mixed blessing for me. oh, and as for some people still feeling fat after they lose weight, i still feel scrawny after gaining weight.
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    Jun 08, 2010 12:08 AM GMT
    Been there, done that.. hehe, I have lost 40lb actually.

    Several things happened the same time I got into fitness - I finished highschool, moved to a different country and went to university. I'd say not necessarily getting into shape affected my personality, but the whole university experience has shown multiple perspectives, and that in return affected my point of view on healthy lifestyle. It didn't make me a douche/whore -far from it, but it did make me a lot more openminded.

    While at school (for instance) I was so sure of what I used to think I did so many stupid things to myself while trying to get into shape. Health wasn't even a priority, acceptance was.
    Meeting different, non-judgemental, mature people in a supportive atmosphere was a whole different thing. It has shaped very quickly who I am now icon_biggrin.gif. Though it didn't necessarily happened overnight, it did happen relatively quickly.

    Having said that, I still see fat among other faults, aaand I'm working on it...
    ...and congrats on losing weight by the way, *cheering* icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 08, 2010 12:17 AM GMT
    DoomsDayAlpaca saidSo....anyone ever go from fat kid...to not fat kid...and start noticing seemingly overnight changes to their personality, or am I thinking to hard?


    I lost a lot of weight within the past few month. My personality however still hasn't changed. I find that I'm more shy now. I do take care of my image so much more then before. Oh and another thing I'm obsessed with staring at myself in the mirror icon_redface.gif. However sometimes I freak out because i see a completely different person. I also find that when I am complimented or hit on i become awkward and don't know how to deal with that. Maybe because it never use to happen before. Either way I never want to have a different personality I like mine.
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    Jun 08, 2010 12:27 AM GMT
    DoomsDayAlpaca said
    nicelyproportioned saidQuite the opposite for me: It took me a long time not to think of myself as fat.

    I think there's a part of me that will always "feel" fat, no matter what the outside looks like.



    Yea I totally feel this way sometimes. I used to wear an undershirt under whatever I'm wearing (even in summer) to "smooth out" if that makes any sense.

    I JUST stopped doing it last month and sometimes feel fat even if I don't look it icon_sad.gif


    Completely agreed. When I started loosing weight, I was so afraid that I will gain it back and still do. Though I thing is true I did gain confidence in myself and feel better about myself.
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    Jun 08, 2010 12:30 AM GMT
    DoomsDayAlpaca said
    nicelyproportioned saidQuite the opposite for me: It took me a long time not to think of myself as fat.

    I think there's a part of me that will always "feel" fat, no matter what the outside looks like.



    Yea I totally feel this way sometimes. I used to wear an undershirt under whatever I'm wearing (even in summer) to "smooth out" if that makes any sense.

    I JUST stopped doing it last month and sometimes feel fat even if I don't look it icon_sad.gif


    Dude...CONGRATULATIONS on the weight loss! 40 lbs is a huge accomplishment! And getting laid isn't bad either icon_biggrin.gif As a friend once told me, almost all problems in life can be solved by one good screw. icon_wink.gif And then he promptly demonstrated very aptly. icon_eek.gif

    I think a lot guys who've gone from fat/extremely skinny to slim/buffer experience a sort of psychoemotional shift that really takes some getting used to. Compliments make us uneasy because as calibro pointed out, we feel that they're just toying with us. Some of us don't ever get over it.

    And a lot of us still suffer (even after intense therapy sessions) body image issues that just don't go away. Some of us even have multiple rounds of the slice and dice to feel "normal", to little/no avail: I have had several rounds of plastic surgery because I really wasn't happy with my appearance. I'm still not happy and know I will be going back for more. I just don't feel comfortable in my own skin, so I know how you feel.

    I think you're doing just fine. You're gaining confidence and it's pushing you a little out of your self-imposed milieu of comfort and until it was pointed out, you weren't aware of it. Don't worry. I'm sure your friends would call you out if you started acting like a tool. Besides, that's what good friends do - they help you keep your balance, both externally and internally.
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    Jun 08, 2010 4:57 AM GMT
    Perhaps the only difference is that you feel more confident about putting what's been on the inside on the outside. Sounds fine. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 08, 2010 5:00 AM GMT
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    calibro said
    nicelyproportioned saidQuite the opposite for me: It took me a long time not to think of myself as fat.

    I think there's a part of me that will always "feel" fat, no matter what the outside looks like.



    yeah, as a former fat kid too, i definitely agree with that. plus, after working as a go-go boy, i developed some serious body image complexes... it's odd when guys compliment my looks because i honestly feel uncomfortable not out of a sense of humbleness but psychologically i just think they're toying with my emotions because i won't let myself believe it.



    i was never large, but i was "too small," and in some ways that's just as bad. the exotic dancing was a mixed blessing for me. oh, and as for some people still feeling fat after they lose weight, i still feel scrawny after gaining weight.


    Ditto here. Although I'm still fairly scrawny. Hahah.
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    Jun 08, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    Thanks for taking the time too reply guys! I was starting to wonder if it was all in my head, but hearing everyone else's experiences and ideas I'm starting to get a bit of a clearer picture.

    Also it makes me angry that our society can make any of you feel to skinny or too fat. That's just insanity!
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    Jun 08, 2010 4:46 PM GMT
    Oh you guys are reminding me of this one guy I use to talk to on here and he lost a LOT of weight and he showed me his before picture and I was so freakin proud of what he had accomplished. I always thought he was like trying to hold back or afraid of what I might think or something or maybe he was just being a fake I don't really know but it was very interesting to talk with someone with that type of background and he seemed like a very compassionate, sincere person who was incredibly friendly.
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    Jun 08, 2010 4:51 PM GMT
    Soulasphyx saidOh you guys are reminding me of this one guy I use to talk to on here and he lost a LOT of weight and he showed me his before picture and I was so freakin proud of what he had accomplished. I always thought he was like trying to hold back or afraid of what I might think or something or maybe he was just being a fake I don't really know but it was very interesting to talk with someone with that type of background and he seemed like a very compassionate, sincere person who was incredibly friendly.


    Yea...to be honest, If I could change things I'm not sure I would choose to not grow up heavy, it totally helped shaped who I am and too this day keeps me pretty down too earth.
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    Jun 08, 2010 4:53 PM GMT
    society doesn't "make" you feel one way or another.
    It has a power to influence you but eventually it's your own call.
    The way your brain has shaped itself is more than society's doing.
    I understand hangups, i got tons, but i stopped blaming anyone including me. They're just circumstantial.

    congrats on being now fit and healthy icon_smile.gif




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    Jun 10, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
    DoomsDayAlpaca saidSo....anyone ever go from fat kid...to not fat kid...and start noticing seemingly overnight changes to their personality, or am I thinking to hard?


    Perhaps the biggest change is the way people treat you. The world is a very different place when you've got a six-pack. (You know which kind I mean.)
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    Jun 10, 2010 10:18 PM GMT
    dancerjack said
    calibro said
    nicelyproportioned saidQuite the opposite for me: It took me a long time not to think of myself as fat.

    I think there's a part of me that will always "feel" fat, no matter what the outside looks like.



    yeah, as a former fat kid too, i definitely agree with that. plus, after working as a go-go boy, i developed some serious body image complexes... it's odd when guys compliment my looks because i honestly feel uncomfortable not out of a sense of humbleness but psychologically i just think they're toying with my emotions because i won't let myself believe it.



    i was never large, but i was "too small," and in some ways that's just as bad. the exotic dancing was a mixed blessing for me. oh, and as for some people still feeling fat after they lose weight, i still feel scrawny after gaining weight.


    same with me. when i first reached my height of 6'2, i weighed 140 lbs. i am much more confident now then i was back then, but i think there will always be some body issues with me because of that.