When did you know that you were a bottom/top/versatile?

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    Jun 10, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    I read in a thread about a guy that didn't know anything about gay sex but that he thought he was a bottom by default but that people told him that he might be a top. and not a bottom.

    Well, that made me think and I just remembered that when I used to watch gay porn when I was like 12 LOL I always imagined myself as the bottom (never as the top), it was natural to me, well I don't know if it's just me, or if it's weird but when I watch porn I have to imagine myself as one of the guys on the movie/clip/whatever and therefore, he has to be similar bodywise to me **Now that I tried to explained it, it sounds kinda weird**

    Well, so my question is when did you know? Did you just know? or Did you have to experiment and you said hmmm nope, I don't like to bottom, I'm a top? icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 11, 2010 3:41 PM GMT
    There's a difference between thinking about being the bottom and actually enjoying it. If this is what excites you why not try it and see if it's your cup of tea. Being anally pentrated isn't for everyone. Personally I enjoy it very much icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 11, 2010 9:11 PM GMT
    Maybe I didn't make myself clear, I have bottomed several times and I loved every minute of it, so yeah I'm a total bottom icon_lol.gif Any tops available?j/k icon_twisted.gif
  • DanielQQ

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    Jun 11, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    LatinTwink saidI read in a thread about a guy that didn't know anything about gay sex but that he thought he was a bottom by default but that people told him that he might be a top. and not a bottom.

    Well, that made me think and I just remembered that when I used to watch gay porn when I was like 12 LOL I always imagined myself as the bottom (never as the top), it was natural to me, well I don't know if it's just me, or if it's weird but when I watch porn I have to imagine myself as one of the guys on the movie/clip/whatever and therefore, he has to be similar bodywise to me **Now that I tried to explained it, it sounds kinda weird**

    Well, so my question is when did you know? Did you just know? or Did you have to experiment and you said hmmm nope, I don't like to bottom, I'm a top? icon_razz.gif


    Man, this topic seems to be really popular lately. And I can't help myself but respond to them all LOL

    I'm thinking maybe i'm in the minority, but i have NEVER thought of myself sexually as a "top or bottom." I'm just sexual, and i love physically connecting to guys i'm hot for. I love touching them, kissing them, sucking them, exploring their bodies, putting our cocks inside each other. i think categorizing yourself as only a top or bottom puts too much emphasis on the act of sex and not on the connection to your sexual partner.

    totally my opinion, that's all.

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    Jun 11, 2010 9:54 PM GMT
    DanielQQ said
    LatinTwink saidI read in a thread about a guy that didn't know anything about gay sex but that he thought he was a bottom by default but that people told him that he might be a top. and not a bottom.

    Well, that made me think and I just remembered that when I used to watch gay porn when I was like 12 LOL I always imagined myself as the bottom (never as the top), it was natural to me, well I don't know if it's just me, or if it's weird but when I watch porn I have to imagine myself as one of the guys on the movie/clip/whatever and therefore, he has to be similar bodywise to me **Now that I tried to explained it, it sounds kinda weird**

    Well, so my question is when did you know? Did you just know? or Did you have to experiment and you said hmmm nope, I don't like to bottom, I'm a top? icon_razz.gif


    Man, this topic seems to be really popular lately. And I can't help myself but respond to them all LOL

    I'm thinking maybe i'm in the minority, but i have NEVER thought of myself sexually as a "top or bottom." I'm just sexual, and i love physically connecting to guys i'm hot for. I love touching them, kissing them, sucking them, exploring their bodies, putting our cocks inside each other. i think categorizing yourself as only a top or bottom puts too much emphasis on the act of sex and not on the connection to your sexual partner.

    totally my opinion, that's all.



    It's a valid opinion, icon_smile.gif I know that you don't like to categorize yourself but you're technically, versatile. Don't you think? icon_razz.gif

    and btw it sounds really sweet, you know, how you described it icon_redface.gif lol
  • DanielQQ

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    Jun 11, 2010 10:01 PM GMT
    LatinTwink said
    DanielQQ said
    LatinTwink saidI read in a thread about a guy that didn't know anything about gay sex but that he thought he was a bottom by default but that people told him that he might be a top. and not a bottom.

    Well, that made me think and I just remembered that when I used to watch gay porn when I was like 12 LOL I always imagined myself as the bottom (never as the top), it was natural to me, well I don't know if it's just me, or if it's weird but when I watch porn I have to imagine myself as one of the guys on the movie/clip/whatever and therefore, he has to be similar bodywise to me **Now that I tried to explained it, it sounds kinda weird**

    Well, so my question is when did you know? Did you just know? or Did you have to experiment and you said hmmm nope, I don't like to bottom, I'm a top? icon_razz.gif


    Man, this topic seems to be really popular lately. And I can't help myself but respond to them all LOL

    I'm thinking maybe i'm in the minority, but i have NEVER thought of myself sexually as a "top or bottom." I'm just sexual, and i love physically connecting to guys i'm hot for. I love touching them, kissing them, sucking them, exploring their bodies, putting our cocks inside each other. i think categorizing yourself as only a top or bottom puts too much emphasis on the act of sex and not on the connection to your sexual partner.

    totally my opinion, that's all.



    It's a valid opinion, icon_smile.gif I know that you don't like to categorize yourself but you're technically, versatile. Don't you think? icon_razz.gif

    and btw it sounds really sweet, you know, how you described it icon_redface.gif lol


    hah yea i guess i'm versatile. but i'm a water sign, i'm very fluidic in all areas of my life. i go with the flow icon_smile.gif
  • Thomas757

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    Jun 11, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
    DanielQQI'm thinking maybe i'm in the minority, but i have NEVER thought of myself sexually as a "top or bottom." I'm just sexual, and i love physically connecting to guys i'm hot for. I love touching them, kissing them, sucking them, exploring their bodies, putting our cocks inside each other. i think categorizing yourself as only a top or bottom puts too much emphasis on the act of sex and not on the connection to your sexual partner.


    well said...
    It's weird how so many people swear up and down that they hate being labeled and having limitations put on them, yet they do it to themselves on a daily basis. I know I'm certainly guilty of it. I used to say I was bisexual, then gay versatile, back to bisexual, back to gay, i finally got tired of it and just decided that I'm sexual even when i'm not having sex. icon_twisted.gif
    course that's just how i feel comfortable defining myself.
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    Jun 11, 2010 10:29 PM GMT
    I guess my definition of sex is putting my pole in the hole. I am not wired for anything else. Its not that I am not open to other things... there is just nothing pushing me in any other direction.
  • Buddha

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    Jun 11, 2010 11:38 PM GMT
    I was also for some reason thinking that I should be drawn to being a bottom. I was also totally brainwashed by yaoicomics, which needless to say have a lot of whacked out ideals about top/bottom.

    When I started having sex I finally snapped out of these whacked fictional ideals and I realized that I was vers though.
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    Jun 12, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    As DanielQQ said its connecting with the other person. So it was after I tried it that I got to know that am versatile. But then I always thought I was that way icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 12:28 AM GMT
    I've never had sex but...
    ...at first I thought I was going to be a bottom. icon_confused.gif ...but with each passing day I drift farther and farther from that idea... I've just been getting more and more aggressive- (dominating.) icon_confused.gif

    Rather odd.
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    Jun 12, 2010 12:34 AM GMT
    I've just always found it more fun to be the bottom. I like pushing his buttons and teasing in just the right way to get the aggressive lovemaking that asserts his passion and control. icon_twisted.gif

    It seems that to be able to do that, and to enjoy the affection and, yes, lust; one would have to be the one to submit, ultimately. By contrast, being on top seemed more like a chore to me. I just don't know how to be a good one by nature.

    Your mileage is likely to vary.
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    Jun 12, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    I think it was when my 6-2 trick (and yes, I had the clichéd 1st time with this really awesome guy with a totally huge wang in a hotel room (#101) behind the pool-house experience) eased me into it and just put it in there (after a proper working, of course), achieving a...perfect fit (my homage to Ms. Blanche Deveraux).

    I have to say, it was one of the most passionate moments of my life. The sensations and feelings and this feeling of raw energy as he was taking my virginity just sealed the deal. And since he was almost a foot taller than me, he was able to lift me up and make me squeek *not squeel* against the wall, while he was standing, on the counter, on the table, against the. . .ahem icon_eek.gif

    But anyways, I've been thinking lately about being a top. Problem is, most bottoms want to be topped by someone taller than them. And I'm almost always shorter than them, which means I'm regularly relegated to being a bottom. Shame too, since I think I'd do well. Got a hip action all played out and everything. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 1:19 AM GMT
    A1EX saidI've never had sex but...
    ...at first I thought I was going to be a bottom. icon_confused.gif ...but with each passing day I drift farther and farther from that idea... I've just been getting more and more aggressive- (dominating.) icon_confused.gif

    Rather odd.


    But you can be a bottom and be dominant at the same time icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 1:20 AM GMT
    TheTyg saidI've just always found it more fun to be the bottom. I like pushing his buttons and teasing in just the right way to get the aggressive lovemaking that asserts his passion and control. icon_twisted.gif

    It seems that to be able to do that, and to enjoy the affection and, yes, lust; one would have to be the one to submit, ultimately. By contrast, being on top seemed more like a chore to me. I just don't know how to be a good one by nature.

    Your mileage is likely to vary.


    Yes, that's exactly how I feel, topping seems more like a chore to me too, I love being submissive, but not a lot, but I love being topped by an aggressive/dominant guy.
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    Jun 12, 2010 1:22 AM GMT
    SC_Rider saidI think it was when my 6-2 trick (and yes, I had the clichéd 1st time with this really awesome guy with a totally huge wang in a hotel room (#101) behind the pool-house experience) eased me into it and just put it in there (after a proper working, of course), achieving a...perfect fit (my homage to Ms. Blanche Deveraux).

    I have to say, it was one of the most passionate moments of my life. The sensations and feelings and this feeling of raw energy as he was taking my virginity just sealed the deal. And since he was almost a foot taller than me, he was able to lift me up and make me squeek *not squeel* against the wall, while he was standing, on the counter, on the table, against the. . .ahem icon_eek.gif

    But anyways, I've been thinking lately about being a top. Problem is, most bottoms want to be topped by someone taller than them. And I'm almost always shorter than them, which means I'm regularly relegated to being a bottom. Shame too, since I think I'd do well. Got a hip action all played out and everything. icon_smile.gif


    I also kinda prefer to be topped by someone taller than me but I've been with shorter guys, and I really enjoyed it, I mean, when you're fucking you don't even notice if the guy you're with is taller or shorter unless he's 4'5 LOL
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    Jun 12, 2010 1:24 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidIf you fantasize about it you probably will actually like doing it. So when it comes to butt sex and you fantasize about being a whore slut bottom then that's what you will more likely enjoy when you have sex. Same thing with being a whore tramp top. icon_razz.gif


    HAHAHA yeah I always fantasized about being really slutty and being used by an aggressive top and now that I've tried it in real life, I know that's what I like icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 1:31 AM GMT
    I knew I was mostly a bottom when someone stuck their cock up there and I saw the good kind of stars. That hadn't happened the few times I topped.

    Not that I don't enjoy topping, it's just not nearly as enjoyable as bottoming.
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    Jun 12, 2010 4:40 PM GMT
    SC_Rider saidI think it was when my 6-2 trick (and yes, I had the clichéd 1st time with this really awesome guy with a totally huge wang in a hotel room (#101) behind the pool-house experience) eased me into it and just put it in there (after a proper working, of course), achieving a...perfect fit (my homage to Ms. Blanche Deveraux).

    I have to say, it was one of the most passionate moments of my life. The sensations and feelings and this feeling of raw energy as he was taking my virginity just sealed the deal. And since he was almost a foot taller than me, he was able to lift me up and make me squeek *not squeel* against the wall, while he was standing, on the counter, on the table, against the. . .ahem icon_eek.gif

    But anyways, I've been thinking lately about being a top. Problem is, most bottoms want to be topped by someone taller than them. And I'm almost always shorter than them, which means I'm regularly relegated to being a bottom. Shame too, since I think I'd do well. Got a hip action all played out and everything. icon_smile.gif


    I've been topped by shorter men. I don't see any problem.
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    Jun 12, 2010 4:46 PM GMT


    I wont disclose Classified Information icon_lol.gif but I First knew about My Sexual Role when I reached Puberty and by Watching Porn....It really Confirmed my Role of Enjoyment icon_biggrin.gif


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    Jun 12, 2010 9:21 PM GMT
    DarkSeduction said

    I wont disclose Classified Information icon_lol.gif but I First knew about My Sexual Role when I reached Puberty and by Watching Porn....It really Confirmed my Role of Enjoyment icon_biggrin.gif




    What would we do without porn? icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 9:37 PM GMT
    A1EX saidI've never had sex but...
    ...at first I thought I was going to be a bottom. icon_confused.gif ...but with each passing day I drift farther and farther from that idea... I've just been getting more and more aggressive- (dominating.) icon_confused.gif

    Rather odd.


    Dude, there are dominant bottoms....TRUST ME...I'm one...icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 9:42 PM GMT
    GwgTrunks saidI knew I was mostly a bottom when someone stuck their cock up there and I saw the good kind of stars. That hadn't happened the few times I topped.

    Not that I don't enjoy topping, it's just not nearly as enjoyable as bottoming.


    I LOVE IT!!! BUT IT'S SOOOOOO TRUE....THOSE STARS....SO MAGICAL...SO WONDERFUL...I'M SOOO A BOTTOM!
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    Jun 12, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
    MMmmm Interesting Question. A Top guy once asked me: If you've never tried being a bottom, how do you know you don't like it?

    So I replied: You try it for me, I'll do it for you.

    As he did not, neither did I, but i have to admit he was kind of right. I personally never have being curious about it, so I answer Top, but none the less I've never tried it the other way.
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    Jun 12, 2010 10:25 PM GMT
    The first time I really noticed my dick I knew I was a top. I was about 8 I think. Haven't looked back since