The worst thing about dating / relationships.....

  • Tritimium

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    Jun 10, 2010 2:00 PM GMT
    ...is missing him ( / her) terribly when you're not together!

    I met a guy a few weeks ago, and I'm finding the days in-between seeing him really hard going. I'm normally very independent and able to amuse myself, and definitely not the 'clingy' type. I pretty much adore him. Our backgrounds and personality are uncannily similar, and he's really lovely. He says he misses me too, which is sweet.

    What to do?! I can't be moping around all week. icon_sad.gif

    I met him at my city's Pride weekend, incidentally, via a bit of boy-drama, lol.
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    Jun 10, 2010 2:41 PM GMT
    All I can say is I can relate to the whole not clingy but constantly thinking about him thing...That happened to me once...I learned a lot about myself when that happened, LOL...But the main thing is to play it cool once you do get to see/talk to him again...
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    Jun 10, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    Tritimium said...is missing him ( / her) terribly when you're not together!

    I met a guy a few weeks ago, and I'm finding the days in-between seeing him really hard going. I'm normally very independent and able to amuse myself, and definitely not the 'clingy' type. I pretty much adore him. Our backgrounds and personality are uncannily similar, and he's really lovely. He says he misses me too, which is sweet.

    What to do?! I can't be moping around all week. icon_sad.gif

    I met him at my city's Pride weekend, incidentally, via a bit of boy-drama, lol.



    I was in the exact same situation a few months back. You really need to try hard to not feel this way. It will eat you alive and when your clingyness will show even if you try not to show it. And of course we all knw that clingy is not attractive. Try to knock yourself out of it.
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    Jun 10, 2010 2:50 PM GMT
    Tritimium said...is missing him ( / her) terribly when you're not together!

    I met a guy a few weeks ago, and I'm finding the days in-between seeing him really hard going. I'm normally very independent and able to amuse myself, and definitely not the 'clingy' type. I pretty much adore him. Our backgrounds and personality are uncannily similar, and he's really lovely. He says he misses me too, which is sweet.

    What to do?! I can't be moping around all week. icon_sad.gif

    I met him at my city's Pride weekend, incidentally, via a bit of boy-drama, lol.


    Infatuation? Perhaps. Either way, you're on emotional overload. You need to make adjustments in order to achieve emotional balance. Rediscover a new hobby. Read a new book. Take yourself to lunch or dinner. Reach out to your friends and spend time with them.

    That's what I'd do. In a few weeks, this guy-wonder might not even be around.
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    Jun 10, 2010 2:58 PM GMT
    Tritimium said...is missing him ( / her) terribly when you're not together!

    I met a guy a few weeks ago, and I'm finding the days in-between seeing him really hard going. I'm normally very independent and able to amuse myself, and definitely not the 'clingy' type. I pretty much adore him. Our backgrounds and personality are uncannily similar, and he's really lovely. He says he misses me too, which is sweet.

    What to do?! I can't be moping around all week. icon_sad.gif

    I met him at my city's Pride weekend, incidentally, via a bit of boy-drama, lol.


    Heh, we felt that way about each other - still do.
  • davidnta

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    Jun 10, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    I'm in your situation for until the middle of July. My partner is doing an internship for his M.Ed. program in Kentucky so I'm stuck all summer by myself and our cats.

    I miss him terribly and we do talk to each other multiple times throughout the day to see what the other is doing.

    He and I have been together for about 5 years.It still happens to couples who've been together for a while.

    I took a week to mope and be lazy, but then school started so I had something to focus my time and energy on.
  • JayDT

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    Jun 10, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    I'm jealous. I want to feel all twitterpated like that.
  • Tritimium

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    Jun 11, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    JayDT saidI'm jealous. I want to feel all twitterpated like that.


    Trust me, it sucks!


    Thanks for all the tips, guys - I'm trying hard to re-focus my energies and thoughts on what I was (trying) to do before I met Mr Wonderful....he isn't moping around (from what I can tell), so I'm not going to either! I guess, actually, missing someone like that is a somewhat selfish reaction - one has to realise that the other guy does have a life (which I want him to have); also, it's healthy, especially in the early stages of seeing someone, to have plenty of space between your time together, to allow feelings etc. to settle and think again with a clear mind.





    .....he says, lol. Easier said than done, and I'm no Saint. icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 5:36 PM GMT
    aww that's sweet. this "worst thing" is also one of the most fun parts of dating, isn't it? icon_biggrin.gif