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    Jun 08, 2010 9:06 PM GMT
    So, a few weeks ago, I started this thread about two guys and which one would be preferable dating material.

    The first guy was basically a broody, emotional mess who was incredible in the sack. The second one was great in the sack as well, but his polar opposite in almost every other way. Now I was expecting at least most to say this was a stupid question and choose the second, hands down. I was then going to reveal that everyone chose Emmet Honeycutt over Brian Kinney. Then I was going to go on about how ironic that would've been considering the rather immense femphobia I've observed on this site.

    To say that my little experiment backfired is an understatement: almost half the guys actually chose the first guy! Okay, let's throw out the whole Emmet angle I was going to throw in and assume both men are masculine like before. The reasons for the choice are STILL disheartening. Now, I'm not quoting verbatim, but they ranged from "Oh, guys like him (2nd guy) don't exist," and "The 2nd one sounds like a weakling," to "I like the chase so I'll go with the bad boy," and "Maybe I'm the one he could change for."

    News flash, fellas: the responsibility for the bad boy's "reform" lies w/ him and him alone. We could support and encourage whatever healing he feels he needs as his friends, but actually put ourselves through all that drama while being romantically involved?

    Meanwhile, we have a hot, sexy, relatively well-adjusted man down for whatever and we push him away. At the risk of seeming harsh, I gotta say we're starting to sound like a bunch of delusional masochists. Do so many of us really hate ourselves that much? Please prove me wrong, guys, because right now, I'm not optimistic about our own emotional progress, collectively.
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    Jun 08, 2010 9:39 PM GMT
    Hey Cosmos, I read that whole topic. You didn't get enough replies, I think. icon_wink.gif


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  • Iluros

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    Jun 08, 2010 10:37 PM GMT
    I think the responses backfired because you tried too hard to make person #2 look positive and it came out sounding flaky or somesuch.
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    Jun 08, 2010 10:53 PM GMT
    I think u already knew who u wanned, u were just looking for validation.
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    Jun 09, 2010 5:29 AM GMT
    I have no idea what went on in the original thread- but given the choice between Emmet and Brian... I would most definitely choose Emmet because Brian was just a jerk most of the time... and I did not find him or his personality one bit attractive. icon_rolleyes.gif

    With that whole fem-masc thing in mind--- I'd prefer someone in the middle that leans slightly to masc side- It would allow us to do far more things than just sit around watching sports (boring) and crushing beer cans with our forehead... or smoking slims and bitching about Perez Hilton...
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    Jun 09, 2010 3:31 PM GMT
    charlitos saidI think u already knew who u wanned [sic], u were just looking for validation.


    Wow. That was quite the jump. How did you come up w/ such a specific theory about my needs and desires from such a generalized social experiment?
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    Jun 09, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    meninlove said Hey Cosmos, I read that whole topic. You didn't get enough replies, I think. icon_wink.gif


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    I considered that. Methinks you have a point.

    But still...icon_eek.gif
  • neosyllogy

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    Jun 09, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
    Who the heck are Emmet and Brian?
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:31 PM GMT
    neosyllogy saidWho the heck are Emmet and Brian?


    Queer as Folk characters, babe.
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    A1EX saidI have no idea what went on in the original thread- but given the choice between Emmet and Brian... I would most definitely choose Emmet because Brian was just a jerk most of the time... and I did not find him or his personality one bit attractive. icon_rolleyes.gif

    With that whole fem-masc thing in mind--- I'd prefer someone in the middle that leans slightly to masc side- It would allow us to do far more things than just sit around watching sports (boring) and crushing beer cans with our forehead... or smoking slims and bitching about Perez Hilton...


    I feel you, man. We tend to vacillate between those two choices. All I can think is, I don't get a more interesting, intriguing option? icon_lol.gif