Melos saidI may be wrong, but I'd bet that Nick from this season of the Ultimate Fighter is gay.
And say hello to my future husband...
On a more serious note now:
As a gay martial artist, this hits very close to home. My more light-hearted class that isn't as combative (capoeira) is a lot more accepting of my sexuality. Then again, it seems that in the US, gay men in capoeira is more or less accepted, but that's beside the point.
My gongfu class has an entirely different attitude. There's an amount of open homophobia, not in the angry sense, but in the belittling way. An example is a discussion that people had regarding lesbians that they're all bi, but they had bad experiences with men so they switched to women. Or that time it was stated that gay men are just so witty and funny to have around because they make everyone laugh. Then there were concerns over whether or not the studio itself seemed too 'gay' because there's also a dance class for women in there, so there were costume props lying around.
To a degree, it is a major don't ask, don't tell sort of thing because at first when you start at a school, you don't really bring much of your personal life into it. You know the other people by name and rank and you train with them. Then you start making friends, and that's when it gets hard...they talk about their lives, but because of the attitudes that prevail, gay guys tend to keep their mouths shut. That's been my experience with the whole thing...its sad, too.
Martial arts are supposed to be about making one's self better, centering and calming, meditation and self-defense. It is about exploring the depths of the art and to a high degree, finding yourself (I know I've learned a lot about myself since I began training), and in sparring it is supposed to be about your skill and the other person's skill, not which way they swing.
Okay, this is probably turning into an incoherent rant, or will do so shortly, so I'm going to cut it there for now...it'd be very awesome to see more openly gay martial artists all around, not just in MMA. I think it'd change a lot of minds.
BTW, another openly gay MMA fighter: Shad Smith