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    Jun 09, 2010 3:39 PM GMT
    My mom has scheduled to put our great dane, Maya, to sleep today at 3. She's 7 years old, and great danes begin having leg problems..well my dog's hind leg has been going out which causes her to fall sometimes.

    Well I guess when I was in DC this past week, she fell twice and since she's been limping and having problems getting up and just doing her business outside.

    I don't want to see her in pain, and we would have to put her to sleep sooner or later..but I'm just a little meh. I haven't lost it yet, not til its time to put her to sleep I'll be crying like crazy.

    Shes laying upstairs and I don't really want to hang out with her..I don't want to get too attached or something..this sucks.
  • Daniepwils

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    Jun 09, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    GO hang out with her. the last thing you should do is avoid her. Dog's have a sense of what is happening, they need you. You will hate yourself later for not spending time with her.

    I had to put my favorite dog down after nine years on my birthday. I was with him till his last breath, it was very dignified and it seemed like he just fell asleep peacefully. The hardest part was the drive to the vet, he knew what was going on.

    (He had cancer, in the face and there was almost no way to live comfortably with it, about six months after he was diagnosed he could no longer eat properly without being in pain).
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 09, 2010 4:00 PM GMT
    Very difficult process. I remember in December, 2001 I made the call on putting my quarter horse down... I got him for my 11th birthday. I'll never forget it for the rest of my life.

    There isn't a right or wrong on how you act during this time. Its tough. Do whats right for your beloved pet, know its whats in her best interest. I was a little surprised that she's only 7, but perhaps Great Danes don't typically live as long as another breed like a beagle or maltese.

    I'm sorry you are having to go through this today... or any day, however we dog or cat owners have to make decision eventually or the dog or cat dies a natural (or unnatural) death. My condolances are with you. Know you are in our thoughts today!
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:03 PM GMT
    Along with Maya, we also had a black lab named Bailey and an English Mastiff named Winston. Well Winston had apparently got in a fight with Bailey or something while we were all gone, and Bailey became paralyzed from the neck down..we had to put her to sleep...along with Winston because my parents didn't want him hurting our neighbor's kids.

    I begged my parents to keep him, because Winston never showed aggressive traits at all when we had him, and probably didn't realize how big he was. He was never hostile to strangers, in fact very sociable..and I was so mad that my parents decided to put him to sleep..but I understood why they had to.

    Well that day I pretty much cried from morning to evening....and now I think about to start to cry..great.

    Ugh theres so many good things to say about miss maya
  • neosyllogy

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    Jun 09, 2010 4:05 PM GMT
    Christian16 saidShes laying upstairs and I don't really want to hang out with her..I don't want to get too attached or something..this sucks.


    Fuck not getting attached.
    She's going to die. Give her what love you can while she's still here.
    The grief will probably hit you later, and you'll eventually come to terms with it.
    Your great Dane is there now though, go be with her. If nothing else a little extra happiness/contentment may take the edge of the confusion of being in the vet's later.
  • vintovka

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    Jun 09, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    You are already attached. I've had four dogs in my life (of my own) that eventually I had to put down. My last dog was 12 and she was suffering--it sucked, as it always does. I was crying like crazy when they did and I didn't/don't give a shit. Emotional pain is like physical pain, sometimes it is a necessary part of life.
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:27 PM GMT
    Go lay with her. I remember the day I had to put my first dog, Oscar, to sleep. He had been fighting Kidney failure, but it was time for him... he was weak... he acted differently. I laid with him in my bed for a couple of hours, until it was time for him to go. I cried and cried, and I couldn't bear going to the vet, so my brothers went instead. But I didnt cry after that. I had taken care of him, I gave him all the love I had.... and he wasnt suffering anymore, so I was ok.

    Go love her before its too late, she needs you now.
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:31 PM GMT
    Oh my goodness... as others have mentioned spend as much time with her and show her love, pet her and cuddle with her. She will die peacefully with people that she knows well and that love her and take good care of her. Instead of being too emotional about it spend time with her. She needs it now more than ever.

    I truly love great danes.

    She may rest well in peace!!
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:34 PM GMT
    readr saidOh my goodness... as others have mentioned spend as much time with her and show her love, pet her and cuddle with her. She will die peacefully with people that she knows well and that love her and take good care of her. Instead of being too emotional about it spend time with her. She needs it now more than ever.

    I truly love great danes.

    She may rest well in peace!!


    Haha I love great danes! I've had 3 total..they are great! Hehe icon_smile.gif

    I laid with her a bit..one of my cats I think could read me..she's been laying with me a lot..and came to lay down with us.
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:44 PM GMT
    Christian16 saidMy mom has scheduled to put our great dane, Maya, to sleep today at 3. She's 7 years old, and great danes begin having leg problems..well my dog's hind leg has been going out which causes her to fall sometimes.

    Well I guess when I was in DC this past week, she fell twice and since she's been limping and having problems getting up and just doing her business outside.

    I don't want to see her in pain, and we would have to put her to sleep sooner or later..but I'm just a little meh. I haven't lost it yet, not til its time to put her to sleep I'll be crying like crazy.

    Shes laying upstairs and I don't really want to hang out with her..I don't want to get too attached or something..this sucks.


    I'm sorry to hear that.
    I have a very good idea how you must feel. My German Shepard had to be put down (at 13.5 yo) due to similar problems. My parents didn't tell me for months, until I came for a visit. He at least had a full life and was part of the family, at least like a brother. They did the correct thing though and I told them that immediately when I was told. We were blessed with the time we had together.

    Unlike people, I'm sure they know that they are loved, but always love to get more affection like they give it. Memories that are made live on.
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:48 PM GMT
    Christian16 said
    readr saidOh my goodness... as others have mentioned spend as much time with her and show her love, pet her and cuddle with her. She will die peacefully with people that she knows well and that love her and take good care of her. Instead of being too emotional about it spend time with her. She needs it now more than ever.

    I truly love great danes.

    She may rest well in peace!!


    Haha I love great danes! I've had 3 total..they are great! Hehe icon_smile.gif

    I laid with her a bit..one of my cats I think could read me..she's been laying with me a lot..and came to lay down with us.


    Animals have a sense of intuition about things and your cat probably senses something is up. I'm glad you decided to spend time with your dog. Last year, we had to put down one of our dogs after he had a series of strokes. We gave him some steak and he managed to eat a little and we spent the entire morning with him in our arms before the visit with the vet. He was pretty out of it at that point but I wanted him to have no doubt about how much we loved him. I think animals are able to sense it, I really do. Let your dog know how much you love her!
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:50 PM GMT
    neosyllogy said
    Christian16 saidShes laying upstairs and I don't really want to hang out with her..I don't want to get too attached or something..this sucks.


    Fuck not getting attached.
    She's going to die. Give her what love you can while she's still here.
    The grief will probably hit you later, and you'll eventually come to terms with it.
    Your great Dane is there now though, go be with her. If nothing else a little extra happiness/contentment may take the edge of the confusion of being in the vet's later.


    Amen to this! Don't walk away from her when she needs you.
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:56 PM GMT
    Christian16 saidMy mom has scheduled to put our great dane, Maya, to sleep today at 3. She's 7 years old, and great danes begin having leg problems..well my dog's hind leg has been going out which causes her to fall sometimes.

    Well I guess when I was in DC this past week, she fell twice and since she's been limping and having problems getting up and just doing her business outside.

    I don't want to see her in pain, and we would have to put her to sleep sooner or later..but I'm just a little meh. I haven't lost it yet, not til its time to put her to sleep I'll be crying like crazy.

    Shes laying upstairs and I don't really want to hang out with her..I don't want to get too attached or something..this sucks.

    I lost my dog without being able to saying goodbye, I regret this to this day and it still makes me cry. (she died while I was at school)
    So.
    Go be with her, please, because not everyone gets the chance to do so icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 09, 2010 4:56 PM GMT
    I've definitely done this before. I was 17, and my dog was a 13-year-old White German Shepherd and suddenly started having epileptic seizures. He would have them whenever he would sleep. It reached a point where he was afraid to sleep because he knew he would probably have a seizure. It was difficult to watch that.

    My parents asked me if I wanted to consider putting him down. They thought I was old enough to make that kind of decision. But honestly, I didn't hesitate to say yes because I couldn't bear watching him suffer like that.

    My dad and I took him to the vet one morning. The vet didn't stop us from putting him down, although I was hoping maybe they would try to talk us out of it. But considering he was already pretty old, there wasn't much help that could be done. I chose to stay with him the entire time. It happened very fast. Within 30 seconds of the vet injecting him, he collapsed to his side and stopped breathing. It wasn't easy to watch.

    In the end, I'm glad I was with him during his last moments because I felt like I got to say goodbye to him. Of course, I was quite sad when I got home from putting him down. But my parents made me go to school the next day. Oddly enough, I felt OK the next day. It taught me that life goes on. But I saved many of his things and hold a little memorial for him every year.

    I'm sorry to hear your story. But I definitely recommend spending all the time you have left with your dog. I think being able to say goodbye makes grieving easier to deal with in the long run because you won't have any regrets.
  • Celticmusl

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    Jun 09, 2010 5:00 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 said
    neosyllogy said
    Christian16 saidShes laying upstairs and I don't really want to hang out with her..I don't want to get too attached or something..this sucks.


    Fuck not getting attached.
    She's going to die. Give her what love you can while she's still here.
    The grief will probably hit you later, and you'll eventually come to terms with it.
    Your great Dane is there now though, go be with her. If nothing else a little extra happiness/contentment may take the edge of the confusion of being in the vet's later.


    Amen to this! Don't walk away from her when she needs you.



    Meh....if you don't want to be with her now in her time of need you never really loved her. If you love her you know where you need to be and what you need to do. It's difficult, but easy, to do the right thing.
  • Link27

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    Jun 09, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    This is an extremely difficult thing to go through, and I've been through it twice now. Go and be with her though, don't let her stay alone - you'll be glad you did!
  • Geoedward

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    Jun 09, 2010 5:13 PM GMT

    You really need to stop thinking of yourself and be there for your dog. Dog's have a sense of what is happening, and she needs you. Not being with her is cruel. I have had to put 3 dogs down in the last 2 years of old age. It broke my heart but I was with them holding them to the end. I would do it again in a heartbeat. Maya has spent her life giving you unconditional love, now it is time for you to be there for her. I know it is hard. It is the hardest thing I have ever done, but I would never let my dogs suffer and I would never abandon them because I thought it would be too hard to deal with. I love my dogs with all of my heart.
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    Jun 09, 2010 5:24 PM GMT
    It's not that I don't love her..it's already difficult for me dealing with this, but I tell myself by not getting too attached before we have to take her to the vet allows me to stay somewhat sane and not out of control emotional. But yes I'm hanging out with her.

    I always felt bad for her though, when we lost our 2 other dogs, she defiently went through a depression and hardly ate for a month or so and lost a lot of weight. Ever since I just felt bad because she used to be active with our other dogs, but now just sits around being lonely.

    I can't stop thinking about the movie Marley and Me..which I cried niagra falls out when I watched it.

    I'm going to miss taking her out on walks..she would LOVE the attention people gave her, whenever a car would drive by she would stop and pose..she used to be such the diva as a puppy.

    this is a old picture of her..i don't think she was very happy cause she has her diva glare lol

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    Jun 09, 2010 5:40 PM GMT
    Christ, these threads about dying pets, make me upset! My dogs are still young, but I am utterly afraid of facing this moment, if it came to this. I will not, however, steel myself for it now nor will I simply walk away and act like it is all about preserving MY dignity when it's time to say goodbye.

    That said, stop trying to be a stoic hero and stop trying to safe face, Christian16... just feel the emotions and be a human being, for cryin' out loud! No one is going to think less of you for it.
  • me35mtl

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    Jun 09, 2010 5:41 PM GMT
    honestly i think Great Danes are beautiful and your dog is a winner..

    But what i dont get is why you dont want to spend these last days with her?
    Like all living things, they have to go eventually. Its the circle of life.
    So in other words..Would you or one of your family members (God forbid) want to pass on alone while in pain or be in the comfort of having loved ones around you?
  • Geoedward

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    Jun 09, 2010 5:47 PM GMT
    You are doing the right thing by being with her. As I said I know it is hard. I am crying now just reading your story. It broke my heart to put my babies down, but I felt so much better about being with them. She is beautiful. It is going to be hard but it would be even harder knowing she was going to be put down and not spending time with her while you have it. I feel bad for you both. I still miss my three that I had put down. I love all of my dogs. I have five now. I rescue them. It was the hardest thing I ever did having to put them down. I was there when they were being born. I held them in my hands as soon as they were born. I also held them in my arms when they were put to sleep. I have two more that are 14 and 10. I will give them the best life that I can, and I will have them put down when it is time. I will be with them to the end. That is what love is all about. Take care of yourself!
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    Jun 09, 2010 5:50 PM GMT
    Spend the time with her and let her know you will always love her and keep her in your heart. Losing a pet is devastating - I lost a cat February 15th of 2007 and it was the most horrible day ever. I could barely work that day I was so distraught. I wish I could have spent one more day with my cat - he was hit by a car in the middle of the night and I found him the next day lying by the mailbox in the snow. It was so terrible! I still tear up when I think about it.
    SO.......go and enjoy your time you have left together. You will be happy and thankful you did it.
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    Jun 09, 2010 6:00 PM GMT
    I've already cried 3 times today..and each time my dog tries to get up and its a struggle and I feel so bad for her.

    And I'm sorry that I sound like a selfish prick or whatever, I probably am. I found out today that she's being put to sleep today, I was in shock..and had no idea what to do at the time.

    I don't really know what else to say..I obviously don't cope well.

    And no..I would not abandon a dying family member..
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    Jun 09, 2010 6:01 PM GMT
    My ex and I had to put our dog down a couple years ago. It was difficult, but it had to be done. I felt the same as you. I wanted to remember her full of life. But, I spend the night with her before. She was in pain, but I hope the love I gave her up til her last breath made her hurt less.

    You have to do what you feel. Frankly, I think its selfish to stay away. She has likely been a great companion when you and you mom needed one. She probably did not even know it. I think she deserves the same in return.
  • Celticmusl

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    Jun 09, 2010 6:06 PM GMT
    Christian16 saidI've already cried 3 times today..and each time my dog tries to get up and its a struggle and I feel so bad for her.

    And I'm sorry that I sound like a selfish prick or whatever, I probably am. I found out today that she's being put to sleep today, I was in shock..and had no idea what to do at the time.

    I don't really know what else to say..I obviously don't cope well.

    And no..I would not abandon a dying family member..



    Well it sounds like you and your family have given her a very good and loving home and are doing right by her. She has led a happy and long life and that is something to feel good about.