I feel like shit about myself again.

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    Jun 11, 2010 11:45 PM GMT
    I know another pity thread. Well actually I think it is my first pity thread. I don't know why I would do this on a Friday night. I tried to take my height. I think i am really 5'2 without shoes. I have posted on height threads before. My height just really really bothers me. I think it is my one self esteem issue that makes me afraid to talk to other people. I read threads on sites about guys that are 5'10 being midgets and wouldn't go near someone that height.

    I mentioned this before. I have a fetish for tall guys. I love guys 6'4 and up. I don't know why I am attracted to my opposite. I don't think it works the other way around obviously from the other threads. I don't see tall guys being attracted to short guys.

    Sorry I just needed to vent. Not like anyone on this site ever chats with me anyways. So not really expecting a reply.
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    Jun 11, 2010 11:51 PM GMT
    I've met a lot of guys that like short guys. Just keep looking and don't feel bad about your self. I'm 5"7 and I'd hate to be tall. I think it would look gross. It's all about personal preference! There is always someone who will find you to be beautiful and amazing. Again there are many tall guys who like short guys. **HUGGZ**
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    Jun 12, 2010 12:08 AM GMT
    Hi Chris, I don't think that there's anything I could say that would make you feel better. I am sure however that some day you will find peace with who you are and how you look. You'll have fallbacks of course, but in general you will embrace the fact that we can't change our physiques that much. In addition I think it is normal that you are attracted to guys that possess what you'd like to have as well. I have that too… and I think many others also. Put on a sad song and cry your heart out all night long, you’ll feel better tomorrow ;)
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    Jun 12, 2010 12:25 AM GMT

    "I have a fetish for tall guys"

    ....and you know, a lot of them have a fetish for shorter guys. icon_idea.gificon_wink.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 12:37 AM GMT
    You can't change the fact that you're 5'2". But you change the way you perceive yourself as a guy who's 5'2". Self esteem issues can be adjusted. All you need do is start reminding yourself that there's nothing wrong with you.
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    Jun 12, 2010 1:40 AM GMT
    I love short guys.
  • tazzari

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    Jun 12, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    At my age I probably qualify as a troll, but...

    You're cute. And I love short guys. If you were twenty or thirty years older, I'd be after you like a shot. And you're even a skier!

    Everyone has physical issues. But if something doesn't make you bitter or a worse person, it can't hurt you.

    Hang in there, and like yourself for all your good qualities.

    And if you find an aging pill, give me a shout! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    Short guys in wrestling are called fireplugs; all of their weight is concentrated. HOT. Mmmmmmmmmmmmmm. icon_razz.gif
  • Nayro

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    Jun 12, 2010 1:57 AM GMT
    I'm 6'4 and I'd love to be a bit shorter (6' for instance)... I think no1 is satistfied with the way they look, you will just have t live with it I guess.
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    Jun 12, 2010 2:20 AM GMT
    Dont feel bad about your height.....Theres guys like me out there that like the compact version rather than the huge sedans...so live in the moment.
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    Jun 12, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    Height's only a minor detail, and it's something you really can't control you're still a whole person whether you're 3 feet or 7 feet. Tall, short, blonde, brown, white, black. Life's too short to worry about any of that stuff. I have a ton of things about my appearance that I'd change if I could, but I've accepted the fact that I just have to do the best I can with what I've got, and if someone doesn't like it they can go **** a goat (some of them probably do). I don't owe them anything, and they don't owe me anything either for that matter.
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    Jun 12, 2010 2:35 AM GMT
    the idea is to take what you have and push it to its potential.
    and at first you don't need a gym membership for that.
    do you enjoy working out, fitness , cardio .... ?
    with a nice toned body, at 5'2" you'll turn quite a few heads .

    but if you're after the big guys, don't forget some of them ( not all ) only go for reflections of themselves .

  • GQjock

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    Jun 12, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    Yeah ...... it Sucks being me icon_confused.gif

    You're 5'2" ...... is bitchin' about it gonna change anything?
    Probably not right?

    So unless you're planning a trip to Thailand for some tibial implant surgery why not try putting all that energy somewhere else?
    You're a cute guy
    Imagine if you were six feet tall and hideous icon_eek.gif

    We all have limitations and life isn't totally fair but how about tryin to be the best damn 5'2" guy around? icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    All of us saying "there is nothing wrong with you" isn't going to really help you. But you do, on a certain level need to trust us when we say that the first step is self-love.

    You are right, it sucks, but be strong and the love you want will flow in. That is a promise and something to smile about. Use your height to your advantage, be strong and prove that you have more self-esteem and confidence than any 6'1" + Abercrombie model.

    Bien à toi!
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:07 AM GMT
    Just for the record, I believe that good things come in small packages!

    And I like guys of all shapes and sizes...
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    I honestly really couldn't care about height. There was this short guy in high school who I thought was really hot.

    Everyone is self conscious about something.
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    well if you are into guys 6'4" and up you are going to really limit your chances regardless of how tall you are because there are fewer that tall. Maybe you can lower (no pun intended) your standard to just guys taller than you? There are lots of guys that are into short guys or cute guys no matter what their height.
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    No worries. I turn all threads I post in to pity threads.
    No one chats with me either... but I don't let it get to me...
    I feel short most of the time as well- I'm...5'9" -I'm not exactly envious of taller guys but rather jealous... so I don't exactly find them attractive. icon_evil.gif

    unfounded7 saidSelf esteem issues can be adjusted.


    Yeah but it take a lifetime! You can speed up the process with professional help.





    EDIT: I find the slightly less attractive.
  • tony_boost

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    Jun 12, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    Balljunkie saidI love short guys.


    ditto
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    "I have a fetish for tall guys"

    ....and you know, a lot of them have a fetish for shorter guys. icon_idea.gificon_wink.gif


    I love shorter men, unfortunately I'm only 6'1" which puts me out of the OP's league seeing as how I'm 3 inches of 6'4".
  • EricLA

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    Jun 12, 2010 3:27 AM GMT
    Chris,

    I'm 5'5", so I've dealt with some of the same things. But you'll need to come to terms with it. Your height is a circumstance out of your control. There's nothing you can do about it. But what you can control is how you react to it. I know plenty of short guys you have no trouble dating much taller guys because they've gotten over their height. They know they have plenty of other qualities going for them, so they just "own" their lack of height. Insecurity is not an attractive quality. Confidence is.

    Are there going to be guys who are going to dismiss you because you're short? Of course. But there are guys who are going to dismiss you because of your hair color, the color of your skin, your personality, any number of things, whether they're within or without of your control. So, stop letting your height get you down (See what I did there? Height? Down? Nevermind...). Find some way to accept it and work on things that you can control and make yourself attractive that way.

    Eric
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:28 AM GMT
    chris8787 saidMy height just really really bothers me. I think it is my one self esteem issue that makes me afraid to talk to other people.

    Okay, you REALLY have some self-esteem issues and it's not just the height, it's your self-worth. Look at your closing sentence.

    chris8787Not like anyone on this site ever chats with me anyways. So not really expecting a reply.

    No wonder why you're feeling like shit because you MAKE yourself as shitty as possible to yourself and others - and THAT, not the height is a turn-off.

    Appreciate what you DO have. Your health, a roof over your head, a job, HAIR on your head, etc.

    Just let it go and live a little. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:31 AM GMT
    I am under the national average of 5'9" with my height of just under 5'7." When I was younger my height and build were a liability in contact sports. When I played soccer all it took was a quick hip-check to send me super-manning to the side (and I'd always draw the foul whistle lol).

    Would I mind being a bit taller? Of course not. But, I am thankful for the physical features I have been graced with. As previous posters have alluded, being smaller can have distinct advantages in certain sports (wrestling, gymnastics, etc).

    On the whole, height is not a factor in my dating. The guys I've dated seriously have all been taller than me; but I've also gone on dates with guys shorter than me. It's not an issue to me at all, because I can have a satisfying relationship with a person of any height as long as he is on the same path toward physical, spiritual, social, and intellectual improvement.

    Everyone has at least one thing they'd like to change about their physical appearance. In dating it's best to simply have an open mind about such things. I recommend giving a chance to someone that falls outside of what your normal physical standards are as a way to at least moderate the sometimes instinctual aversion to these classes of people. This works. The range of men that fit into the range of what I considered attractive used to be very, very narrow. It was after dating someone (my first boyfriend, of a year) that fell far outside this range that my range was expanded. You can have a great, satisfying (sexually, too) relationship with many different physical types, as long as you're open-minded.
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    Jun 12, 2010 3:34 AM GMT
    I love shorter men. You would have me panting.

    But that's me.

    About you... Is feeling all down about your height gonna change anything? Obviously, no. Enjoy your fun size. And let the men find you. icon_wink.gif
  • neosyllogy

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    Jun 12, 2010 3:39 AM GMT
    Actually there was just a thread on picking guys up and how most guys find it sexy.
    A number of posters commented on preferring to date smaller guys for just such reasons.
    Personally I tend to particularly enjoy height extremes, smaller and much taller (or in the later case, like the idea, no personal experience).

    I wouldn't fret your height.
    Like most features it's about "owning" your look. Lots of hot short guys. If there are fewer than by chance, well then you can just sweep the competition in that segment of the pop. ;)